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I have a wonderful husband who has always been supportive. He loves me for who I am. I love him for who he is.
I had wls first (over 2 years ago) , and he was my biggest cheerleader. He just had his 6 months ago and now I am his cheerleader.
We did struggle in the bedroom because we were both so big before. Things just don't work the same, not to mention how we had no physical stamina.
So in that respect, our relationship has changed 100 percent for the better!
Otherwise, our relationship is no different than it ever was because it has always been a good one!


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there are lots of people here to help you thru 1 day at a time - have you started your liquid diet as of yet? Do you feel hunger all the time? What do you really need at the moment?
me personally and just as frustrated and nervous as you are Amber.

I agree about the nutritionist visits being a waste of time (imo)...most, not all, of us have researched, dieted and know what we should and how we should eat for years as we have fought the weight...its whether we actually do it. Mine consisted of 5 mins of you doing this, you doing that..."yes" ok..see you next time. Its all insurance hoops!

I need to lose 15lbs before getting to the next step for the surgery on my sleeve. I am just feeling discouraged about it. I weighed myself this and I am down some weight but not as much as I would like. I know this is a lifelong thing and I will always struggle with this.
Can you guys give me the pros and the motivation because right now I feel like I cant do this.

I'm still pre-op, finished everything required. So now playing the waiting game on insurance approving. So frustrating.

have been using balsamic dressing almost daily. have been also prepping for the liquid diet to come have 6-76 more weeks before surgery at this point. Been drinking 2 Protein Shakes a day then a meal around 4 pm. good luck with everything

Any kind of movement helps. Walking, shopping at the store, chair exercises, any and all of it help. I think you're on the right track, and you'll definitely get there

I rarely disagree with an opinion on here but on the point of exercise I do. Before surgery I was too disabled to exercise. Staying indoors during the covid years had added lots of weight on my carcass. [ it was a government decision to keep certain people with certain illnesses indoors ] I was too old and too heavy to even begin basic exercises.
After surgery it took a lot of bravery on my part to start walking. Everything scared me after being indoors for 2 years. At about 8 months out and 100lbs down, walking became easier for me.
The only exercise I do is cooking, cleaning, walking, shopping and volunteering in a charity shop for one day a week. So I have done zero exercise and lost 150+ lbs

I'm no longer diabetic. My A1c is now 5.5 and my glucose tends to stay between 107-112 when checked. I'm no longer on any of the meds I was on because all of my numbers are normal. For a sugar substitute, I use Monk Fruit sweetener. I can't stand anything else. I hate the gross taste of everything else. sugar free foods are actually really good these days. I don't use veggie curls to substitute Pasta. There are Keto pasta noodles (and keto bread, which is really good) that I prefer. Normal calorie intake is 2000 calories. I would work on getting yours down to 1600 by surgery time. You will eat A LOT less than that after the surgery, but lowering your calories and carbs will help you drop the weight you need to qualify for the surgery. I would also work on getting your carbs down to 70-80 per day by surgery day. Again, you will be consuming a lot less than that after surgery, but getting them down now will help you later.

This part here is where I struggle and where I have always struggled with diets. I can't stand sugar substitutes. And now, if I want to enjoy many of my favorite foods, I have to deal with them. And while I don't eat a lot of bread or potatoes, I do enjoy pasta- and veggie curls are not the same. I'm sensitive to texture and smell, and a lot of the substitute-oriented foods, whether it's Protein Drinks with artificial sweeteners or cauliflower Pizza Crust, are just texturally different than the real deal.
How is your blood sugar now that you've had the surgery? Are you still considered diabetic? I usually go through 4 18 oz bottles of Water a day as well as 2-4 12 oz glasses, so at least my water intake is good. I've eliminated coffee except for an occasional treat because I have tachycardia, and coffee just makes it worse. As a general rule, I'd rather eat my calories than drink them.
I've started keeping a food log, and I'm trying to keep to under a certain amount of calories a day- about 300 less than I was eating when I first started keeping the log. I know I've got a long way to go; I just was hoping that what I was doing would be enough to allow things to go more slowly. I'm at the very beginning of this process; I have to do six months of a medically supervised diet and lose 30 lbs to qualify for the surgery.

I actually had diabetes when I started the process. My A1c was around 7.6 or so and my glucose levels were usually around the 160-170 rang when I would test. I was on 3 diabetes meds, a cholesterol med, a blood pressure med, 2 anti-inflammatory meds. Not only did having diabetes not delay things, having comorbidities actually helped speed up the approval process for me.
I know you wanted gradual changes to your eating, and to a certain extent you can still have that. But it's important to start getting your mindset and habits changed at least a little before surgery. Once you have it, you have to make drastic changes pretty fast. Better to start now. I would start by eliminating soda and anything carbonated. Get caffeine from coffee (the kind you can make at home) using sugar free sweeteners and low/no calorie Creamers (or almond milk) and tea (personally, I prefer tea). Swap out regular chocolate, candy, popsicles, pudding, etc to the sugar free kinds. Start lowering your carb intake and try cutting down on Pasta, bread, potatoes, etc... There's Keto versions of bread that taste fantastic.
Look at the way the bariatric diets require you to eat (protein first, then veggies, then carbs) and try to plan your meals around that (protein helps you feel full longer). Practice getting in at least 64oz of Water now so you can be used to drinking it a lot. You can still eat yummy foods, just change the way you do it. It's less jarring if you start the process now.