tiffanyb12211

I am celebrating not having a cigarette in 24 hours. My goal is to get myself healthy this year. I have my consultation tomorrow and I said I was going to not pick up another cigarette after tomorrow, but I think I’m going to just try to stick it out today too!

I am celebrating not having a cigarette in 24 hours. My goal is to get myself healthy this year. I have my consultation tomorrow and I said I was going to not pick up another cigarette after tomorrow, but I think I’m going to just try to stick it out today too!

I am celebrating not having a cigarette in 24 hours. My goal is to get myself healthy this year. I have my consultation tomorrow and I said I was going to not pick up another cigarette after tomorrow, but I think I’m going to just try to stick it out today too!

Even good relationships can be tested after this kind of change. This is a life saving and life CHANGING surgery, and a lot of men can't handle that. My first husband was extremely abusive in EVERY way, and we have a son together. It was extremely difficult to leave. My current husband was a lot better for a long time, but after the surgery, that changed. He took good care of me for the first 2-3 weeks, then the snide remarks, being lazy, picking fights, and general assh**e behavior really began.
If you are the one who works, you have to remember that YOU are the one with the power here. I had to remind my husband of that a few times (he doesn't work, either. He also does the cooking and cleaning, and we have our daughter together). When he started getting particularly nasty, I reminded him that I pay the bills, I have the insurance, and I can hire someone to do the things he does around the house (I give him spending money because if i don't, he just takes it). I told him it would cost me about the same but without the aggravation and stress. After a few times, he realized I was serious and has started behaving a little better.
Maybe you can try that. Sometimes they need to know they don't hold as much power as they think they do. The longer you tolerate this treatment, the worse it will get. You have to teach em how to treat ya.

@tiffanyb12211 please do some soul-searching. There is a reason you are not taking what even you think is the obvious action. Ask yourself what you get out of the status-quo. You need to understand that you are changing the very status quo that somehow is making you feel secure in some way.
It seems apparent that professional therapeutic help is critical for you now. Please, get this help now before the status quo actually changes and things become critical and possibly more dangerous.
Take care of yourself and be careful. Perhaps if you deal with this horrible situation now you can help both of you to move to a more positive place.
Good luck,
Tek

I am 39 years old and have been in a relationship with a narcissistic 50 year old who doesn’t work because he chooses to, for 7 years. He does always have dinner ready and the house clean when I get home from work. Our relationship isn’t on the best of terms and when we argue he calls me fat all the time. He feels like he’s right all the time, he puts others down, blames me for everything etc. This year my company switched insurances and now the surgery is covered!!! I’m so excited. But, I have a feeling this relationship will go from bad to worse when i lose the weight. He said he would be supportive but I don’t know. I’m to my wits end almost and thinking of kicking him out of my home that I own. He’s verbally abusive to me and does it in front of my kids, one of which is his. I don’t know if it’s my low self esteem that won’t let me do it or what!! I’m just afraid things will get worse for me after the surgery.