*slim*

Now, good morning all! Im late signing on, but my mother is visiting with us for a few weeks, and between being up at all hours helping her to the bathroom, and stuff, and getting her set for the day as both DH and I are out, this really is my first break. I have such a great respect for those who deal with the elderly leaving them their dignity and treating them with compassion. I love my mother, but I find this personal care very difficult and difficult for her to accept from her daughter. Dh is a real support too, but she doesn't like him to see her after her 'accidents' etc, so it's up to me to get her into the tub etc. And my house is not designed with the amenities she really needs....but I digress.

Now, if I could just get back into the groove on other 'band' things...portion control, exercise....

What an awesome daughter you are.:frown:

Good morning.

Susan, we still love you. You should know that.

Evening everyone! I am up getting ready for work. Well, I am up & sitting here on LBT supposed to be getting ready for work.

Kat-I am so sorry that you had a bad day at work. I am glad that DD got the ball rolling on that SOB of an ex she has. I am pulling for things to work out in her favor.

re 2010 get together-I am good for any week next summer as long as I know by the time we start our vacation pick at the end of October.

Luluc-I think heartfire hit the nail on the head. Your scent is all over your shoes. The new puppy is just letting you know how much he loves you by eating your shoes. :wub:

Ebony-I am so sorry about the job situation. Hopefully something will come through for you soon.

Beth & krtork-how was school?

Congrats on the scale victory Beth! :biggrin:

I know that I have missed some. I am truly sorry!

Just thought I would say this again... Welcome back Tap!:party::w00t:

Glouc, Mac, Susan, Plain, SMS, KC, BBK, Hearfire, Brandy, SNT, and every other name that I KNOW that I am forgetting, HI! (If I left out a name in this post, please know that I am just tired and forgetful, it is not that I don't care )

Today-

B-1/2 scrambler

S-oreo klondike (the last one!)

L-chicken stew (think pot pie w/no crust)

D-chicken stew w/biscuit

PJTS (posting just to say) – hi!

For those who missed me, thanks, I missed you too.

You were missed so much!

Holy Crap it's TAP and that's quite a post rofl

Isn't it great?!?!:blushing:

It was one truckload of posts I had to read to catch up! I'm sure I missed some topics, but think I hit most of them.

You did an excellent job.:biggrin:

I think you got quite the umbrella of posts on there.... were all trainwrecks haha

Ain't that the truth!

big smile crossed my face seeing you post again.

so glad your back~!!!!!!!!!!!

Big smile and a tear.:biggrin:

I can 2nd that for Lu I had to listen to her complain about your lack of presence!!!

Jk - Missed ya Tap.

We really did miss you tap!

Kat-I can't believe the state that your DGD was in when brought home. I was sick to my stomach reading it too. The thought of her being sunburned and rubbed raw in such a sensitive part is appalling! You all should take pictures and document it all. He isn't taking care of things financially and now he isn't taking care of her physically???? I think your daughter is right to limit is visitation. I wish that we could do to adults what they have done to children. Let his a$$ burn outside like that and then rub his manly areas raw. I think beating is too good for him. As far as your MIL situation, I don't think it is being petty of you to at least expect her to spell your name right after having been told so many times. I like SNT idea of embarrassing her with the misspelling. Or pointing it out and saying something to the effect of "bless her heart, she can't remember how to spell my name after all of this time".:ohmy:

Heartfire-don't wait too long with being too tight. I hope you feel better soon.

SNT-I wasn't going to call for bail money. I was hoping that you were going to be here to help!:wink2: Then we both would need bail money.

Krtork-Have a great first back to school. Hopefully your little bites will be good for Breakfast. I have made something similar and had them for breakfast and lunch. They were great out of the freezer too.

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PJTP-I am going to have some me time today. Or at least I hope I am. DH and DS will be gone. My only problem will be my own mom. I love her, but she doesn't understand that on my off day, I really just want to veg. I volunteered to work 3rd shift tomorrow (tonight) so I plan to veg all day. I hope everyone has an awesome Monday!:wink2: I am sure I will be on here all day so don't be surpised if you see multiple posts. Sorry.

I suggest the Old MIL Hex...we can prolly find some eye of newt on eBay. I used the last of mine on a doctor hex just last week...:wink2:

:lol:Unfortunately, I think that witch had witch's brew for lunch.< img src="https://s.bariatricpal.com/uploads/emoticons/default_smile.png" alt=":)" srcset="https://s.bariatricpal.com/uploads/emoticons/smile@2x.png 2x" width="20" height="20" /> The eye of newt would just be seasoning for her.:ohmy:

Oh holy hell... as you're telling me this, I'm thinking in my head, "Isn't this the same b*tch that borrows all manner of stuff from y'all?? And she can take SD SHOPPING??"

Lordy, Slim, I think I needs to come-a down there. Show her the err of her ways.

Come on! You want me to draw a map to her house?:wink2:

I've been dealing with a stomach ache that I've had since Fri. night. We had to postpone celebrating my dad's real b'day. I dunno what's wrong. I think I'm somewhat better now though. Maybe I just needed a day in bed. :ohmy:

Hope you all are hanging in there and that Monday brings you some peace. :wink2:

TGP

I hope you feel better soon. Hopefully Monday will bring us all some peace. I will at least have a day off. Alone. No husband. No child. Just me. Can you tell I am excited?

fine line of standing your ground & not being disresptful (latter took a long time). big key - Hubby had to step up and deal or i was, and it wasn't going to be as kind.

it's his relationship to own - not mine.

ebony - take it nice/slow; actions/behaviours beat any words in MO.

I have tried to stay out of the situation, but I refuse to when it affects my son. He doesn't deserve the crap.

Slim I have been angry with my MIL over a certain issue for several years....it is minor in the overall view of things, but to me it constitutes an entire lack of respect. Something I have always given her.

That is a problem. Then again, I am not sure MIL even knows how to spell my name (wrong or otherwise). She has never wished given me a card or called to wish me happy birthday. Heck, she doesn't call to wish DS happy birthday either. Once, she came here to give DS a card. She stuck it in the door and left. We were here!

Did I miss something good -- er, bad?

I posted about MIL and deleted it. She is just such a b*tch. She went out of town to see SIL and SD. Mostly to be with SD (step daughter). They spent quite a bit of time together shopping and things. She doesn't call my son. When she calls here asking for something, she doesn't ask about DS. She called on her way home from out of town to announce that she was bringing SD back with her. We knew that it was really she was announcing that she was bringing SD to us. DH decided that he wasn't going to stand for it. He was talking to me about it and asked if it bothered me. I wasn't really responding. At first I told him that I wasn't going to say anything since we can't really talk about his mom. He kept after me until I finally told him that although I was upset about her just assuming it was ok to bring SD here to us, the part that bothered me the most was that she was doing all of this for SD, but can't be bothered with DS. It's just wrong. DS felt so bad because he knew that his sister was here to be with his grandmother. He knew (because SD to told him in great detail) all about the shopping that they did all last week. He knew about the football game and parade that they went to together. He knew all about the "fun" things that MIL planned for SD while she was here. The same woman that begs for dishwashing liquid from me, has money to do all of these things with SD but can't call DS?:wink2: I just don't get it. He sees it. He is hurt by it. DH has been thinking over it. He mentioned it again to me, but DS walked up. I don't know what, if anyting, DH will say to his mom. I just couldn't sit back and not say anything about how she treats my son.

So sorry that your MIL is such a pain. I am lucky, mine lives in WI and we are in OR. They don't have much to do with DH, in fact they did not come to our wedding, so we don't have to deal with them very often. When or if they do call, DH is in a mood the rest of the day!

DH gets upset, but then "forgets" that he claimed he wasn't going to do it anymore. He has slowly been cutting her off on some of the things. He stopped buying her cigs. He stopped giving her some of his. Now if he would just stop it all. Maybe she would move.

LOVE puppy breath - my crack:)

she's already a trip!

slim, i forgot one thing DH told me a few yrs back that changed the course of how we deal w/MIL and FIL ( i should say FIL is just a miserable man).

he told me, she will never love me - might grow to like, so i should quit trying so hard. so i did, i mean i had them over every wkend, cooked (MIL even showed up w/her own tupperware for leftovers). but they are users, and don't value the adult choices of their adult children - so therefore both their adult children have chosen to limit their time w/their parents.

10+yrs together, kat - never ; ever got a card for b day - guarantee they have no idea when it is.

I used to be that way when DS was first born. It didn't take long for me to get the hint. She would call me to tell all about the things she was doing for SD and her mom, but would see me struggling. I will never forget when DH was still living with his mom. He asked to have DS spend the night. Well, his mom had asked for SD. When his mom saw that DS was there, she had DH send DS back home because SHE wanted SD. She has always made a difference between them. She only acted like she wanted to have something to do with DS when SD first moved out of town. By then, it was too late. DS was no longer hungering for her attention. It's a shame when child makes excuses for an adult in their life. He does that with her.

Not me. I have my own self-serving reasons for wanting to read about her. That way I don't feel alone. :ohmy:

You are not alone.

Sorry you aren't feeling well. Hope you are doing better today!

Thanks. I am doing much better today. I was starving all day, and I have eaten like a pig! I do believe I have made up for my lack of calories yesterday.

B-coffee w/torani Syrup, breyers mint chocolate chip yogurt cup (these are so good!)

L-fried clam strips, 2 french fries, 1 bite of cole slaw

S-oreo klondike bar:blushing:

D-deli ham & cheese egg white omlet

take no shit, but w/a smile????

Can you teach me?:wink2: Thankfully, DS is not hurting for "grandmas" because I have a couple of aunts that never had children. As far as they are concerned, he is just as much their grandchild as he is my mom's. It just chaps my enormous cheeks that MIL treats my son this way and then expects me to want to do things for her. That's just bulls**t!

Before the show, we were sitting in the parking lot and H wanted to get all cuddly - I wasn't having it. Told him to keep his distance - and for a while he did, but kept trying to convince me it was all okay. :ohmy:

He was very attentive throughout the show and afterwards...felt a bit like old times when I was very happy with him and everything...weird. Why now? Would have been really easy to slide back into treating him like nothing happened - but it did! I can't just flip a switch and go back to the way things were - I'm not wired that way. He's been very attentive all weekend, very nice and very cuddly. Makes it tough when I either ignore it or push him away.

I think it was krtork that said he might be feeling like he's useless - no need to defend me or "slay any dragons" on my behalf...maybe that's it - my independence is making him feel threatened. I've often told him if he wanted a clinging vine, I was NOT his girl...guess now I'm showing it more...I dunno

Men are strange beings. It is very funny how once they decide things are supposed to be ok, we are just to fall in line. I can understand your being wary of the situation right now. Take your time and continue to think things through. We have your back girlfriend.:wink2:

slim - you erased your msg again. read it on the treadmill this am, and it's not there now....

sad for your son!

Thanks Luluc. I know that you all get tired of reading about my MIL drama. I typed it all out and got it off my chest, then I deleted again. She is just such a piece of work!:wink2: I could write about her for months!

How cute Fanny! I love themed parties like that.

Morning everyone! I hope that everyone has a wonderful Sunday.

****rant alert****

I really hate my MIL. GRRRRRR

***end rant***

how is everyone?

saw you are tight, slim. is everything ok?

i have my "second" fill in about a week. hoping to feel some restriction with this fill.

Hi punkster. I hope your fill goes well. I am not sure what is going on with me. I am thinking it is sinus drainage causing me to feel so bad. I need to get to the pharmacy and get some sudafed. That seems to be the only thing that dries my drainage. I have a netti pot and it helps, but it doesn't stop it all. I woke up hungry this morning (which I haven't done in a while), so we shall see what happens. If it keeps up, I am going to have to schedule a slight unfill until the drainage stops.

BBK-I am so glad that Faith is home and doing good.

I hope everyone had a great Saturday.

Good night!

I'm looking into a new surgeon this coming week. Hopefully I'll like him and we can get going on a new surgery date. I really was having bad feelings about the other guy. This time, if I hear warning bells, I'll listen. My fingers are crossed that I don't have to repeat all the pre-op tests. It would be kinda dumb. I just did them all on 8/3. I just want to get going. I hate waiting around.

Hope you all are having a good weekend. An old friend says to say hey to all of you and he's thinking about ya. This friend shall remain nameless...at least for the next 2 months.

TPG

Good luck with the surgeon search. Also, tell the old friend I said hi.:wub:

I am too tight today. I haven't been able to eat all day

B-coffee w/torani Syrup, breyers mint chocolate chip yogurt

L- 1/2 chicken wing (it didn't stay down)

S-ice cream

D-grits (didn't stay down)

BBK praying that Faith is doing better.

TPG..what is going on with your Dr?

Thank you all so much. I miss you all really badley. I checked into getting just internet and it ranges from almost $60.00 up. I told them to forget it. I wanted the coupon price for $20.00. But that is if I get the package. Go jump in the lake! Thats what I thought. So untill I can find something in my price range I guess I will be without. I will have my DD update ya'll after the surgery. Sorry about 2 types of print, I am on a laptop. I am totally at a loss! lol

Hello everyone! Today is DGD's b-day she is 6. So I am able to be on the puter at DD house. The one that lives near me has had her internet shut off also. So I have to wait till I can go some where else to use it.

Update on DBIL. They put a trach in on Tues. Said he can't get another one (this is #2). Still in ICU. He might get to go to a room next week.

My surgery date has been changed to Sept 24th. He will be taking out all of the left thyroid. If it is non cancerous he won't touch the right side.

Ipray yall are well and getting jobs. Etc.....:wub:

It's good to hear from you. I am continuing to send prayers your way for you and your family. I pray that the surgery goes well, and that it isn't cancer.

Here is the link to the Carlene post. You will die laughing!

http://www.lapbandtalk.com/f18/hi-im-carlene-i-dont-know-where-start-101294/

:frown::blink:That had to be a joke. That couldn't have been a real person... Could it?:w00t:

Where can I find the post by Charlene?

Yes, please post a link. Inquiring minds would like to know.

Hi everyone! I hope that everyone is having a wonderful weekend.

yesterday

B-coffee w/torani Syrup, 1 cup crab salad

S-klondike bar :frown:

L-1 cup crab salad, 2 saltines

D-1 chicken leg, baked red potatoes

S-carrot cake

I was feeling pretty stressed today and my poor snack choices show it.

I think we should all look at ourselves as successes. I cannot fathom how much weight I would have gained had I not gotten my band. I haven't lost as much weight as I would have liked, but I am still so proud of myself. I think we have all accomplished so much. We still have the potential for even more greatness!

Ebony-(((((hugs))))) I have no words of wisdom. I think the other ladies have hit on some very good points. We will be there for you no matter what you decide.