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I am exactly where you are right now. Soooo discouraged. It's kind of a catch 22 for me. I am depressed by the way my body looks from the weight loss (had lost as much as 92, gained 20 back) and my arms, breasts and stomach look hideous. I am newly single and have been dating, but get so self conscious when a man sees me naked. So, I revert to my old comforting tools: crunchy salty things and sweets. Ben & Jerry's goes down real easy. My insurance won't cover a nutritionist unless I am diabetic, which I am not. I feel like I need some kind of guidance and support to get back on track. I wish you well on your journey back, and please keep us posted on your new progress. We all need some encouragement from time to time.

I am here to chat, talk, lean on, cry to, etc. If you live on LI or in Queens, we can easily get together. I have been banded 14 months. Send me a message and let's work through this together.

I have recently returned to NY and would love to join this group! Just what I need...

Hi and congrats on your weight loss! Do you date woman a little older?

Hi all. 42 year old newly single woman here. Banded in July 08 in West Palm Beach, FL. Just moving back to NY after 8 year absence. Would love to meet other Banded singles. Living on LI. Not afraid to cross the Nassau County border.

So, I am newly single since my husband found an old girlfriend, and I am ready to re-enter the dating scene. The problem is, my body is melting and I am very, very self conscious. I am a very sexual person, and enjoy a very healthy sex life (or I would like to again) but the thought of being naked in front of a new person makes me want to scream. I am down about 60 lbs., and everything just went South immediately. I am still pretty far from plastic surgery time, but I will explode if I don't "get some" soon. I just don't know if I can take my clothes off in front of a new man without feeling disgusted. Any thoughts, ladies?

I am newly single and VERY self conscious about my "melting body syndrome" with skin hanging loose. How do you men deal with this in your own personal experience? I am scared to death that some man might want to see me naked, and it's not pretty. Do men feel this self conscious? My ex-husband didn't seem to mind because he saw me as it was happening, so it wasn't like he got this big shock because in clothes I looked like a 7 or 8, but naked I was a 2. Just wanting the male perspective. Thanks, guys.

See, here was the deal: I've been feeling sorry for myself because my body is melting, I feel unattractive, and I left the plans in his lap. He was going to make reservations at an exclusive restaurant that we both love, and that I haven't been to since being banded 6 months ago. I really wanted him to do SOMETHING to make me feel special: ask for a sugar free dessert, have a rose waiting for me, something. I knew I could get an appetizer and eat some of his swordfish, which is one thing they are known for. I, in turn, planned for some special surprises AFTER dinner. I bought a new dress, under garments, etc. For me to shop right now is a huge deal. I hate my odd size, nothing fits right, and I am recently unemployed. We have a gift card for this restaurant. He had 2 weeks to make reservations, he waited until today, and it all fell apart. Now I feel even worse than I did. I just needed someone to take care of me for a change, and make me and my needs important. So, now we are doing nothing, I lost the babysitter to his nastiness, and am becoming more bitter. It's a pity party to the extreme. It really is the first one I've had since being banded. I am done whining now.

Mine waited until the next day to hurt, and now it's all kinds of pretty colors.

I actually saw an IMPROVEMENT in my periods. They are less heavy and last slightly less time than before surgery.

I have the added headache of being under dental construction, so chewing is difficult. I can't do most beef, salad, pasta and bread are evil to me, I won't even get egg salad or tuna with celery in it (never been a fan of celery, but now it is a definite no-no) and I sometimes have trouble with fish. My food must be moist - I always ask for a side of low fat dressing, salsa, marinara or the like to dip my food. Oddly enough, my episodes fo getting food stuck usually happen when I need a fill. Strange, huh?

Does anyone know if there is a way to get ins. to pay for a tummy tuck if you have fibroids removed? As long as they're in there . . .