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I have lost two pounds in the week and a half since surgery. It’s rather discouraging at this point. I’m trying to follow the diet as best I can, though I have had a few missed meals. My big problem is that I am taking two stool softeners together as directed by the doctor, and I haven’t had a bowl movement since surgery. It doesn’t cause me any discomfort but I’m quite worried. I’m going to call them again on Monday.

I'm wondering what in the world makes me think I can do this. What makes me think I can keep to the diet post op? I'm so lazy when it comes to cooking. I don't have a lot of spoons where that is concerned. I don't have room in my kitchen. I am not a good cook and I hate making anything vaguely complicated. I was ordering takeout two times a week until recently because I don't like cooking. Now I have to learn this whole new way of cooking and the mere thought stresses me out. I need cookbooks for idiots with no cooking skills, and I need more spoons. I hate cooking. I'm going to hate trying new recipes even more.
I know, I know. If I think I can't, then I can't. But I'm really torturing myself over this right now. I don't want to fail. I don't want to mess it up, but let's face it. I have failed every diet lifestyle change I have ever embarked on, even though I told myself that the change HAD to be forever. I don't know what the hell my problem is, and why I can't do it, but I haven't been able to do it in 41 years, and I don't know what makes me think that this time will be different. I read about people experiencing regain and it scares me. I have been fat my entire life. I started dieting when I was eight. I'm particularly miserable right now on this liver shrink diet, and I don't know what to do about it.
I know my diet won't consist of the same thing every single freaking day the way it does right now, nor will it be two shakes a day which leave me hungry or a salad that leaves me hungry. But it's reminiscent of every diet I've ever done, where I was hungry all the time, and eventually cracked. The smaller stomach will help with that.
I am, however, worried about my own proclivities. Just a small cheat here, just another cheat there, and the next thing I know I've undone any good I've done with the surgery and gained some or all of it back. I need someone to lie to me and tell me I can do this. That I'm not going to be a huge failure at this the way I've been for my entire life with dieting lifestyle changes. You're not a failure until you give up, bla bla bla. Maybe it's time to give up. Just keep in my tiny world of work and home until I die young because that's what I deserve.
I mean, why would I change the way I'm eating permanently? Eating garbage almost works. It almost fills that void, and if you have something that almost works, and maybe next time will be the time it works, why would you stop for something completely unknown?
I'm utterly miserable on this diet every day come dinner time and for the rest of the evening. I don't want to be utterly miserable on the new way of eating forever, nor do I want to do the inevitable thing of falling off the wagon and regaining some or all of the weight.
Maybe I'm just not meant to be a normal weight. I haven't been my entire life, what makes me think I can start now?
I know, I'm feeling awfully sorry for myself at the moment. Not sure what to do about it. Or if anything can or should be done about it? Am I going through all of this and spending all of this money for nothing? Should I even bother? I'm not just down about it. I'm in a panic about failing. So yeah. Lie to me. Tell me everything is going to be ok, and I'm not a perpetual eff-up.

I am now on the Loser’s Bench. So far it’s been decent. Low pain (yay!) but I am dizzy, even hours after the anesthesia wore off. Lying down make me nauseous. My BP is up, where it is usually pretty normal. My blood sugar was elevated and they gave me an insulin shot. I’m not super worked up about it, but I’d like to hear others’ stories. How normal is this?

I have lost two pounds in the week and a half since surgery. It’s rather discouraging at this point. I’m trying to follow the diet as best I can, though I have had a few missed meals. My big problem is that I am taking two stool softeners together as directed by the doctor, and I haven’t had a bowl movement since surgery. It doesn’t cause me any discomfort but I’m quite worried. I’m going to call them again on Monday.

Hello!
My surgery date is 9/8. I'm trying to get ready for at least the pre-op diet (I know my tastes may change post-op), and I'm wondering if anyone's used the Aldi brand "Elevation" shakes? I've tried one and they're not too bad, and they seem to be comparable to the shakes they have at Walmart. They have 30 grams of Protein and 1 gram of sugar, which sounds alright. Also, can you mix them with anything? I'm wondering if I could mix the vanilla one with coffee or something to make a "fancy" drink.
I'm excited and nervous, and I just want to be sure I'm doing everything right!

I am now on the Loser’s Bench. So far it’s been decent. Low pain (yay!) but I am dizzy, even hours after the anesthesia wore off. Lying down make me nauseous. My BP is up, where it is usually pretty normal. My blood sugar was elevated and they gave me an insulin shot. I’m not super worked up about it, but I’d like to hear others’ stories. How normal is this?

I am now on the Loser’s Bench. So far it’s been decent. Low pain (yay!) but I am dizzy, even hours after the anesthesia wore off. Lying down make me nauseous. My BP is up, where it is usually pretty normal. My blood sugar was elevated and they gave me an insulin shot. I’m not super worked up about it, but I’d like to hear others’ stories. How normal is this?

I am now on the Loser’s Bench. So far it’s been decent. Low pain (yay!) but I am dizzy, even hours after the anesthesia wore off. Lying down make me nauseous. My BP is up, where it is usually pretty normal. My blood sugar was elevated and they gave me an insulin shot. I’m not super worked up about it, but I’d like to hear others’ stories. How normal is this?

I am now on the Loser’s Bench. So far it’s been decent. Low pain (yay!) but I am dizzy, even hours after the anesthesia wore off. Lying down make me nauseous. My BP is up, where it is usually pretty normal. My blood sugar was elevated and they gave me an insulin shot. I’m not super worked up about it, but I’d like to hear others’ stories. How normal is this?

Thanks. I’m coping better now but I could kill a pizza. Definitely hangry sometimes. Sorry you’re having trouble. Solidarity!

September 8th here! I'm on day 4 of the liver shrink diet and I'm coping worse than I thought I would.

I'm wondering what in the world makes me think I can do this. What makes me think I can keep to the diet post op? I'm so lazy when it comes to cooking. I don't have a lot of spoons where that is concerned. I don't have room in my kitchen. I am not a good cook and I hate making anything vaguely complicated. I was ordering takeout two times a week until recently because I don't like cooking. Now I have to learn this whole new way of cooking and the mere thought stresses me out. I need cookbooks for idiots with no cooking skills, and I need more spoons. I hate cooking. I'm going to hate trying new recipes even more.
I know, I know. If I think I can't, then I can't. But I'm really torturing myself over this right now. I don't want to fail. I don't want to mess it up, but let's face it. I have failed every diet lifestyle change I have ever embarked on, even though I told myself that the change HAD to be forever. I don't know what the hell my problem is, and why I can't do it, but I haven't been able to do it in 41 years, and I don't know what makes me think that this time will be different. I read about people experiencing regain and it scares me. I have been fat my entire life. I started dieting when I was eight. I'm particularly miserable right now on this liver shrink diet, and I don't know what to do about it.
I know my diet won't consist of the same thing every single freaking day the way it does right now, nor will it be two shakes a day which leave me hungry or a salad that leaves me hungry. But it's reminiscent of every diet I've ever done, where I was hungry all the time, and eventually cracked. The smaller stomach will help with that.
I am, however, worried about my own proclivities. Just a small cheat here, just another cheat there, and the next thing I know I've undone any good I've done with the surgery and gained some or all of it back. I need someone to lie to me and tell me I can do this. That I'm not going to be a huge failure at this the way I've been for my entire life with dieting lifestyle changes. You're not a failure until you give up, bla bla bla. Maybe it's time to give up. Just keep in my tiny world of work and home until I die young because that's what I deserve.
I mean, why would I change the way I'm eating permanently? Eating garbage almost works. It almost fills that void, and if you have something that almost works, and maybe next time will be the time it works, why would you stop for something completely unknown?
I'm utterly miserable on this diet every day come dinner time and for the rest of the evening. I don't want to be utterly miserable on the new way of eating forever, nor do I want to do the inevitable thing of falling off the wagon and regaining some or all of the weight.
Maybe I'm just not meant to be a normal weight. I haven't been my entire life, what makes me think I can start now?
I know, I'm feeling awfully sorry for myself at the moment. Not sure what to do about it. Or if anything can or should be done about it? Am I going through all of this and spending all of this money for nothing? Should I even bother? I'm not just down about it. I'm in a panic about failing. So yeah. Lie to me. Tell me everything is going to be ok, and I'm not a perpetual eff-up.

I am officially overweight with a BMI of 29.8! Started at a BMI of 53 at my HW and 46 at SW.

I also have zombie apocalypse fears. And I agree—if something goes wrong and I die, I’ll be too dead to care. It’s like the bomb squad guy who says he’s successful or it’s not his problem anymore.

Hello, I am pre-op and I have a “habit” I need to change. Right now, my 10 year old niece and I meet over Zoom once a week and simultaneously try a snack from a different part of the world. I ship it from Amazon the week before so we both get it in time.

I’m wondering what else we can do. This bonding and shared experience has been really great during COVID and I don’t want to lose the shared experience, but it’s not sustainable as I approach surgery. I’ve thought of toys as a replacement, but neither of us really need toys every week. books would be great but I don’t want to pressure her into reading by a deadline or anything like that, especially while she is in school.

What else could we do that we could share, without mixing unhealthy foods into it?

Thank you all for answering my questions that I’ve posed so far!

Hi!
I just got my surgery date today (Sept. 8!) and my mind is spinning with all kinds of things, everything from "can I afford Vitamins forever?" to "what should I take to the hospital?" I even wrote a blog post about some of my fears, https://amiabutterfly.blogspot.com/2021/07/hey-yall.html trying to get them all out of me. What worries did you have, rational or irrational?
Also, I will be in the hospital Wednesday night and Thursday night, going home on Friday of that week. The hospital is a bit far away, and I'm wondering what's a reasonable amount for my husband to stick around the hospital for? It's not that I don't want him there! But I was thinking he could stay for the surgery, and seeing me up to my room on Wednesday, go home Wednesday night, and then come back for me Friday? I'm not sure there'd be anything for him to do on Thursday, other than hang out with me being half asleep. Did you need the support? Or were you fine on your own? We have a dog, and I don't want to leave the dog on her own, or at a kennel too long (she's old and I feel bad for her). So I was thinking we'd leave the dog at the kennel Tuesday into Wednesday and that would be the only time she had to sleep over if we did that.
Sorry for thinking out loud, I'm just wondering what's reasonable and what's too much of a stretch?
Thank you for your responses, and generally being lovely people with my last post.

I'm not sure I had a tipping point. I think it was cumulative. But I sort of put it out of my mind for a while, because my old insurance didn't pay for it. My husband's insurance through work does, so I switched from my work's insurance to his, when he got his new job. I gave up after my last diet. I just threw my hands in the air and said "well, this is me, I guess." Even though the insurance is more expensive through his work (it's $660 a month for our share, versus the $100 I was paying at my job), I'm still grateful for the opportunity. (I'm pre-op)

Thank you!

Hi,
I've recently gotten through The Big Book on the Gastric Bypass, and I felt pretty secure in my decision to go through with it (my first appointment with the surgeon is July 8th). But a friend went on a diatribe, and now looking for more information. A few of the things she said:
-That people who've had weight loss surgery often have health problems because of the surgery (I know problems happen, but not at which percentages, etc)
-That these health problems lead to untimely death, such as heart failure from the low calorie diet, and that these deaths are not reported as being connected to the WLS, so the number of deaths from WLS appear lower than they are
-That the resulting reduced calorie intake is a starvation diet, and that's what leads to things like heart problems.
The Big Book on the Gastric Bypass had SOME statistics, but I felt it really could have had a lot more in the way of hard numbers. I'm wondering if anyone can point me to some data that might shed light on these points.
Thank you in advance for your help.

Thank you!

Valid point.

Thank you!