Jader

I had my surgery last friday and I am so thirsty. I can't wait for the next cup of Water. It's real and it's aggressive, but was a dream coming true.

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I had my surgery last friday and I am so thirsty. I can't wait for the next cup of Water. It's real and it's aggressive, but was a dream coming true.

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I’m sure you mean well, but telling someone who just essentially had their dreams shattered and is recovering from surgical pain (with no surgery) is not likely going to research cognitive behavioral theory.

I am sorry for your troubles and can only imagine the tears and frustration. Although not something you want to hear at this time, your feelings about how and why the decision to stop surgery was made are not relevant. Ask for a copy of the surgical report which should provide details. Give yourself time for the strong emotions to pass and then make a clear-headed decision on how to proceed.

I'm so sorry!! I have heard of this happening to people who don't follow the pre-op diet, but even then it seems rare. Only you know if you did everything you were supposed to do. If you followed your instructions to a T, then tell your surgeon that, and tell him that you need to make sure this isn't going to happen again next time. If you weren't perfect on the pre-op diet, then you know to be perfect next time. Heck either way, you need to be perfect next time.
As for losing another 20-30 lbs, I would white knuckle it, do mostly Protein Shakes, and basically live on the pre-op diet for the next 2 months.
I'm so sorry, and can only imagine your frustration! I would be in tears also. Lots of HUGS!!!

June 9th 2021 was my surgery date. My fiancé and my family were so elated. “You finally get to start you life again”, they said. I was ready to bloody do this! Surgery was supposed to start at 11am and then got pushed back severely due to an emergency the surgeon had to deal with. My surgery didn’t commence until 9:30pm that day. I...was still ready but everyone was anxious and worried the surgeon would be exhausted and what not. Well not 30 minutes after, the surgery was aborted leaving me with six incisions and a pool of tears and anguish. My liver was too big to navigate the surgeon says. I did the pre-op diet. I DID it!!! What f**king gives? Now I did all this for nothing! He tells me lose 20-30 pounds then come back. Oh, it’s that easy, huh? I gotta lose more goddamn weight. Do you know how hard it was to lose the necessary amount to even get this f**king far? In the heat of the moment it just felt insincere of this guy to say such things and just leave me in my pool of tears saying “it was hard for me too”. Haha I don’t doubt that after doing another surgery right after this one for 12 hours straight but it is t about you. This was supposed to be it. Now look at me. 6 incisions, one bleeding out, 6 new ugly scars and nothing to show for any of it but more starvation. More misery. More depressed and sadness. How am I to recover from all this? I don’t want to quit but I’m so tired. I don’t want to do this anymore. I mean no blood tests indicated a fatty liver at all. No abdominal scan was done to indicate that as well. Mom wants me to sue. My finances mom wants me to talk to a malpractice lawyer. I just hate everyone and everything. I’m filled with so much shame. To be honest I know he may have made the right decision but I still hate him for how unsincere it all felt. I am so distraught and I cannot stop crying. I may not have another chance at this for awhile. So much was riding on this. So f**king much. I waited so so long for this second chance.

I'm so freaking excited for all of us!!!! Made it halfway through my 2 week liquid diet. Days 3/4 were brutal but its getting easier!

After a long six months, I finally received my surgery date for Wednesday June 9th. I'm absolutely thrilled! Anyone else joining me in June?