Mary Jenks

I'm so so very sorry your so-called friends spoke to and treated you this way. If they are truly your friend they will understand when you tell them they are either for you or against you, but they cannot be both. And if they continue to be against you they'll have to live without you!

I'm so so very sorry your so-called friends spoke to and treated you this way. If they are truly your friend they will understand when you tell them they are either for you or against you, but they cannot be both. And if they continue to be against you they'll have to live without you!

I'm so so very sorry your so-called friends spoke to and treated you this way. If they are truly your friend they will understand when you tell them they are either for you or against you, but they cannot be both. And if they continue to be against you they'll have to live without you!

I'm so so very sorry your so-called friends spoke to and treated you this way. If they are truly your friend they will understand when you tell them they are either for you or against you, but they cannot be both. And if they continue to be against you they'll have to live without you!

The following is a list of abbreviations commonly used on this board.
ACL = Anterior cruciate ligament
AGB = Adjustable gastric banding
AMRAP = As Many Rounds As Possible (crossfit)
AT = Aspiration Therapy
BB = belly button
bc = because
BCBS = Blue Cross/Blue Shield
BDD = Body Dysmorphic Disorder
BED = Binge Eating Disorder
bf = best friend
BM = bowel movement
BMI = Body Mass Index
bp = blood pressure
BPD = Borderline Personality Disorder or Biliary Pancreatic Diversion
bs = blood sugar
btw = by the way
C25K = Couch Potato to Running 5K
CBT = cognitive-behavioral therapy
CC = common channel
c diff = clostridium difficile
cos or cuz = because
CPAP = continuous positive airway pressure
CRNP = certified registered nurse practitioners
CT = Computed Tomography (commonly called CAT Scan)
cw = current weight
CXR = Chest X-Ray
DDD = degenerative disc disease
Dr. = doctor
DS = Dumping Syndrome or Duodenal Switch
EBT = Endoscopic Bariatric Therapies
EGD = Esophagogastroduodenoscopy
EKG = Electrocardiography
ER = emergency room
ESG = Endoscopic Sleeve Gastroplasty
ff = fat free
f/u = follow up
GB = gastric bypass
GERD = gastroesophageal reflux disease
GI = gastrointestinal
GIF = Gastric Intrinsic Factor
GNC = General Nutrition Corporation store
GP = general practitioner or family doctor
HBP = high blood pressure
hr = heart rate
hw = highest weight
ICU = Intensive Care Unit
Idk = I don’t know
IGB = intragastric balloons
IF = Intrinsic Factor
IMHO = in my humble (honest) opinion
IMO = in my opinion
IUI = Intrauterine insemination
LAP Band = Laparoscopic Adjustable Gastric Band
LES = lower esophageal sphincter
lol = laughing out loud
LSG = Laparoscopic Sleeve Gastrectomy
med = medicine
MFP = my fitness pal
MGB = Mini Gastric Bypass
msg = message
NAFLD = nonalcoholic fatty liver disease
NASH = Nonalcoholic steatohepatitis
nf = non fat
NG = Nasogastric
NP = nurse practitioner
NSAIDS = Non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drug
NSV = non-Scale victory (“scale” means “weight scale”)
NUT = nutritionist
OA = Overeaters Anonymous
omw = on my way
Onederland = a magical place or destination for those trying to lose weight. It might correspond to attaining a weight in the hundreds or losing a hundred pounds.
op = operation
OSA = Obstructive sleep Apnea
OTC = Over the counter
Oz = Australia
PB = Productive Burps
PCOS = Polycystic Ovary Syndrome
PCP = Primary Care Physician
PICC= Peripherally Inserted Central Catheter
PM = private message (email)
PMS = premenstrual syndrome
POSE = Primary Obesity Surgery Endolumenal
postop or post–op = post-operation or post-surgery
PPI = Proton Pump Inhibitors
ppl = people
preop or pre-op = pre-operation or pre-surgery
PTSD = Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder
PVC = Premature ventricular contractions
RA = Rheumatoid arthritis
RH = reactive hypoglycemia
RN = registered nurse
RNY = Roux-en-Y
RTD = ready to drink
Rx = Prescription medicine
RYGB = Roux-en-Y gastric bypass
SADI-S = single anastomosis duodeno–ileal bypass with sleeve gastrectomy
s/f or sf = sugar free
SG = Sleeve gastrectomy
SIPS = stomach intestinal pylorus-sparing surgery
smh = shaking my head, scratching my head
SO = significant other
SOB = shortness of breath
st = stones (a unit of weight measurement)
sw = weight at surgery
tmi = too much information
TPN = total parenteral nutrition
TT = Tummy Tuck
TTC = trying to conceive
Ty = Thank you. [but according to the urban dictionary “Ty” is also an abbreviation for “a total stud with a massive carrot”.]
u = You
UGI = Upper Gastrointestinal
VSG = Vertical Sleeve Gastrectomy
Vit = Vitamin
wks = weeks
WLS = Weight Loss Surgery
WOD = Workout of the Day
w/o = without
wt = weight

I'm so sorry this happened to you. It's reasonable to be disappointed and hurt by the reaction and words you describe. People are full of opinions, but no one knows your health or what it has been like to be in your shoes better than you.
I used a lot of my time with a pre-op therapist to untangle and work through the way others perceive WLS and may judge me for it. I have been surprised how helpful working with a therapist has been on the relationship side of WLS. One of the conclusions I have come to is that I don't owe anyone an explanation and I don't have to take on making them more comfortable with the idea of me having WLS. Another thing that came out of it is I have decided (at least for now) to have a very small circle of people that know I am having this surgery. Everything I have to work with to be on this path feels like a lot already and hearing the input and opinions of other people (especially when they are not educated in WLS) just feels like more than I want to take on at the moment.
Sending you good thoughts!