lokiprincess1

I am now 2+ years out from surgery and still maintaining my goal weight. VSG has changed my life in so many ways. But there are negative things or challenges I rarely see people talking about. I'm listing mine in hopes others won't feel alone, please add yours if you'd like. I'm thinking this might be a bit therapeutic as I don't talk about this in real life as no one really understands unless you've been through it.
Things that have become very real for me:
*Body Dysmorphia is real. I currently wear a dress/jean size 6 and tops in XS/S. I know those sizes are amazing and I never would have imagined that's where I would end up. BUT...when I look in the mirror I don't see that size. I still see my butt as huge, My sagging stomach doesn't help but I just can't shake the "fat" thoughts when I see myself.
I recently read that part of this is due to the fact that we tend to over exaggerated what we looked like when we were overweight, so losing that weight still doesn't give us an accurate depiction of who we really are. I try and keep this in mind but I don't know if this will ever go away.
*Addiction Transfer. It took me awhile to realize this but I most definitely transferred my addictive eating to compulsive shopping. I've spent way too much money since going through this process. It's a constant struggle.
*Confidence and Self Worth. This is a good thing for sure. But, I have been struggling in my marriage for a long time. And for years I felt trapped because of my fear for being alone forever - which was driven by the fact that I was overweight and told myself no one else would ever want me. I have a different view now. I've changed physically and emotionally. My spouse has always had different philosophies on life than I have. He has never eaten well, never exercised, and has never wanted to become healthier. I had hoped my success would give him some motivation to do better but it hasn't. That combined with other major issues we have had led to my decision to end my marriage. It's ultimately a positive thing for me as I'm in a toxic relationship but finally have the emotional strength and confidence to do this. It's sad, but it's reality.

That's gonna be tough to lose 20 lbs in 17 days, you know that, right? That's a lot of pressure to put on yourself. I'm supportive and encouraging of your desire to have the WLS, but could you possibly postpone it until Spring to give you a better opportunity to lose the weight so that you aren't under so much constraint during the holidays and during COVID and everything?

I agree. The liquid diet is your best bet. I lost 14 pounds in 2 weeks. Some people lose more. Maybe he'll be more lenient if he sees some weight loss, even if it's not the full 20 pounds.

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You need to fast and here is a quick way to drop - not really a good plan but it is a hail marry at this point
You are officially at 500 calories a day but you will be full and this will help you because you have to do it for the first week after surgery and before
Nothing but broth and Soup Here is a link to the ones I use every day for protien tastes good and will fill you up
https://www.amazon.com/Bariatric-Choice-High-Protein-Low-Carb/dp/B01EB64NSS/ref=sr_1_3_sspa?crid=3HNWN91N6CK06&dchild=1&keywords=protein+soups+low+sodium&qid=1606832878&sprefix=protien+soups%2Caps%2C168&sr=8-3-spons&psc=1&spLa=ZW5jcnlwdGVkUXVhbGlmaWVyPUEzRTVMTFc0M0JZQ0U5JmVuY3J5cHRlZElkPUEwNDE3NjQ1RktIR1pHVjcwU0VJJmVuY3J5cHRlZEFkSWQ9QTA2Nzc0NTgxSExHRzRCUzJWSFMxJndpZGdldE5hbWU9c3BfYXRmJmFjdGlvbj1jbGlja1JlZGlyZWN0JmRvTm90TG9nQ2xpY2s9dHJ1ZQ==

FULL BLOWN ALL liquid diet AND MOVE WALK AS MUCH AS YOU CAN IT IS POSSIBLE TO LOOSE A POUND A DAY BY FASTING BUT DANG YOU HAVE TO START NOW. STOP EATING AND DRINKING AT LEAST TWELVE HOURS TO GET ALL THE Water OUT OF YOUR BODY FOR THE BIG WEIGH IN
GOOD LUCK FIND A FRIEND TO WALK AND HELP YOU.

I am scheduled to be sleeved on December 18th. The last time I saw my surgeon was on November 2nd and he told me by the time I saw him on November 30th that I needed to lose 20 pounds and yesterday when I got on his scale I had gained 5 pounds. I had cleared all the sugar out of my house but my Calorie intake was way too much even though I was eating things that were better for me. My searching was going to cancel my surgery and I have a meltdown he told me I have to come to his office and weigh-in on the 17th in if I can lose 20 pounds he'll do my surgery if not he'll cancel it. I can't afford to screw this up my life is riding on this.
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I am scheduled to be sleeved on December 18th. The last time I saw my surgeon was on November 2nd and he told me by the time I saw him on November 30th that I needed to lose 20 pounds and yesterday when I got on his scale I had gained 5 pounds. I had cleared all the sugar out of my house but my Calorie intake was way too much even though I was eating things that were better for me. My searching was going to cancel my surgery and I have a meltdown he told me I have to come to his office and weigh-in on the 17th in if I can lose 20 pounds he'll do my surgery if not he'll cancel it. I can't afford to screw this up my life is riding on this.
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