Loopyjane12a

Hi all. Not been around for a while as just struggling with life in general. I'm 3 years after WLS now and still have my food addictions. I lost just over 9 stone in all and my weight has been stable for about a year now despite all the "junk" I now eat on a regular basis again.
I can't seem to stop the crisps sweets cake and chocolate. If I run out I feel a desperate panic to go get more and although I don't and can't eat a lot at a time I will still have a bag of crisps and a chocolate bar every evening.
I know its boredom as well as cravings. Even if I find myself a book to read or something to do I still want my treats in the evening.
I've given into it as.my weight doesn't go up at all. I weigh every day to make sure. I think I will never get over my addiction. 😢

Thank you so much for the love and support. I have been speaking to my eating disorders therapist today and talking through why I revert to junk.
I already know why I do it..... I'm lonely. My daughter moved out to liver with her b/f this time last year and since then I live on my own. I'm disabled and don't get out much as need help so I sit indoors on my own day in and day out with no one to talk to. The day time I find things to do to keep occupied and during the summer I could get out in my garden etc and was lovely. But now its winter, dark at 4.30pm and its a very very long evening on my own. I'm feeling very down, and very lonely. I only have 2 friends, one lives 5 hours drive away and the other one has a busy life and only visits once a month. Other than that I have no one. I have my dogs so I get out with them for a mobility scooter walk twice a day and will say hello to people out and about but then I'm back home, bored and alone so I eat. Its the only bit of comfort I have.
BUT I now recognise that and I'm making a definite plan to get back on a healthy eating plan and maybe do an education course or something as I love study.
Thank you for being supportive, its really helped me. X x

Hi there, I'm so glad someone else has posted their struggles with sweet things. I was beginning to think it was just me.
I am a food addict. My 'bad' things are crisps, chocolate, biscuits, cake and sweets. I didn't touch one single thing for a year after surgery as I suffered such bad reflux it took me ages to be ok with food. I then tried some crisps and they were ok and sooo good! I then started having a pack every day, then it was a pack and a chocolate bar, I didn't feel sick or have any problems. I stopped losing weight but I still carried on. I knew I shouldn't have it but my addiction was back. It was coming into the long dark evenings in October that triggered it as I was feeling down and lonely. It this time that I eat in the evenings. So a week ago I got in touch with my old therapist who specialises in eating disorders and had a good hat. I haven't have any crisps or chocolate this week and lost 3lb. I am going to chat to my therapist every week until I feel stronger at coping again.
Like you, I know the surgery is a tool and it doesn't cure what goes on in the brain. Its so hard! Best of luck, I'm so glad I found this site. X

Thank you so much for the love and support. I have been speaking to my eating disorders therapist today and talking through why I revert to junk.
I already know why I do it..... I'm lonely. My daughter moved out to liver with her b/f this time last year and since then I live on my own. I'm disabled and don't get out much as need help so I sit indoors on my own day in and day out with no one to talk to. The day time I find things to do to keep occupied and during the summer I could get out in my garden etc and was lovely. But now its winter, dark at 4.30pm and its a very very long evening on my own. I'm feeling very down, and very lonely. I only have 2 friends, one lives 5 hours drive away and the other one has a busy life and only visits once a month. Other than that I have no one. I have my dogs so I get out with them for a mobility scooter walk twice a day and will say hello to people out and about but then I'm back home, bored and alone so I eat. Its the only bit of comfort I have.
BUT I now recognise that and I'm making a definite plan to get back on a healthy eating plan and maybe do an education course or something as I love study.
Thank you for being supportive, its really helped me. X x

Hi there, I'm so glad someone else has posted their struggles with sweet things. I was beginning to think it was just me.
I am a food addict. My 'bad' things are crisps, chocolate, biscuits, cake and sweets. I didn't touch one single thing for a year after surgery as I suffered such bad reflux it took me ages to be ok with food. I then tried some crisps and they were ok and sooo good! I then started having a pack every day, then it was a pack and a chocolate bar, I didn't feel sick or have any problems. I stopped losing weight but I still carried on. I knew I shouldn't have it but my addiction was back. It was coming into the long dark evenings in October that triggered it as I was feeling down and lonely. It this time that I eat in the evenings. So a week ago I got in touch with my old therapist who specialises in eating disorders and had a good hat. I haven't have any crisps or chocolate this week and lost 3lb. I am going to chat to my therapist every week until I feel stronger at coping again.
Like you, I know the surgery is a tool and it doesn't cure what goes on in the brain. Its so hard! Best of luck, I'm so glad I found this site. X

Thank you so much for the love and support. I have been speaking to my eating disorders therapist today and talking through why I revert to junk.
I already know why I do it..... I'm lonely. My daughter moved out to liver with her b/f this time last year and since then I live on my own. I'm disabled and don't get out much as need help so I sit indoors on my own day in and day out with no one to talk to. The day time I find things to do to keep occupied and during the summer I could get out in my garden etc and was lovely. But now its winter, dark at 4.30pm and its a very very long evening on my own. I'm feeling very down, and very lonely. I only have 2 friends, one lives 5 hours drive away and the other one has a busy life and only visits once a month. Other than that I have no one. I have my dogs so I get out with them for a mobility scooter walk twice a day and will say hello to people out and about but then I'm back home, bored and alone so I eat. Its the only bit of comfort I have.
BUT I now recognise that and I'm making a definite plan to get back on a healthy eating plan and maybe do an education course or something as I love study.
Thank you for being supportive, its really helped me. X x

Hi there, I'm so glad someone else has posted their struggles with sweet things. I was beginning to think it was just me.
I am a food addict. My 'bad' things are crisps, chocolate, biscuits, cake and sweets. I didn't touch one single thing for a year after surgery as I suffered such bad reflux it took me ages to be ok with food. I then tried some crisps and they were ok and sooo good! I then started having a pack every day, then it was a pack and a chocolate bar, I didn't feel sick or have any problems. I stopped losing weight but I still carried on. I knew I shouldn't have it but my addiction was back. It was coming into the long dark evenings in October that triggered it as I was feeling down and lonely. It this time that I eat in the evenings. So a week ago I got in touch with my old therapist who specialises in eating disorders and had a good hat. I haven't have any crisps or chocolate this week and lost 3lb. I am going to chat to my therapist every week until I feel stronger at coping again.
Like you, I know the surgery is a tool and it doesn't cure what goes on in the brain. Its so hard! Best of luck, I'm so glad I found this site. X

Thank you so much for the love and support. I have been speaking to my eating disorders therapist today and talking through why I revert to junk.
I already know why I do it..... I'm lonely. My daughter moved out to liver with her b/f this time last year and since then I live on my own. I'm disabled and don't get out much as need help so I sit indoors on my own day in and day out with no one to talk to. The day time I find things to do to keep occupied and during the summer I could get out in my garden etc and was lovely. But now its winter, dark at 4.30pm and its a very very long evening on my own. I'm feeling very down, and very lonely. I only have 2 friends, one lives 5 hours drive away and the other one has a busy life and only visits once a month. Other than that I have no one. I have my dogs so I get out with them for a mobility scooter walk twice a day and will say hello to people out and about but then I'm back home, bored and alone so I eat. Its the only bit of comfort I have.
BUT I now recognise that and I'm making a definite plan to get back on a healthy eating plan and maybe do an education course or something as I love study.
Thank you for being supportive, its really helped me. X x

Thank you so much for the love and support. I have been speaking to my eating disorders therapist today and talking through why I revert to junk.
I already know why I do it..... I'm lonely. My daughter moved out to liver with her b/f this time last year and since then I live on my own. I'm disabled and don't get out much as need help so I sit indoors on my own day in and day out with no one to talk to. The day time I find things to do to keep occupied and during the summer I could get out in my garden etc and was lovely. But now its winter, dark at 4.30pm and its a very very long evening on my own. I'm feeling very down, and very lonely. I only have 2 friends, one lives 5 hours drive away and the other one has a busy life and only visits once a month. Other than that I have no one. I have my dogs so I get out with them for a mobility scooter walk twice a day and will say hello to people out and about but then I'm back home, bored and alone so I eat. Its the only bit of comfort I have.
BUT I now recognise that and I'm making a definite plan to get back on a healthy eating plan and maybe do an education course or something as I love study.
Thank you for being supportive, its really helped me. X x

Thank you for sharing this. I have been on these forums for many years and in my opinion these types of issues/the negatives don’t get nearly enough airplay.

Thank you so much for sharing this experience and being vulnerable. I feel like many of us can relate to this feeling!

I agree. Kudos to you for being self aware enough to realize you have an addiction and need help. Half of the work is in gaining the awareness. Good luck to you.

I wouldn't worry about pain. It's pretty extensive surgery (12 1/2 hrs!) so of course there is pain. But, there are plenty of drugs available to control pain! I only took one dose of narcotics immediately after I came home from the hospital. I then took gabapentin and celebrex around the clock for the next 2 weeks and then just when I felt I needed it. I did get a refill on the gabapentin because I used to get nerve pain at night. If I had felt the need and the pain was bad enough I wouldn't have hesitated to take something stronger. The healing on the lower body lift has been perfect and the scar is looking pretty good. The incisions on both my arms opened up over my biceps. The right was pretty small and healed nicely after a little wound care. The left was pretty big and is almost healed but will need a scar revision in the future. It's not uncommon for that to happen when you think about how tight they pull your skin. He removed 9 inches of skin from my left arm! It is half the size it used to be! I measured 73 inches of incision from my LBL and brachioplasty! My brachioplasty was considered "extended" too. The scar goes from the lower edge of my boob to midway between my elbow and wrist. There are a lot of sutures involved and it's when your body spits out sutures that didn't dissolve that can cause the incision to open.
I'm not sure how you would use crutches after that surgery. I guess you would have to discuss it with your doctor. The armpit scars actually healed the quickest.
I have my next appointment in Feb. I'll be 6 months out from this surgery and we will discuss and plan my next surgery-breast lift and back lift. However, I just had 2 biopsies in my left breast (benign) so he is not sure he will do my boobs yet.
Even though there is pain involved and long term wound care and scars...I'd do it all over again. I love my results! It was worth every dollar I spent. I did not use insurance.

Hi there, I'm so glad someone else has posted their struggles with sweet things. I was beginning to think it was just me.
I am a food addict. My 'bad' things are crisps, chocolate, biscuits, cake and sweets. I didn't touch one single thing for a year after surgery as I suffered such bad reflux it took me ages to be ok with food. I then tried some crisps and they were ok and sooo good! I then started having a pack every day, then it was a pack and a chocolate bar, I didn't feel sick or have any problems. I stopped losing weight but I still carried on. I knew I shouldn't have it but my addiction was back. It was coming into the long dark evenings in October that triggered it as I was feeling down and lonely. It this time that I eat in the evenings. So a week ago I got in touch with my old therapist who specialises in eating disorders and had a good hat. I haven't have any crisps or chocolate this week and lost 3lb. I am going to chat to my therapist every week until I feel stronger at coping again.
Like you, I know the surgery is a tool and it doesn't cure what goes on in the brain. Its so hard! Best of luck, I'm so glad I found this site. X

Hi. I've only been losing about 3lb per month since 10 months post op. Then I stopped losing for 3 months then it started again but I can go 3 weeks and not lose anything then suddenly on week 4 I will lost 3lb. Like you say it takes forever.

I am sticking to the Protein but wasn't told anything about Water and I know I don't drink enough. I only have between 600-800 calories a day anyway so don't think I should cut down more???

Hi there, I'm so glad someone else has posted their struggles with sweet things. I was beginning to think it was just me.
I am a food addict. My 'bad' things are crisps, chocolate, biscuits, cake and sweets. I didn't touch one single thing for a year after surgery as I suffered such bad reflux it took me ages to be ok with food. I then tried some crisps and they were ok and sooo good! I then started having a pack every day, then it was a pack and a chocolate bar, I didn't feel sick or have any problems. I stopped losing weight but I still carried on. I knew I shouldn't have it but my addiction was back. It was coming into the long dark evenings in October that triggered it as I was feeling down and lonely. It this time that I eat in the evenings. So a week ago I got in touch with my old therapist who specialises in eating disorders and had a good hat. I haven't have any crisps or chocolate this week and lost 3lb. I am going to chat to my therapist every week until I feel stronger at coping again.
Like you, I know the surgery is a tool and it doesn't cure what goes on in the brain. Its so hard! Best of luck, I'm so glad I found this site. X

Hi there, I'm so glad someone else has posted their struggles with sweet things. I was beginning to think it was just me.
I am a food addict. My 'bad' things are crisps, chocolate, biscuits, cake and sweets. I didn't touch one single thing for a year after surgery as I suffered such bad reflux it took me ages to be ok with food. I then tried some crisps and they were ok and sooo good! I then started having a pack every day, then it was a pack and a chocolate bar, I didn't feel sick or have any problems. I stopped losing weight but I still carried on. I knew I shouldn't have it but my addiction was back. It was coming into the long dark evenings in October that triggered it as I was feeling down and lonely. It this time that I eat in the evenings. So a week ago I got in touch with my old therapist who specialises in eating disorders and had a good hat. I haven't have any crisps or chocolate this week and lost 3lb. I am going to chat to my therapist every week until I feel stronger at coping again.
Like you, I know the surgery is a tool and it doesn't cure what goes on in the brain. Its so hard! Best of luck, I'm so glad I found this site. X

Hi there, I'm so glad someone else has posted their struggles with sweet things. I was beginning to think it was just me.
I am a food addict. My 'bad' things are crisps, chocolate, biscuits, cake and sweets. I didn't touch one single thing for a year after surgery as I suffered such bad reflux it took me ages to be ok with food. I then tried some crisps and they were ok and sooo good! I then started having a pack every day, then it was a pack and a chocolate bar, I didn't feel sick or have any problems. I stopped losing weight but I still carried on. I knew I shouldn't have it but my addiction was back. It was coming into the long dark evenings in October that triggered it as I was feeling down and lonely. It this time that I eat in the evenings. So a week ago I got in touch with my old therapist who specialises in eating disorders and had a good hat. I haven't have any crisps or chocolate this week and lost 3lb. I am going to chat to my therapist every week until I feel stronger at coping again.
Like you, I know the surgery is a tool and it doesn't cure what goes on in the brain. Its so hard! Best of luck, I'm so glad I found this site. X

Switch you diet and do some Fasting - Drop one day below 500 calories and then the next bump to 900 then back down. Intermitted fasting during it also. Time to trick the body to start burning again

Hi all,
Just wondered for how long do people generally keep losing weight for after surgery. I'm 18 months post sleeve and I barely lose anything each month now. Is this nora. In last 6 months I've lost just under a stone and feel I should be losing more than this. I can go 4 or 5 weeks and never lose a thing.
I'm on permanent crutches or wheelchair so mobility is very limited but I try and move as much as I can each day.
Any tips or advice please. X x

I found myself in a similar position and only three weeks ago took back the reigns of my eating program. I am focusing on eating just like I was when I first was sleeved: 60g Protein, 64 oz Water, low carb, low fat. Go back to the basics. Your pouch is still there and will be your best friend as it will restrict you from eating too much at any one setting. You need to cut out the snacking in between meals, though, as you know. You can do this!

Sorry to hear you're having such a rough time right now. A few things come to mind:
1) You've already done, really really well. If my arithmetic is right, you've lost 105 pounds, right? That's amazing and cause for celebration (even though I know you're not where you want to be yet).
2) The average expected weight loss with the sleeve is for patients to lose 50-70% of their excess weight. I'm 5'1" also, and a weight of 132 will give us a normal BMI of just under 25 so based on the numbers you've given us, you've lost about 78% of your excess weight (if my math is right, lol). So you haven't failed, the sleeve did exactly what it was projected to do, and a bit more! Your outcome is actually above average.
3) I know you're disappointed about not losing more, but even with what you've lost - don't you feel much better now than you did at 18+ stone? Wouldn't it be awesome to maintain that loss and continue to enjoy the benefits of being slimmer and healthier? You can do that, but if you continue of the path of eating a lot of sweets and junk food, you'll end up right back where you were before surgery. You've come too far and accomplished too much for that.
4) Did your bariatric team connect you to a support group? I know my group is not meeting right now due to the pandemic, but they do get together via zoom, skype, etc. It can be really helpful to stay connected to people who know what you are going through and the challenges that come up along the way.
5) Because of your enforced low activity level, your basal metabolism rate (the minimum number of calories required for your body to function and sustain itself) is probably lower than average. It sucks, but that could mean that you have to cut calories more than other people, in order to keep losing. Our BMR comes down anyway as we lose weight, and most of us have to add exercise to keep the loss going. Because you're not able to do that, it might come down to cutting calories a little more. Which sucks, I know and isn't easy to do. But again, even if you've stabilized at a slightly higher weight than you wanted, isn't it worthwhile to maintain that, rather than throwing all your effort away and undoing everything the surgery did for you? You went through a lot to lose that 7 stone 7lbs.
6) Is there any kind of adapted exercise that you can do, given your physical condition? It actually doesn't take a lot to raise your BMR, which can help you to start losing again. I'm not knowledgeable in that area, but there may be modified exercises that you actually can do.
7) What kind of plan were you following when you were losing weight? If you were watching calories but not carbs, it might help to try keeping your carbs low as well (I have to do that). Or some people lose better watching the amount of fat they eat (doesn't work for me, but people report that it works for them). Can you go back to your bariatric team and ask them for advice? A nutritionist might be able to help you figure this out.
I know what it's like to feel hopeless and defeated. And that feeling is only compounded when you start to pile on weight. Given the way you are feeling, I think maintaining would be a victory right now. So maybe set aside your desire to lose for now and focus on getting back to healthy eating habits and maintaining your weight. When you feel better and more in control, then you can try to get the weight loss going again. But if your body decides "That's it, I'm not losing another pound!", you've done really well and isn't that worth hanging on to?
Sending you blessings. I really hope you find your way to a better place. 🤗

Hi everyone.
I'm so glad I came across this site as I have been desperate to talk to people to see how others have coled with their weight loss since surgery.
I am really struggling and have found old bad eating habits have crept in again. I am 18 months post surgery and lost 7 stone 7lbs. Most of that ca.e off in the first year but the last 6 months nothing is coming off. It just stopped.
I have mobility problems and walk with crutches and if I go out have to use an electric wheelchair. Because of this the surgeons said I would possibly lose 3 stone if I was lucky so in their terms I've.more than doubled my weight loss. But due to only being 5'1" I'm still obese at 11 stone 7lb.
I have become so frustrated at not even a 1lb coming off each month I've started eating crisps and cake and chocolate again. I know I shouldn't but I'm addicted again. I didn't touch anything sweet for over a year but now, boredom, loneliness and frustration have triggered old habits.
I need help, I just don't know what to do and don't want weight to go back on.
I can't walk or exercise, and started to get very down that the weight wasn't coming off I've given up.
Did anyone else have this happen? If so, what did you do and how to cope?
ANY ADVICE?
LOOPY

Hi everyone.
I'm so glad I came across this site as I have been desperate to talk to people to see how others have coled with their weight loss since surgery.
I am really struggling and have found old bad eating habits have crept in again. I am 18 months post surgery and lost 7 stone 7lbs. Most of that ca.e off in the first year but the last 6 months nothing is coming off. It just stopped.
I have mobility problems and walk with crutches and if I go out have to use an electric wheelchair. Because of this the surgeons said I would possibly lose 3 stone if I was lucky so in their terms I've.more than doubled my weight loss. But due to only being 5'1" I'm still obese at 11 stone 7lb.
I have become so frustrated at not even a 1lb coming off each month I've started eating crisps and cake and chocolate again. I know I shouldn't but I'm addicted again. I didn't touch anything sweet for over a year but now, boredom, loneliness and frustration have triggered old habits.
I need help, I just don't know what to do and don't want weight to go back on.
I can't walk or exercise, and started to get very down that the weight wasn't coming off I've given up.
Did anyone else have this happen? If so, what did you do and how to cope?
ANY ADVICE?
LOOPY