Sleeved_in_MN

This makes me laugh. Before surgery, it seems like it is all about numbers just to get approved. After surgery when I asked about what my goal should be, they told me they don’t like to focus on numbers. They would rather focus on feeling and being healthy. I agree with them but I set a goal in my mind of 135 which just moves me into the Normal weight category. I don’t recall the last time I was a normal weight and I figure there is no better time to get there! I am 3 months out and have lost 32 lbs. seems slow but the scale is moving in the right direction and if it continues, I could be at my goal in about 6 months.

I wanted a normal BMI. For my height, that meant weighing 132 or under. So I rounded down and set a goal of 130.

My doc never gave me a goal, but the dietician did ask if I had a goal in mind. They also told me what I could “expect” to lose if I followed the program. That number lined up with where I want to be, which is still considered obese according to BMI. I’m not a huge fan of it because it doesn’t take into account muscle mass v. fat. As the saying goes, I don’t want to look skinny, I want to look like I can kick your a$$.

My gastroenterologist (who diagnosed my GERD/Gastritis/Esophagitis) wants me to get to normal BMI. For me that's 145, so that's my goal. My surgeon never really discussed a weight loss goal since my surgery was for GI issues, not weight loss.
But I know when I has the gastric sleeve done, my surgeon told me his goal is always for better health for his patients. So he never discussed weight goals, rather things like getting off blood pressure meds, lowering my glucose levels, getting off a by pap machine etc. I did all of that, and he was happy.

My surgeon had never talked about a goal weight, either. When I asked him about goals, he discussed making lifestyle changes and habits that stay with you for life as a goal. Additionally, my dietician also told me “you are more than just a number” on several occasions and commended me on my adjustments toward a healthier lifestyle, regardless of what the scale said. The dietician did eventually give me a goal weight that fell within the healthy BMI range.

Same!!! Though people didn’t tell me this...i just told myself. LolZ

My surgeon asked me if I had any thoughts on what I wanted to lose. I said 31kgs which would put me at 60kg - the lowest weight I’d been as an adult & where I’d often yo yo dieted down to - with a BMI of 23. He said it was a good goal. I never changed my goal but my body kept losing & seems to have found it’s own happy place. Funny thing is I was told for years I had a large frame (the old wrist measurement thing). Now all the fat is gone, I actually am small/medium boned so being on the lower half of the BMI range is fine.

I've been all over the place. I started at 150 because for some reason I've had 150 stuck in my head for ever. Even in high school when dieting that was my goal. So that was my goal when I first started (it is pretty much mid-range of healthy BMI for my height). Then at my 6 month my Dr said she'd want me at around 185 (still overweight) so I changed it to 172 (top of healthy BMI). Then I moved it to 167 (exactly half my pre-surgery weight) since that was so close to 172. Now that I'm there, I've gone back to 150.... We'll see if I can get there and if I'm happy. That may be a little on the low end for my body type and height....

I wanted a normal BMI. For my height, that meant weighing 132 or under. So I rounded down and set a goal of 130.

On my first pre-op Doctor visit he said he thought I could get to 140. I was following Weight Watchers at that time and knew my “normal” range for my height was 94-124. For WW I chose 123 as my goal. On my first post op visit my dr said he thought I could get to 130. I told him I had to get to 124 otherwise I’d still be in the “overweight” class and I’m not doing this to get close to normal...I’m going for normal! He told me ok but don’t be disappointed if you can’t get there you’ll be fine at 130. I hit 130 with no problem and kept going until I finally stopped at 109. That seems to be my optimal weight because I’ve maintained that for a while now. Surgery was in Oct 2018.

My surgical team let me pick a realistic one, but theirs was about 20 lbs higher than mine in terms of their expectations.

February 23

How did everyone come up with their goal weight? Beside the initial appointment no one on my medical team has talked about a one, and that was just asking me where I’d like to be. My personal is 181 the weight I was when I graduated boot camp in 1994.

Feb. 15th

My surgeon didn't have a goal weight for me, only that he said he would consider me a "success" if I lost 60lbs in the first year (This was calculated as 60% of excess weight, based on BMI 25 ideal weight).
I had different ideas: I aimed for 120, which was just about the mid-range of "healthy" BMI for my height, AND was the weight I was when I met Mr. back in my 20's. I later changed this to 127 as I felt it was enough at the time.
Anyhoo...I got to surgeon's goal at 3 months. I got to my revised goal at 7, then to my original goal anyway at 8.

When I told the nurse my goal was 130, she looked at me like I had said 85lbs! LOL! She said she would like to see me lose 70lbs, which was 70% of my excess weight at the time. Obviously, I disagreed, and went on to hit my own personal goal, plus a little extra! LOL!
Boot camp weight sounds like a perfect goal!!!

It’s really just a guess/wish. I put 220 thinking no way I’d hit that, 7 months later I did. I also thought 220 would be too thin (I’m 6’4”) but now that I’m there it’s obvious that it’s not too thin and I’m thinking I can hit One-derland safely and comfortably. Other than this forum I’ve never had to nail it down for anyone, and when family asks I just say “I’ll know it when I hit it” which was and still is true.

at my initial appt at my clinic, the health psychologist asked if I had a goal weight in mind (although I think he may have just been seeing if I had realistic expectations from the surgery). I blurted out "200 lbs" (I honestly had no idea what my goal weight was when he asked). He said that should be do-able - which kind of shocked me because given I weighed close to 400 at the time, 200 lbs sounded like a pipe dream. But I made it - and then adjusted my goal weight down a couple more times (and then up a few lbs) until I hit an acceptable weight that I could maintain without too much of a struggle. So...it can change as you lose. That's probably why some surgeons don't have you set one.

Ha! Same thing happened to me. It was the psychologist who asked and I said 200 pounds (an even 100 pounds lost) and when she said it was well within my reach I was just like “wait what?” 😂 Last time I was 200 pounds was in high school

Im on hold due to covid so I haven’t had surgery yet. Hopefully soon 😊

How did everyone come up with their goal weight? Beside the initial appointment no one on my medical team has talked about a one, and that was just asking me where I’d like to be. My personal is 181 the weight I was when I graduated boot camp in 1994.

Welcome, Duk. Nobody on my medical team talked about a goal weight either, and I had the same question when I started out. Like you, I chose my weight back in college, which was the last time I was really happy with the way I looked and felt. It turns out that I got down to that weight within about seven months and was able to keep losing, so I adjusted the number down another ten pounds to my high school weight!
If you know that 181 was a good weight for you (and it sounds like you do), then go with it. This is not an exact science, and it's more important that you are healthy and feel good.

So, I was getting my hair cut today and was talking to the women cutting my hair (not someone I've seen before). We started talking about how there isn't much to do right now because we are still pretty limited. I mentioned I was out hiking yesterday since being outside is one of the things we can do. She said that must be why I'm so skinny I've NEVER, not once before been called skinny...