BlueAngelEyes

Ive suggested he or we see a psychiatrist or therapist anything. He said we dont have the money for it. Hes on zoloft i put them by his side of the bed now so he actually took them tonight so im hoping he does that continuously everynight. My problem is ive been waking up at 3am the last few nights and cant get back to sleep. I feel like im over thinking with everything i want to do im frazzled. I even took half of .an ambien and still awake. Thanks again for ur post appreciate you commenting.

Im sorry my grammer is horrible. Hope my kids have better knowledge of the English language than i do.

Thank you for your support. I am a lone ranger i guess. Both my husband and i dont have friends. He has his brother and sis he goes to lunch with on occasion or to china town. I have my sisters and mother but thats it. My mom and sisters are driving me nuts with there critical opinions on diet, life, religion so ive been separating myself from them lately. Ive always was one to have one friend growing up but they would move away and lose contact and so on. I take my kids to mommy groups sometimes but everytime i do i regret it because my kids will get sick from then and it ruins the rest of the week so ive been avoiding that as well. Im in a rut! Alot of people have some good ideas on things to do and try i hope something works.

Thank you!

My husband never had hobbies. He used to play video games alot but i kinda nipped that in the butt when our first child was born 5yrs ago cuz he was the type to not just ply for an hour or 2 he had to play all day and the next. You deffently have alot of good ideas. We havent tryed alot of things as a couple. Our go to and i think the only thing we do together is watch tv which is getting very boring now. Maybe i can get him to have a game night with his sister. Good suggestion. Hes always been the type to say i love hiking and outdoors but when it comes to it his back hurts and its too hot outside. He is a needy depressed man and im trying not to resent him for acting like Eeyore from winnie the pooh all the time. I have a hard time being negative soo i never see my husband without his stinking ear piece listening to music or a book online. He even has one he sleeps with it really drives me nuts. I think he ADHD or ADD he has to have something going on at all times . He cant just sit there. Im trying to not be critical and nag but goodness gracious its hard.. i think ill deffently try to start some new things for us to do as a fmaily or date night. Thank you for your advice.

Heres the avocado cilantro greek yogurt dressing. Makes a little container full to last you the whole week. I only add like a tbs to my fish with some chopped up tomatoes taste very yummy. Some times i add a little chopped up cucumber as well. (I also use just a little minced garlic not garlic glove)

Oh another go to food is hummus and protien chips. Sprouts has 2 flavors or ive bought protein chips from this barriatric site thatn are chili lime flavor that are 15g of protein and i get the individual hummas packs to take with me on the go..

I hear ya, so many things i didnt know going into this as well. I like to make tilapia with seasoning and mix it with a homemade cilantro avocado greek yogurt dressing. Almonds and protein packed beef jerky have also been my go too. I havent tryed salad yet but grilled zucchini and broccoli are something i have alot. Chicken everytime i eat it gives me alot of chest pain so been trying to stay away from that. Fish and pork seem to go down very well. Tuna salad is good but get sick of that more than twice aweek. I have a boiled or scrambled egg most mornings. (Snack jalapeno cheese on 3 wheat thins shh dont tell anyone). I love Gatorade zero that helps me get in more liquids. Im only losing 1pound or 2 a week thought it be faster but hoping when i add in some cardio that will help as well. I bought a taebo dvd to workout too so i can do it with my kids around.. I have so much more energy now than i did before surgery. I am loving that.

I had my surgery may 31st so almost 50days post op ive lost 33 pounds, from 237 to 204. I was feeling like i wasnt losing enough then a bunch of people posted a chart of where u should be at estimating in general where u should be at and it made me feel better. My surgeon made me feel like i was going to be losing fast so in my mind i was thinking a pound a day sounded good. Lol. I am only losing 1 pound a week. So im frusterated but i think sence the 4th week ive stalled for 4 or 5 days and finally lose a pound thats just what my body wants to do right now i guess. I get over 13,000 steps in , thought that would help it hasnt changed the scale yet. So ur doing awesome! Its a slow and steady race now! I was hoping id wake up and feel 50pounds thinner. Haha if only we could click our red shoes together and have that wish. I dont poop everyday ether. 2 weeks ago i think i didnt go for like 4 days till finally did and a pound came out of that. i cant wait to get under 200!!! Good luck! Keep ur eyes on the prize!

Hi im 7weeks post op and was wondering how big are the portions supposed to be? Is it 3 oz of chicken and veggies every couples hours or am i supposed to be grazzing all day or eatting 3 distict food times and no snack?? Are almonds aloud to be eattin at this time?? Having issue with what i can eat. I hate cooking dinner everyday so finding i dont sit down have a meal i grazz and snack on alot of dumb things so not sure what im supposed to be doing .. any advice is welcomed!! What does every one eat for breakfast? I cant do protein drinks so all i have is an egg it makes u sick of it after a while.

Its so wierd how our bodies are reacting to the change with WLS. Wish there was a simple explanation.

I was given opioids, i believe it was liquid norco. It was so yummy i was licking it out of the counter and taking it for 5 days after surgery i was alittle sad when i ran out. Im sorry for all that werent given anything strong to help with being uncomfortable. I cant believe some of ur docters only gave u tramadol or tylenol. They must be the extra cautious docters thinking everyone gets addicted to the good stuff so they dont prescribe it alot.

I was hoping people have more choices for the soft food stage? Also is there something i can do to lose more this month? Im one month out and seems like i stall for 4 days then lose a pound and stall again. Any advise is welcomed!

Omg ur having the same problem as i am right now. Im 6 weeks post op. Water is the worst feeling going down. So is every kind of meat. Yogurt is also starting to upset my stomach when i eat it im hopeing i dont become lactose intolerant.. so i dont know whats going on with our body but i hope it gets better soon. Hope u feel better.

Hi Mrs. Hayes! Ur not to far away. How r u liking our California weather? Summer is officially here with this heat..

I didn't understand why some people didn't want there families to know they had WLS . I do now! Last night at a family get together everyone is around the counter getting there pizza and whatnot. I grabbed a tiny piece of french bread and took out the middle thats wonderfully soft. Everyone said you cant eat that. I said ohh yes i can. Then my sis said dont you dare eat that. I shoved the whole thing in my mouth it was great! I should of put "i cant believe its not butter spray on it". In that moment my eyes are opened to all the judement you get. People who know you had something to help u lose weight watch you. Everything i put in my mouth there judging me thinking im not taking this weight loss seriously. Its annoying! They all make me want to hide in the bathroom and pig out! I didnt but wanted too. Lol.

The woman in my family all seem to be this way as well. Im sorry ur relationship with ur daughter is hard. Hopefully things will change and get better for ur family and for mine. Thanks for ur post.

Thank you Azhiker! I will take ur advise and buy a step tacker counter thing. Lol. I think today ill start looking into a local gym as well. I appreciate your post.

Hello i dont have much advise but Have you ever downloaded the app meet up.? Im in california and its a great place to meet up with other people in ur area or surrounding. You can search like single groups, people with similar interest like music or movies im a mom so mommy groups. Theres tons of groups you could join and meet new people (at least in my city) and find what the new you wants and likes. You have alot of changes u seem like ur going through with the loss of that relationship to also going to be getting weight loss surgery. U get a redo on life in a way so you geet to experience new things for the first time and find who you are and what u want in life. I wish you the best! It may seem scary now not knowing what to do but focus on ur self and what makes u happy and sooner or Later when ur ready u will be dating and find someone who complements you and loves you for you.

This is a big long vent im sorry! My mother said to me the other day id better lose all the weight i need too and get to my goal weight and id better make sure to keep it off or ill be humiliated because everyone knows i had weight loss surgery and i dont want to be one of those people to gain it all back.. Why would u mention this to some one u love when there only 6 weeks out from having the sleeve done. All i could say is i know, i know! I took it personally and im sick of people watching me. Im not a competitive person i dont use other peoples judemental opinions to help me with my weight loss. I dont like confrontation. I normally stay away and eat my feelings. I used to be the one stashing dark chocolate milkyways in the bathroom drawer or hidden candy in the pots and pans. Lol. So now what? I wish i never told anyone about my surgery. Everyone talks behind my back and i trully wish i kept it to myself. My mom and sister talk as if im going to gain it all back and i dont know how to deal with my emotions. I want to eat and havent found a hobbie or something to distract me from wanting to load. I read so many papers on is it better to excercise after WLS or better to just focus on what you eat and not exercise. I dont know what to do. I dont know if im doing things right. I feel upset, stuck and unmotivated. I honestly didnt do the research and didnt understand this was just a tool. I thought when my surgeon said you will be at ur goal by the end of this year id be losing fast and of course the reality of it all is its a process.. ugh soo very frustrated! I saw a therapist the other day and they werent kind they kept repeating the same thing. Diet and exercise are key. I should of, could of, would of. You ever feel like too many people know your history, your story and wish u could just leave it and move somewhere new where no one knows you and u can start over.. i wish it! Sorry again long thoughts i had to get out of my head. Hope everyone has a good day!

Im in Rancho Cucamonga California

I started having 1 tbs of peanut butter on a spoon right after my 3rd week it helped me alot. I think people worry about the calories and fat it has in it but i find my body likes some fat like peanut butter and avocados. My surgeon said no to pretty much all foods. He says think what would u give a 6month baby. Well thats my good excuse cause pediatricians say its good to start alittle peanut butter everyday when there babies so they wont form a allergy to nuts soooo peanut butter is a yes in my book.

I dont know. I heard other people mention on a different post that going back to the liquid phase for a few weeks helped get there body losing again. I wish you the best of luck with ur weight loss