Charlar

I saw someone post once, "No one asked me the details about my weight gain or how I got there, so they don't need to know the details of my weight loss or how I'm getting there" LOL!
For me only my immediate family know as well as 3 close friends.

To make things worse, my first instinct is to turn to food to comfort myself. Lately, I have been struggling with urges to binge as a way to punish myself for my perceived failures.

Hi All,
VGS is a tool.....not a cure. Most long-term morbid obesity sufferers who have failed to lose and/or maintain weight-loss have emotional eating disorders. Most people who have VGS that do not address the emotional issues are much more likely to fail at weight loss and improving their health. Reading the research and spending a lot of time reading the accounts of others makes this very apparent. Finding a good therapist with a background in eating disorders is the best path to take to assure your long-term success. I'm working with one now.
I've come across some materials that can be very helpful. In fact, these are materials that can be used as a self-help but are often used in therapy. They are very brief workbook-like modules that must be worked through in order. It is best to take a module a week and fully absorb it....without jumping/peeking ahead to other modules.
Here is the material for eating disorders: https://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/Resources/Looking-After-Yourself/Disordered-Eating
Here is similar material for other issues such as anxiety, depression, and self-compassion: https://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/Resources/Looking-After-Yourself/

I have 0 support. Friends out of state have my back but no one here. I’m taking an Uber to the hospital, my brother in law is kindly picking me up and my mom refuses to bring an overnight bag for me since I can’t bring it to check in. She’s made it clear she does not support my bypass revision even though it could save my life long-term (cancer, aspiration pneumonia). Surgery is Thursday and I’ve left the anxious stage after doing a thorough bedroom cleaning and now I’m just depressed knowing the mom I supported through my sister’s death (32 and I moved in with her so she isn’t alone) and she makes me completely alone when I’m most vulnerable. Sadly, I depend on these forums for support.

It’s fairly normal, you are the one having the surgery not them. As tough as it might be you are the one that has to learn how to deal with these difficult situations.
I remember my husband making muffins a week or 2 after I got my band, he’s lucky he is still alive

I was never formally diagnosed because I never openly discussed my issues with food and didn't disclose that issue to the surgical psychologist. But when I had the surgery, it basically immediately resolved... because you vomit your brains out and physically can't binge eat anymore. The desire was there for a short time, but then I had unrelated complications and dumping from other things and knew if I binge ate I would be in so much horrific pain that the desire to do so was suppressed.

I feel for you on the delay, but it seems like you have a great medical team who wants to make sure that you are successful on your journey.
Wishing you the best.

I think if one has unresolved eating disorders they should be addressed prior to surgery. I was anorexic and purged, but never binged. But that was 20 years ago. I did mention it to my surgeon and their therapist, but they didn't seem concerned at this point. Your binge eating seems to be recent. It is sad to delay the surgery, but you'll be glad to get things under control.

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Do you have a counselor or therapist that you see for your binge-eating disorder? Having someone to work with you on the mental-health side of your journey is going to be extremely important for your success. The surgery will put limits in physically which will help with the over-eating mentality to a degree, but it's also important to approach the psychological aspect of this journey and may be what your surgery psychologist is worried about.

I'm not sure if I have binge eating disorder, but I ate an awful lot at night. That seems silly to put off approving you. You will definitely not be able to binge ear afterwards.
I Hope you get approved soon!

I guess they're just afraid you might binge eat after surgery and cause your stitches to open up. I had my surgery 2 weeks ago and I don't feel full at all. Apparently the nerves in my stomach just haven't healed yet so I can't feel food. It's hard because I have to stop myself at a certain amount even though I still want to eat more. With BED that might be dangerous I think. Anyway, I hope this works out and you have your surgery soon! I wish you all the best! ☺️

Yes relax,
Try and let food be just food now, with no control over you.
Try to eat most things very moist and don't take unnecessary chances.
Try to let go of those negative thoughts about the past and concentrate on the present and future

I'm from the UK had my sleeve surgery 12th April xx


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Hi,
Great to hear from you. I have been doing well, though I have had one or two moments here and there! However, I am happy that I had the op and have already lost two stone. Pretty amazing really.


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I'm from the UK, but live in the USA now. All my family are still in the UK... in fact snezanafoyer, they live in Devon too

Hi, I am from Devon in England. I have just registered and am six weeks post surgery, a bypass. Would love to hear from you.


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Hey :)
Wondering if there is anyone from the U.K. or Ireland here? I am from Northern Ireland and would be great to chat - thank you!

Hey :)
Wondering if there is anyone from the U.K. or Ireland here? I am from Northern Ireland and would be great to chat - thank you!

I just my had surgery a few days ago and while I was at the hospital my mom and friend came to visit (both of them wear hijab). They went home and I took a nap and when I woke up my nurse was standing by my bed putting syringes into my iv and she asked me if the people that visited me were related to me and I told her they're my mom and friend. She started telling me how much she hated the islamic hijab and what it stands for and how she liked other religions veils but not the islamic one. Later, she became incredibly rude and aggressive with me. She was trying to show me how to give myself the blood thinner injection that i'm supposed to take when I go home. She put it in my hand and told me to do it now. I told her to give me a second because I had just woken up and was feeling groggy but she started telling me not to be a coward and to do it now. I told her ok I'm gonna do it just give me 1 second to breathe but she grabbed my hand and pushed the needle into me against my will.
Later, she told me she would go to lunch for 30 mins and come back to help me walk. I waited for an hour and a half and when she didn't come me and my mom, who had just arrived, went to walk by ourselves. We had walked for half an hour and just got back to my room when the nurse came back and started yelling at me and my mom because she thought I hadn't walked and have been waiting for her the whole time. I told her I just got back from walking but she didn't believe me and was yelling at my mom and saying that my mom is going to be the death of me because of how much she spoils me and doesn't make me do stuff and my mom was telling her that we just walked but the nurse wouldn't have it and kept on going and saying that it's all my moms fault and she can't trust her to take care of me at home and she started trying to pull me up from my chair to walk and I told her I couldnt i just walked and im in a lot of pain now and she started yelling at me and I was crying and telling her i cant and that my stomach and back and arm hurt a lot and she would keep telling me to stop crying and get up and that I'm too lazy. She made me get up and walk and after that I asked to be discharged right away and I left that day. Every time I remember that nurse I get so mad at what happened and wish I could've done something.
Am I right to be mad? Any suggestions on what I should do?

Hi everyone :)
I was wondering if I could ask for some help please?
A quick introduction to my weight history.
SO from a young age I was always overweight. Primary school I was the chubby girl, in high school I was the fat girl and in university the weight piled on even more until I got to around 16 and a half stone where the weight maintained itself. Then in the year of 2016/17 I went on an extreme diet and exercise regime where I lost ALOT of weight by myself, in the beginning it was great I felt in control and very motivated but then by the end of 2017 I had lost too much weight, I was severely depressed, lacking in nutrients, I had no friends and my weight plummeted to 6 and a half stone :(. Then in February of 2018 something just snapped in me I was tired of being constantly anxious and avoiding food so I just started eating EVERYTHING I had banned and BOOM by the end of 2018 I was back up to 17 stone again!!
I understand that my body needed the food but my anorexia phase went straight into binge eating and I have been struggling ever since :( all that hard work for nothing but I was so miserable I just wish I hadn't taken it so far!
Now I want to have WLS (I am going to therapy) and have been in contact with a surgeon here in the UK who is lovely, I want to take my time, heal my mind and body but I am just so down with my relationship with myself and food at the moment :(
Can anyone offer any advice please? The surgeon believes the mini gastric bypass would be the best route but I would need to select the package with the 12 phycologist sessions.
How has everyone's experience been after surgery? I just am afraid of going back the way I was, I never want to be like that again but I am feeling horrible at the moment :(

Thank you! :)
Char

Hi everyone :)
I was wondering if I could ask for some help please?
A quick introduction to my weight history.
SO from a young age I was always overweight. Primary school I was the chubby girl, in high school I was the fat girl and in university the weight piled on even more until I got to around 16 and a half stone where the weight maintained itself. Then in the year of 2016/17 I went on an extreme diet and exercise regime where I lost ALOT of weight by myself, in the beginning it was great I felt in control and very motivated but then by the end of 2017 I had lost too much weight, I was severely depressed, lacking in nutrients, I had no friends and my weight plummeted to 6 and a half stone :(. Then in February of 2018 something just snapped in me I was tired of being constantly anxious and avoiding food so I just started eating EVERYTHING I had banned and BOOM by the end of 2018 I was back up to 17 stone again!!
I understand that my body needed the food but my anorexia phase went straight into binge eating and I have been struggling ever since :( all that hard work for nothing but I was so miserable I just wish I hadn't taken it so far!
Now I want to have WLS (I am going to therapy) and have been in contact with a surgeon here in the UK who is lovely, I want to take my time, heal my mind and body but I am just so down with my relationship with myself and food at the moment :(
Can anyone offer any advice please? The surgeon believes the mini gastric bypass would be the best route but I would need to select the package with the 12 phycologist sessions.
How has everyone's experience been after surgery? I just am afraid of going back the way I was, I never want to be like that again but I am feeling horrible at the moment :(

Thank you! :)
Char

Ah you are so hitting the mark about food changing the emotions! I go on a binge and don't think about what I am doing until after when I look back and realise it's been because of me feeling anxious, lonely and self-conscious.
Awh I am so sorry for your loss, I am sure that was hard to hear but you have already achieved so much pushing through with the decision! It will all be so worth it! I am like you in the sense that I am 25 and I dread to think what would my health be like in my 30s! 😞 and I would rather do it sooner than later.
I am already finding so much comfort on this forum, it is great to talk to people who aren't going crazy at you for even considering the surgery! Thank you so much, I am sure I will take you up on the offer 🙂

Hello char :)
I am currently 1day post-op, had a LGS performed. Only speaking from my experience because we seem to share the same past lifestyle. I went on a strict diet, losing so much weight, but once I hit my goal weight, I went back to eating and sure enough gained weight back. I would go back and forth trying to diet, my weight would go down, but eventually go back up. After years of the constant battle I started giving up, and I really let go, eventually hitting 307lbs. I knew I need a serious change if I was going to keep the weight off. So I turned to WLS and here I am. From start to finish it was about 5 months.

As far as the after math of the LGS, they pump your body up with a gas to perform the surgery. Well that gas sits inside your body for awhile after surgery causing like a discomfort (not a pain for me), just more or less an annoyance. Like you have to burp but can’t. Other then that, I’m doing great. No pain other then swallowing there’s a small amount of pain.

I was super nervous the day before surgery, to the point where I was contemplating canceling it. I kept telling myself maybe just one more diet, it’ll work but I am surrounding by lots of family and I knew, all the diets I’ve done over the past 5 years never worked. I’m glad I didn’t cancel it and pushed through.

Now I’m super excited to see how this changes my life. And from reading everyone’s success stories on here, it truly inspired me to push for the surgery. So if you’re battling with your weight, it’s definitely something to considered. Try reading some success stories and I can’t wait to get to my goal weight and post my own story. Good luck with everything 😊 hope that helps

I don't know the different between the mini bypass and the regular one... but I'd say go for the bypass over the sleeve if that's even on the table. I had the sleeve done and I was just hungry all the time. I know some people aren't, but I see a lot of people are. I'd just go for the best. I had the bypass done in February and I am not hungry. I still struggle with my brain wanting food, but that's going to be a lifelong struggle for me. I have an addiction and like all addictions, you have to work at it. It sounds like you are going into this with your eyes wide open, ready to deal with the psychological part of it, which is a great way to approach it.

I had gastric bypass surgery around 6 years ago and I am very pleased with the results. It is sort of like the gold standard for bariatric surgery. They have most of the bugs worked out. Mini-gastric bypass is somewhat new so I can not really assess it.
In general, many people try various kinds of diets prior to eventually getting gastric bypass surgery. Most of the time these are referred to as yo-yo diets. Because the individuals will lose some weight but then over time give up the diet and then gain the weight back and then some. So it is like a yo-yo. In your case it went to the extreme and you slid into anorexia. So the only advise here is that the psychological treatment component is very important for you for the surgery to work. (the package with the 12 phycologist sessions). Also if things go south sometimes after surgery then reactivate the physiological component.
The three most important elements after gastric bypass surgery are to meet your daily Protein, Fluid and Vitamin requirements. food is secondary because your body is converting your stored fat into the energy that drives your body. Thus you lose weight.