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After years of reading my medical reports and seeing terms and unflattering statements like obesity, morbid obesity, "composed mostly of fatty tissue", and "due to patient's habitus," (which is the medically polite way of saying "can't see sh*t due to too much fat!" I finally had a CT scan this week and the report has the term "dose lowering technique utilized due to patients size." WooHoo...I'm too small for a normal dose of radiation! That's a NSV in my book!

You and I are nearly identical--surgery day weight, current weight, eight months. I've been doing a dance around the 242-244 range for two weeks now, and I'm choosing not to panic (despite the panic wanting so badly to erupt) because I was losing so steadily for most of the fall so it seems inevitable that my body would suddenly go "WAIT." I don't have any wisdom about when it will end, but at least: This has to be normal, since I'm right there with you, too!

I’m in Louisiana too! It’s not easy but it IS possible

This makes me so happy. I’m having surgery 12/9 and we have the same starting weight (as of today,lol) and to hear of your lost in just 8 months and where your dr thinks you can get down to....gives me hope. Great job!!

Holy crap that’s amazing I can only wish to be as successful as you are at 8 months out. First month I have lost 30 pounds and I’m sure the Plato will happen but man you got this!! We all got this tbh

Congratulations on you success! 😊

I feel the same way! I’m a few weeks ahead of you (surgery was March 8th). I started to slow down in September, then had a 6 week stall and now I’m starting to lose a few here and there. My surgeon predicted I would get down to 184 and I’ve set a goal of 178. The doc at my weight loss center said that might be difficult considering my age (I’m 47) but I WILL DO IT!
I freaked out because I gained 2.5 lbs from Thanksgiving but added a few extra workout sessions and today, those suckers are gone. I’m terrified that I’ve hit the end of the losing cycle, but am determined to do everything I can to keep going.

it is reassuring to read similar posts and know others feel the same way, it keeps me going.
@FluffyChix I love the Barbie Dream Girl Goal, is it ok if I steal that?? 🤣
@comingupmilhouse You’ve got this!! 💪🏻💪🏻

Thank you both, so much!! Reading these was like the equivalent of taking a very deep, slow breath--and then nodding to myself at the end. I can do this, damn it. I'm not going to spiral into freakouts and assuming the worst. And FluffyChix, I have totally done the same thing, about goal weights, though for me, the 180 feels like the Barbie Dream Weight! Like what cat woman7 said, a total pipe dream. I HOPE I can come back on here and say, "Hit 180 and still going and need to come up with a new goal!" because--god, wouldn't that be amazing??

I'm at 8 months and a week: I was 406 before I started the pre-surgery diet, 368 on the day of surgery, and am now at 244. Which is awesome, SO awesome, but my surgeon and I set a goal for 180, and the idea of being under 200 pounds for the first time I can literally remember is so important to me. (Also I have clothes from a long-ago weight loss waiting for me in my closet which fit at around 210 pounds that are super cute and also totally mocking me by being super cute yet still too small.) So all I can do is think about how I'm Still Not There Yet...and then when I don't lose for a day or two, I panic: Is this the end? Is this when the surgery push stops, and I'm just this weight forever? I know, I'm super paranoid. I know, I'm overreacting. But does anyone else just get that freaked out fear that, with you getting closer to where you want to be so badly, that it will all end? How do you manage those feelings?

I'm at 8 months and a week: I was 406 before I started the pre-surgery diet, 368 on the day of surgery, and am now at 244. Which is awesome, SO awesome, but my surgeon and I set a goal for 180, and the idea of being under 200 pounds for the first time I can literally remember is so important to me. (Also I have clothes from a long-ago weight loss waiting for me in my closet which fit at around 210 pounds that are super cute and also totally mocking me by being super cute yet still too small.) So all I can do is think about how I'm Still Not There Yet...and then when I don't lose for a day or two, I panic: Is this the end? Is this when the surgery push stops, and I'm just this weight forever? I know, I'm super paranoid. I know, I'm overreacting. But does anyone else just get that freaked out fear that, with you getting closer to where you want to be so badly, that it will all end? How do you manage those feelings?

Thank you both, so much!! Reading these was like the equivalent of taking a very deep, slow breath--and then nodding to myself at the end. I can do this, damn it. I'm not going to spiral into freakouts and assuming the worst. And FluffyChix, I have totally done the same thing, about goal weights, though for me, the 180 feels like the Barbie Dream Weight! Like what cat woman7 said, a total pipe dream. I HOPE I can come back on here and say, "Hit 180 and still going and need to come up with a new goal!" because--god, wouldn't that be amazing??

I'm at 8 months and a week: I was 406 before I started the pre-surgery diet, 368 on the day of surgery, and am now at 244. Which is awesome, SO awesome, but my surgeon and I set a goal for 180, and the idea of being under 200 pounds for the first time I can literally remember is so important to me. (Also I have clothes from a long-ago weight loss waiting for me in my closet which fit at around 210 pounds that are super cute and also totally mocking me by being super cute yet still too small.) So all I can do is think about how I'm Still Not There Yet...and then when I don't lose for a day or two, I panic: Is this the end? Is this when the surgery push stops, and I'm just this weight forever? I know, I'm super paranoid. I know, I'm overreacting. But does anyone else just get that freaked out fear that, with you getting closer to where you want to be so badly, that it will all end? How do you manage those feelings?

P.S. I seemed to have longer stalls the further I got out, too. I'd stall for like a month and think..."this is it"....but then it would start up again. Just keep at it!
my surgeon's original goal for me was 180. Although I told him I'd be absolutely ecstatic if I got under 200. MY first goal was 199. 180 seemed like a pipe dream to me. But that wasn't too, too difficult, actually. It's those last 20 or 30 lbs that can be a real bear to get off. But a lot of us have gotten there, so it's not impossible!

Congrats on your great success!!! Yay you!!! I totally understand where you are coming from! I had those feelings too. I was crazy determined though! And I probably drove everyone here nuts! LOL. It's pretty natural. We've had a lifetime (most of us) dealing with the disappointment of "failing the present x-diet we were trying". And each time the pushback metabolically was worse.
My doctor first set a goal of 156lbs for me. I thought I'd never see it--even though my goal was 150lbs (what I weighed in high school). But never did I believe I could reach 130lbs. So I made 3 goals and a 4th top secret BDG Goal (Barbie Dream Girl Goal) which I still don't fully believe in. LOL.
You can do this. It takes fierce determination and mixing things up and not cheating. It takes doing the headwork and using this time to break up with unhealthy food relationships. If you emotionally eat, fix that now too while you have the honeymoon in your favor. I'm coming up on 21 months right now and I'm still losing when I go back into WLM from maintenance mode. This week I lost about 5lbs of bloat from Fatsgiving. I'm gonna see if I can break the 130lb sound barrier. You can do this!
(OH and my doc nor my RD thought I would be able to lose this much weight. My highest was 325lbs and the most recent high was 287lbs.)

I'm at 8 months and a week: I was 406 before I started the pre-surgery diet, 368 on the day of surgery, and am now at 244. Which is awesome, SO awesome, but my surgeon and I set a goal for 180, and the idea of being under 200 pounds for the first time I can literally remember is so important to me. (Also I have clothes from a long-ago weight loss waiting for me in my closet which fit at around 210 pounds that are super cute and also totally mocking me by being super cute yet still too small.) So all I can do is think about how I'm Still Not There Yet...and then when I don't lose for a day or two, I panic: Is this the end? Is this when the surgery push stops, and I'm just this weight forever? I know, I'm super paranoid. I know, I'm overreacting. But does anyone else just get that freaked out fear that, with you getting closer to where you want to be so badly, that it will all end? How do you manage those feelings?

I kept losing until month 20, although my loss really slowed down after about six months out. But still...it kept going as long as I stuck to my plan. So there's hope!!

I totally struggled around the same time in my journey. I knew I needed to start getting serious about exercise if I wanted to get more weight off. I got myself an apple watch and started activity sharing with my friends and chasing after the built in "awards". Well, i'm now down 180 lbs. and I attribute the last 50 or so to getting my ass to the gym and competing with my friends.

I don't know if you have a therapist already, but a good one is such a help to process how hard this all is (I mean, I'm at two months, you know SO much better than me). Though I'd encourage a life coach: I found one who is so positive and encouraging, even when I'm just cemented in my head and in a bad place, she can help me find a release and feel optimistic, find a way forward. It's a little more constructive and action-oriented than just a therapist, but more than that, she's a cheerleader for me.
But. You deserve a cheerleader NOW, so: You can do it--you already did it! You're amazing! You got this.

I don't know if you have a therapist already, but a good one is such a help to process how hard this all is (I mean, I'm at two months, you know SO much better than me). Though I'd encourage a life coach: I found one who is so positive and encouraging, even when I'm just cemented in my head and in a bad place, she can help me find a release and feel optimistic, find a way forward. It's a little more constructive and action-oriented than just a therapist, but more than that, she's a cheerleader for me.
But. You deserve a cheerleader NOW, so: You can do it--you already did it! You're amazing! You got this.

Hey y'all-- I'm two months post-sleeve and something a little odd's been happening lately (maybe the last week, though the past few days is when I've really been paying attention). I get hit with just massive, intense hunger pains; they seem to radiate out of my stomach. It doesn't make much sense, though, since I will have eaten at least an hour before. (I've also been sticking to the high Protein, low carb diet, so this isn't a sugar crash or anything.) A nurse at my surgeon's office told me that it's likely thirst (huh!), and if drinking doesn't make it go away, then I can turn to a little snack like nuts. But she said it is most certainly thirst. Interesting: I mean, often when this happens, my mouth IS dry... But I'm not sure why the hunger pains don't go away after I drink something--perhaps a sign I'm really, really dehydrated? I HAVE started exercising in the past week, maybe I'm more dehydrated by that than I realize...
Anyone else experience this?? Is this maybe stomach acid, too? Oh, who knows. Any feedback is appreciated!
Also, unrelated but I just want to say: Two months as of Sunday; 38 pounds lost in pre-op diet, 41 pounds since surgery. 27 pounds from now I'll finally cross 300lbs, and oh my god, y'all. I got a long long way to go after that, but it's incredible that something that was only a dream two months ago is within reach. Makes these weird hunger pains worth enduring

I don't know if you have a therapist already, but a good one is such a help to process how hard this all is (I mean, I'm at two months, you know SO much better than me). Though I'd encourage a life coach: I found one who is so positive and encouraging, even when I'm just cemented in my head and in a bad place, she can help me find a release and feel optimistic, find a way forward. It's a little more constructive and action-oriented than just a therapist, but more than that, she's a cheerleader for me.
But. You deserve a cheerleader NOW, so: You can do it--you already did it! You're amazing! You got this.

I don't know if you have a therapist already, but a good one is such a help to process how hard this all is (I mean, I'm at two months, you know SO much better than me). Though I'd encourage a life coach: I found one who is so positive and encouraging, even when I'm just cemented in my head and in a bad place, she can help me find a release and feel optimistic, find a way forward. It's a little more constructive and action-oriented than just a therapist, but more than that, she's a cheerleader for me.
But. You deserve a cheerleader NOW, so: You can do it--you already did it! You're amazing! You got this.

yes - dehydration can cause that - so can stomach acid. Are you on something for that? Many clinics put people on some kind of prescription antacid for the first 3-6 months.

Me too. Six weeks in and this is my second stall. I'm doing everything right, and yet... It's just dispiriting to have done all of this and feel like it's not working. So. What I'm doing to stay positive and keep on track is that I pulled out a few pieces of clothing that I'm really close to fitting in to, like five to ten pounds away, plus the dresses I was wearing pre-surgery up on the wall to remind me that I'm making progress and hang in there. And I spent yesterday doing fun stuff, like going to the movies and getting a blow out. And I'm going to put my scale away until Friday because seeing the number not move every day is not a loving thing to do.
We'll get through this, damn it!

Me too. Six weeks in and this is my second stall. I'm doing everything right, and yet... It's just dispiriting to have done all of this and feel like it's not working. So. What I'm doing to stay positive and keep on track is that I pulled out a few pieces of clothing that I'm really close to fitting in to, like five to ten pounds away, plus the dresses I was wearing pre-surgery up on the wall to remind me that I'm making progress and hang in there. And I spent yesterday doing fun stuff, like going to the movies and getting a blow out. And I'm going to put my scale away until Friday because seeing the number not move every day is not a loving thing to do.
We'll get through this, damn it!

Thank you SO much! I was trying to hide from everyone how freaked out I am; this has helped me relax a lot, instantly.