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Recidivist

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    Recidivist got a reaction from BlondePatriotInCDA in I just don't know   
    I'm not a relationship expert either. However, based on what you've shared, I would guess it's insecurity. When you were obese, perhaps he didn't worry about other men being interested in you, but he could see this as a real possibility now that you've lost so much weight. He may simply need reassurance of your commitment to him. This should be obvious after 20 years, but your circumstances have changed. Even if we know it's true, we all want to hear our partners tell us that they love us and would never leave us!
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    Recidivist got a reaction from BeanitoDiego in Losing more weight NOT exercising???   
    Exactly right. You will lose weight whether you exercise or not. Personally, I did essentially no exercise at all for two years after surgery. I considered an exercise regimen as "Phase 2" of my overall health plan, which I started in year 3. I'm getting more toned and have more strength, but the impact on my weight even at this point is minimal.
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    Recidivist got a reaction from Rebee in 10 years out From Sleeve   
    Thanks for posting this. there are very few people on this board so long after their surgeries, and many of us wonder what it will be like in the long term. Your post is a valuable reminder that this is a lifetime change in our lifestyle and relationship with food.
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    Recidivist got a reaction from MelbaT in Mulit-Vitamins throuh Amazon   
    Arabesque, that's the cheapest option offered on Bariatric Pal. I think my best bet might be to send them to a friend in the U.S. and have them send it via the U.S. post office.
    Since you're in Australia, where do you get your multi-vitamins--and what kind do you use?
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    Recidivist got a reaction from MelbaT in Mulit-Vitamins throuh Amazon   
    Arabesque, that's the cheapest option offered on Bariatric Pal. I think my best bet might be to send them to a friend in the U.S. and have them send it via the U.S. post office.
    Since you're in Australia, where do you get your multi-vitamins--and what kind do you use?
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    Recidivist got a reaction from SleeveMeAlone23 in Pre-Op Diet Hell   
    I was on a full liquid diet for two weeks before surgery (protein shakes) and found the first few days the hardest. I was also going through caffeine withdrawal, which gave me terrible headaches at first. It was pretty easy by week two. Rest assured that it will be easy to stick to your diet for a few months after surgery, because you won't feel like eating.
    I totally understand your breakup with food. I binged on some of my favorite food the day before my pre-surgery diet. I'm now four years out and am eating more or less normally, although not in the same quantities nor the same unhealthy things I used to eat. I'm no longer tempted by my pre-surgery favorites and don't miss them.
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    Recidivist got a reaction from SleeveMeAlone23 in Pre-Op Diet Hell   
    I was on a full liquid diet for two weeks before surgery (protein shakes) and found the first few days the hardest. I was also going through caffeine withdrawal, which gave me terrible headaches at first. It was pretty easy by week two. Rest assured that it will be easy to stick to your diet for a few months after surgery, because you won't feel like eating.
    I totally understand your breakup with food. I binged on some of my favorite food the day before my pre-surgery diet. I'm now four years out and am eating more or less normally, although not in the same quantities nor the same unhealthy things I used to eat. I'm no longer tempted by my pre-surgery favorites and don't miss them.
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    Recidivist got a reaction from catwoman7 in loose skin after gastric sleeve   
    I'm a male who was 59 when I had gastric bypass--and yes, loose skin is an issue. I have it on most parts of my body to varying degrees, but it was most noticeable on my stomach and neck. I was obese for decades and skin just hasn't snapped back.
    I look older than I did prior to surgery due to sagging skin on my face (jowls and neck), and the only plastic surgery I've considered is a lower face lift and neck lift because they are always visible. (I still might do it.). I can live with the loose skin everywhere else--but I'm now almost 64 and am way past caring about what other people think of my body. Yes, it's a bit embarrassing to appear on the beach in a swimsuit, but I've managed to find a high bathing suit that covers the worst bits.
    In spite of all the above, I have zero regrets. I'll take a saggy body that is healthy and energetic over my old fat body any day!
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    Recidivist got a reaction from catwoman7 in loose skin after gastric sleeve   
    I'm a male who was 59 when I had gastric bypass--and yes, loose skin is an issue. I have it on most parts of my body to varying degrees, but it was most noticeable on my stomach and neck. I was obese for decades and skin just hasn't snapped back.
    I look older than I did prior to surgery due to sagging skin on my face (jowls and neck), and the only plastic surgery I've considered is a lower face lift and neck lift because they are always visible. (I still might do it.). I can live with the loose skin everywhere else--but I'm now almost 64 and am way past caring about what other people think of my body. Yes, it's a bit embarrassing to appear on the beach in a swimsuit, but I've managed to find a high bathing suit that covers the worst bits.
    In spite of all the above, I have zero regrets. I'll take a saggy body that is healthy and energetic over my old fat body any day!
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    Recidivist reacted to Lisa XO in 34 and loving life   
    Glad you are doing well and feeling great!

    I'm jealous you kept your boobage. Mine seem to be deflating at a record pace. I'm only 3.5 months out and I think 20% of my total weight loss is hair and boobs. lol
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    Recidivist got a reaction from longhaul68 in Tips/Tricks to get thru the 2 wk pre-op liquid diet??   
    I was on shakes only, and I found that it was extremely hard only for the first three or four days. After that, it seemed like my body adapted and it was much easier. I looked at it as a good test of my willpower for later on when I would really need to be disciplined about my diet. (Turned out that I wouldn't feel hungry again for months!)
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    Recidivist got a reaction from Arabesque in Bariatric Friendly Starbucks Coffees   
    First, you should ask your surgeon about his/her guidance on caffeine after surgery. Most surgeons don't want you to consume caffeine for a certain period. (Mine recommended a year after gastric bypass, which is when I resumed drinking coffee.)
    I think the only acceptable option would be black coffee, with skim milk and artificial sweetener if you like. (That's my go-to drink every morning, made at home.). You really shouldn't do anything with sugar or fat after surgery, including whole milk, syrups, whipped cream, processed sugar, etc. Any of those would be empty calories when you should be prioritizing Protein.
    When your surgeon says you can have caffeine, you could do an iced coffee with skim milk, but I'm not sure there is any way to make a Frappucino bariatric-friendly.
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    Recidivist got a reaction from Nyxienoodles in Worried I won't lose enough   
    Big Sue took the words out of my mouth. In general, I don't think the amount of weight you will lose is a major factor in determining which surgery to have. For me, it was gastric bypass because of GERD, which was already an issue for me before surgery.
    The bottom line is that you are going to lose a significant amount of weight with the sleeve, which will vastly improve your health and your quality of life. At this point, that's what you should focus on and not the fact that you "might" have lost more weight with a different surgery. People have very successful long-term outcomes with both sleeve and bypass.
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    Recidivist got a reaction from Arabesque in Bariatric Friendly Starbucks Coffees   
    First, you should ask your surgeon about his/her guidance on caffeine after surgery. Most surgeons don't want you to consume caffeine for a certain period. (Mine recommended a year after gastric bypass, which is when I resumed drinking coffee.)
    I think the only acceptable option would be black coffee, with skim milk and artificial sweetener if you like. (That's my go-to drink every morning, made at home.). You really shouldn't do anything with sugar or fat after surgery, including whole milk, syrups, whipped cream, processed sugar, etc. Any of those would be empty calories when you should be prioritizing Protein.
    When your surgeon says you can have caffeine, you could do an iced coffee with skim milk, but I'm not sure there is any way to make a Frappucino bariatric-friendly.
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    Recidivist reacted to Arabesque in Bariatric Friendly Starbucks Coffees   
    Watched an interesting British medical program recently that talked about how caffeine restricts your absorption of Iron (by up to 65%). This is a concern because low iron levels & anaemia can be a side effect many experience after surgery.
    I too was a no caffeine after surgery. I drink green tea which I was allowed so it didn’t bother me. My surgeon is a no caffeine proponent because it can be harsh on your sensitive tummy. There are some who have coffee in hospital so you can never tell.
    As @Recidivist advised this is a conversation best had with your surgeon.
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    Recidivist got a reaction from Arabesque in Bariatric Friendly Starbucks Coffees   
    First, you should ask your surgeon about his/her guidance on caffeine after surgery. Most surgeons don't want you to consume caffeine for a certain period. (Mine recommended a year after gastric bypass, which is when I resumed drinking coffee.)
    I think the only acceptable option would be black coffee, with skim milk and artificial sweetener if you like. (That's my go-to drink every morning, made at home.). You really shouldn't do anything with sugar or fat after surgery, including whole milk, syrups, whipped cream, processed sugar, etc. Any of those would be empty calories when you should be prioritizing Protein.
    When your surgeon says you can have caffeine, you could do an iced coffee with skim milk, but I'm not sure there is any way to make a Frappucino bariatric-friendly.
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    Recidivist got a reaction from Arabesque in ESG experience from hell   
    And sue him for malpractice!!
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    Recidivist got a reaction from Arabesque in ESG experience from hell   
    And sue him for malpractice!!
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    Recidivist got a reaction from Arabesque in ESG experience from hell   
    And sue him for malpractice!!
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    Recidivist got a reaction from Arabesque in ESG experience from hell   
    And sue him for malpractice!!
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    Recidivist reacted to Arabesque in Mulit-Vitamins throuh Amazon   
    I wondered if sending them first to a US friend or family member first might be an option for you too.
    I don’t need to take Vitamins anymore except for Vitamin D in winter. (Bonus of having a sleeve. 😉) My dietician recommended BioCeuticals. The ones I took were capsules but they do some as tablets, liquids & sprays (the D I use is a spray). Don’t know if they have any as a chew though. You can buy them direct or from certain pharmacies (they keep them behind the counter with all the better drugs).

    https://www.bioceuticals.com.au/
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    Recidivist got a reaction from BayougirlMrsS in Reset   
    Spinoza is exactly right. The "reset" people talk about is a psychological fresh start, not an actual physical phenomenon. I have said here before that I think it's a little extreme, but I support anything that helps people find a way to get back on track.
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    Recidivist got a reaction from Sigh in Mulit-Vitamins throuh Amazon   
    Hi, Sigh. I did find Bariatric Pal on Amazon, but when I go to purchase it says that they can't be delivered to my address. I should have mentioned that.
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    Recidivist got a reaction from Jillian K8 in 2.5 years post op and gaining like crazy   
    I understand your frustration. However, 20 pounds is definitely not "gaining like crazy." It's fairly common to gain +/- 20 pounds in the second year after surgery and beyond. Very few of stayed at the low weight we reached in the year after surgery.
    Your focus now should be to stay more or less where you are without gaining more, and your best bet would be to consult a nutritionist. Your surgeon wouldn't be very relevant at this point in your journey.
    Many people claim they have "stretched their pouch" and can therefore eat more food, but my surgeon claims that is an urban myth and is essentially impossible. Our restrictions do ease over time and we are able to eat a greater volume and variety of food than we could at first.
    Also, a "pouch reset" does not shrink your pouch and increase your restriction. It's really just a psychological/motivational tool to get you back on track with healthier eating habits. Personally, I think it's a bit extreme, and you can do the same thing by simply re-focusing and shifting your mindset. However, if it works for you, then go for it.
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    Recidivist got a reaction from BayougirlMrsS in Reset   
    Spinoza is exactly right. The "reset" people talk about is a psychological fresh start, not an actual physical phenomenon. I have said here before that I think it's a little extreme, but I support anything that helps people find a way to get back on track.

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