CyndieRI

I don't do progress pictures, I do progress-dressing! Every month, I try on clothes that had been too small for me. It's great when I find I can fit in them - it's even more brilliant when they become too big for me! I find looking at photos to be too subjective - I tend to see them with my 'fat eyes' - but I can't argue with loose clothing.

Having a legal consultation is not the same as suing him. No one but a lawyer can let you know if you have a case... As with most things in life, you have to trust your gut.
A lot of times, women have been socialized not to make a scene, to not make a fuss, to lie take it (like[mention=314375]LadySin[/mention] 's doormat)...this is your literal life and livlihood--get a consult from a few lawyers--they won't take something to court that they can't win. If they say you have no case, let it go, but you owe it to your piece of mind/wallet to find out. If nothing else, report him to the hospital and his licencing body.
Good luck!
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Agreed. I'm out here in dystopian dating wastelands and she's casually spilling Water in a drought...

Ugh. What a crock of crap. As if attraction is all there is at this age!
Can I just tell you that if I had a man that paid as much attention to me as you seem to do for your wife, I'd be so freaking in love and happy I'd never leave? You could look like a troll and have 16 toes and I would love you from my soul. THAT is love. Look for it next time!

There is a certain point in the relationship when the thing that should attract a partner most is their personality and mind not their looks. We all age, get wrinkles, saggy bits etc. Some of us gain weight, others lose but inside it is still the person that you loved.
It's sad when a person forgets that

My husband’s newest comment now as I’m trying to turn the heat up while he’s driving is “OMG! Eat a cheeseburger!” Hmmmm - let me think.... no thanks!! Lol!

I am formerly the Human Heater and im 5 days post op laying on the couch with shirt jacket and 3 blankets.. AND i live in goddamn Texas. I used to envy my friends who were always cold cause i was always sweating and now i cant get warm to save my life!

Same here was always Hot. Now I have 5 blankets on my bed. That commercial for the weighted blanket, I have it beat. But it is very cozy. Till the Menopause hot flash hits and I have to come out of my cocoon for 2 mins and go back in. LOL

My surgery is set for the beginning of the year 2019 has got to be a better year than this last year. Everything so far is going So smooth.. I have everything in check and in line. My date is 01/15/19 at 1pm that is the time of my surgery. I will have my two oldest daughters with me to cheer me on and support me while my husband preps every thing at the house with the school age kids..lol ..lots of love in my family .. I have a great support from my best friend and my family its wonderful.. But ill see what it's like after the fact..dduntdundun
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GUYS. I JUST GOT ANOTHER GIFT.

IT'S A bread TRAY.
OMGGGGGG. lmao.

Preface: All my bosses (I have 6) know I recently had gastric bypass (7 weeks ago today). Christmas presents have been trickling in... so far I've received...
1) A large basket of candy
2) Panera and Dairy Queen gift cards (My mom and stepdad have called dibs)
3) Sparkling cider (Regifting to my aunt next week)
4) A tropical pine tree that must stay indoors and grows to 15' tall (everyone else got candied nuts, but I guess he paid attention and realized I couldn't have those)
I cannot stop laughing at my little (eventually gigantic) tree. I've named him Stu. He's covered on confetti and on my desk.
It's the thought that counts, guys. lmao. Ohhhh my.

Sorry that you were in so much pain but you will start to feel better each day. It's great that you can tolerate Water which is so important and so you won't get dehydrated because some people have a hard time after surgery with water.
I wish you all the best and a speedy recovery. You got this!! 🙂

I had revision from lapband to sleeve in March 2018. I had the band for 16 years. I lost 130lbs initially with band..kept it off until year 12 when I had learned I stretched my esophagus. My band was unfilled to let my esophagus heal and in less than 2 months, I quickly gained back 50lbs. It was devastating. I didn't go out and suddenly eat all the bad foods I couldn't. I ilterally was gaining 5lbs a day initially after literally starving myself. So after 2 years, I had an infection of the port and tubing and that was removed. I was supposed to go back in 3-4 months to have it replaced. I never did..2 years later..I developed another infection and my surgeon decided it was time to remove the band and he suggested sleeve revision.I literally had no time to research the sleeve. I was hoping to finally get this extra 50lbs off and go back to where I was. Surgery was a success..band removed, sleeve revised..I was not hungry AT ALL initially..I did slowly lose about 20lbs..Was happy to think I was only 30lbs from my lowest weight and fitting into all the old clothes I had put aside 4 years earlier.I started to regain the weight..slowly..I started doing HIIT classes (High intensity interval training) in a 21 day transformation challenge. I finished that and then wound up trading membership for marketing services. So I have been doing that for 2 months at least 4 days a week..sometimes 5. My body is definitely stronger and more toned, but I gained back just about all the 20lbs I lost shy a few lbs. And please don't say muscle weighs more than fat..it doesn't..it is just more dense and takes up less space than fat...so I know I didnt gain 20lbs of muscle. So although I feel more fit and strong, I am back up to my fat clothes...sighhh...I am more hungry than I was initially. I figure I put my body into starvation mode out of surgery and my body decided it wanted back to the old set point. I don't know! I didn't eat dramatically different.No I am not measuring everything but at minimum I should be maintaining at what I am eating and not gaining..especially since now I am working out more regularly. My body is majorly confused. I think because this was my 2nd surgery..and I didn't have a larger amount to lose..
With all the quirks of the bad..once I lost the weight I didn't have to work hard to keep it off..it stayed off all those years. This was a kick in the gut to quickly gain everything I lost a few months earlier. Not loving this sleeve at the moment...

I agree with LadySin! I would contact a lawyer. Because of your first surgeon’s error, you now have to go through another surgery - more time out of work (if you work) - and another while healing process. And while it’s great that you will be getting the revision surgery, I don’t think that makes up for all you have and will go through. Good luck!!!

Yes! I was always hot before and now I’m freezing - and I still weigh 300lbs!! My highest was 365 so I’m down 65 lbs. I can’t even IMAGINE how cold I’ll be when I lose more weight!! I think I’m going to buy a heating blanket because I’m having trouble falling asleep because I’m so cold!!

Ima try to say something here that will make you smile or make you happy or make you feel inspired. You don't necessarily have to become complicated about your eating. There is one truth for sure in all this. Weight gain means more calories than your activity level warrants. It's almost certain that you have a shitty metabolism and the only way to improve this is more activity and less or better food choices. This is a disgusting oversimplification of whats really going on in your body, both chemically, mentally and physically, but still, a simple truth that you hate, but know. Accept, no matter how frustrating, that you don't get to eat a 2000 calorie diet and maintain your goal weight.
Rules to Follow:
1. Always eat Breakfast, lunch and dinner.
2. Don't eat more than 1 level cup of food for a meal (1.5 cups if your a male) tiny plates and 1 cup bowls are great here. Its all I use anymore.
3. Eat for expected activity ahead. (example, more calories in your meal if you are going to demand more of yourself physically. Dinner should not be a calorie dense meal if you are going to veg out on the couch and wind down for the night.)
I'm gonna leave it at three to make it look simple! So for now, don't worry about counting the calories, just worry about the portion size. If you find that you start losing weight quickly than consider adding in a mid morning snack and late afternoon snack that are no more than 100 calories to help stave off hunger. But first, see if you can start losing again and adjust from there. If you aren't losing weight, then you have to get more complicated with looking at and logging your calories. Hopefully you won't have to do that though!
Please, love the food you eat. Become an absolute snob with your choices! I can tell you to eat 3 oz of lean Protein, 2 oz of starch and 3 oz of veggies with each meal, but I feel like that kinda kills creativity. You get a cup so make it worth. This ratio is a guideline to bring balance to your meals, but don't let it stop you from making a variety of culinary art and excitement. Don't be scared to make casseroles, stir fry, Soups, crazy salads with weird flavor combinations. And, you know it...but sugar is evil.
I know you're absolutely dejected right now. It's sooooooo hard to admit to others and to yourself that something has gone wrong. You butchered your body to reach a goal that you didn't keep and now you feel like a turd. I want you to think of something else though. What if you didn't have the surgery? Where might you be right now? Maybe you would have done to yourself what I did. Maybe you might have been 475 lbs and super sick and then thinking about surgery. I have a flap of skin that hangs way down off my tummy area that covers my privates! Sorry for graphic imagery, but, it roles up like a cute burrito as well. Ima have to have that removed on my own dime or convince myself that its fun to think of Mexican food when I'm laying in bed at night!
A lot of people get lost thinking about where they didn't get too in the positive direction after WLS, but in their self misery, they forget to consider where they didn't go in the negative direction too. This counts for something huge in my book!!!...and I do know huge very, very well. 😂 Pick yourself up, dust off your bum, and love yourself. You absolutely cannot reach a goal if you are hating yourself. Reach out for help from somebody, a nutritionist, a personal trainer, a friend, maybe a psychologist even. Keep visiting these forums and posting things as you go. Its very therapeutic.
PS-My apologies if I have ruined Mexican food for anyone. Sometimes my humor gets a little morbid, but I do mean it all in good fun.

I agree with LadySin! I would contact a lawyer. Because of your first surgeon’s error, you now have to go through another surgery - more time out of work (if you work) - and another while healing process. And while it’s great that you will be getting the revision surgery, I don’t think that makes up for all you have and will go through. Good luck!!!

I’m asking for prayers for my dog - Bernie the Bernese Mountain Dog. We know he has cancer in his knee but today we will find out if it has spread. If it hasn’t, he will have his leg amputated (he’s not using it at all anyway) and chemotherapy. If it HAS spread, we will have to make a decision that I REALLY don’t want to have to make. He’s my best friend and I’m heartbroken!

It sounds like you really have a lust to pursue your goals based on the things you said about your education. That's a boon in your favor when it comes to deciding how to address your health too. Shows you have guts to see difficult things through and WLS will be a difficult thing. No one can tell you to do surgery, or don't do surgery. In the end, that is entirely YOUR personal decision, but it's completely natural to feel apprehensive and unsure. Try not to let the unfortunate stumbling blocks you had in the past influence your decision now. It wasn't a supernatural force trying to save you from a bad decision, just coincidence and happen chance.
Things to consider when making your decision:
How much over weight are you?
How many times have you tried to get things right and failed?
How long have you been over weight?
How much is your physical activity hindered by it?
Do you have any other weight-related health issues?
The surgery doesn't just help you with losing weight from where you are now, but it will help you avoid future weight gain. The older you are, the sicker you are, the heavier you are, will make this procedure more risky. I waited until I had high blood pressure, diabetes, high cholesterol and my body was in a physically terrible place. So was my mind. I wish wish wish, I had pursued help sooner! My body will always bear the scars of the heavy, unhappy person I used to be. I'm not vain, but there is something of a disappointment in seeing excesses of skin draping from my shrinking body. Not only that, but I resigned myself to only have one child who is now eighteen. My unchecked obesity completely interfered with anymore babies and now at 43 and a son in college, I don't feel it would be responsible to risk more babies even though I would have loved to try for a girl. It is what it is.
Both my mother and father are super morbidly obese. This was another factor I took into consideration. The same genetics and poor eating habits they suffer from are likely the same things I'm contending with.
My job security was in jeopardy. I was having trouble doing all the things I needed to be doing in a timely manner and I was beginning to see signs this was wearing on the patience of my superiors. Likewise, obesity can interfere with job pursuit. You will NEVER know if it was your weight that put them off to select a different candidate for the job but it will be on your mind when you get rejections.
I know I've painted a picture that shows more favor to having the surgery than choosing a different path to success. That's because I'm terribly biased in favor of surgery from my own personal experience, but I do believe it's not an appropriate choice for everyone. I had complication from my initial sleeve that put me back in the hospital twice since then for a total of three surgeries and hospital stays in less than a year. All seems to be right now, but it hasn't been easy. I want to punch anyone who tries to suggest I took the easy way out. Despite how hard it all was, I wouldn't take it back. If I could go back in time for a redo, I would do it all over again.
Good luck making your decision. Be brave and make a plan weather you do surgery or not.

23yr relationship. Im now 42, i cook every night, flowers weekly, love and adore my wife more every day. Found out she has had multiple online affairs and now wants a divorce, “I’m just not attracted to skinny guys” she said. Ouch. So its a human thing not just a man thing.

We have a 9 and 2 year old.

Biggest 440lbs
Day of surgery 404lbs
Today 205lbs

Constipation?
If we extrapolate that further then we get
Diet, high Protein, low carb, low fibre etc
So maybe what is causing this spike is the focus on protein and not enough roughage.

Thank you for the heads up! We're working for a fix on this - you do not need to change your email address 🙂

@LadySin. I even said to myself, you're allowing this man to walk on you and treat you like crap. I knew in my head, that just going back and forth with him in an argument wouldn't get me anywhere. I needed to get documented proof of his negligence. Now that I have that, I'm just trying to see which way I want to go. I prayed and said if I can get my surgery done over the right way, I would let it go, but my gut is telling me not to let him get away with this. I don't think it would hurt to speak with a lawyer and see what he or she says on the matter. I have to go through this surgery again. I work for myself, so if I don't work, I don't get paid and I know I will have to take at least a week off.

They also have incredible malpractice insurance for when these cases arise.
Don't be a doormat. Don't turn the other cheek. You can get a lawyer as every bit as good as that doctor's. In an ideal occurrence you wouldn't even have to sue. Everything will be take care of via negations between the lawyers. Maybe you can get back any money you have to come out of pocket with for the revision.
Get a good lawyer and there will be no stress on your part. Your job is to heal and get better. Your lawyer would take care of the rest.

Feburary 2019. Omg! Now I'm getting nervous. But extremely excited.
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