CyndieRI

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Not for a minute. OK, I did, for a few minutes post-op (does that count?) Other than that, no way, no how.

THE SAME THING HAPPENED TO ME. LIKE, REALLY?? Only I didn't see the nutritionist, I had to feel bad all day and only found peace and better info on here with all of you guys. I felt like a total failure. Hang in there!!

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I wouldn’t follow what he gave you for a number. I would follow the nutritionist diet.. I saw my surgeon on the 13th of November and I had surgery on the 24th of October (just shy of 3 weeks apart he told me that he was surprised I had only lost 10 pounds and should have at least hit 25-30 lbs since surgery (in 3weeks??) that’s crazy.

I brought this up at my follow up appointments with my nutritionist which was November 22nd and she raised her eyebrows and said he’s nuts and you’re losing weight at a good rate of 2lbs a week. She said ignore him and follow the diet.

I felt like failure when I saw him and I thought about sabotaging myself because of it! I really had to mentally push myself pass what he had said and redirect my focus on healthier thoughts so I increased walking and added 3lb weights to my workouts. My surgery weight was 242.2 and today I’m 225.6

I’m happy with my progress.. pay no mind to that Drs stupid comments I think he’s an idiot for saying what he said. You’re doing great and doing what you can .. stick to your nutritionist diet

Totally off topic - but do you have alpaca?? I went to an alpaca farm today as I treat (I hit 70lbs lost - 38 before sleeve and 32 after). I had such a great time. I even got to pet a baby!!

This would make me angry if my doctor said this to me. Tell me to follow the diet. Tell me to exercise. But don't give me a number. That's out of my control and will only stress me out. Eat what you're supposed to eat and kiss of the rest. Just my two cents, LOL.

Just do your best. You're doing this for you, not your doctor.

I'm surprised that, as a former fat person, you aren't painfully aware of the sensation of people staring at you and then sniggering. Or the horrible feeling that you've JUST missed catching someone's eye because they look away a second before you made eye contact, and now they're exchanging significant looks with their friends.
It's not actually harmless. Communication isn't just verbal and overt; when you're mocking someone, they usually know you're doing it, even if you haven't walked right up to them and said "you think you're sexy but you're FAT". That's been one of the strangest (and most depressing) discoveries while losing weight: the absence of that feeling that I'm being observed but excluded. I can't tell you how vividly different it is to get on a subway car these days; before, I'd get on a somewhat crowded car and most of the people would treat me like I'd put on an invisibility cloak while a few would openly stare and judge. Now everyone sees me and no one stares, and some even move their bags so I can sit down.
The energy you put out there is a real and palpable thing. If you silently hate someone, they usually know you don't like them. If you silently love someone, they often feel that too. And if you silently laugh at someone or judge them, same deal.

With all that Protein and cheese - how will you poop?!?!

Being overweight sucked. It sucked that people stared at me, that I got an endorphin kick off of eating, that planes have middle seats, that the clothes I wore were the best I could assemble out of bad options. It sucked that social events were based around calorie-laden moments. It sucked that I had to spend years trying diets and counseling and have humiliating conversations with HR to get this op covered, then do a complicated insurance switcheroo when they said no, and then scrape up the money to cover the surgery. It sucked that even when I did lose weight before, I’d regain it when people’s reaction to me (shocked praise, aggressive flirting, extensive recitations of all the hideous health complaints I’d now avoid) actually made me REGAIN just so they’d STOP TALKING.
So no, I don’t judge. I feel sad that the other person is likely still trapped in some part of that depressive cycle, whether they’re actively looking to lose or not. And then I treat them exactly as I would absolutely anyone else.
My one rule with this surgery is that if a thin person asks me how I lost weight, I generally don’t spill the Beans because they’re usually looking for random diet tips or are being nosy. But if a fat person asks, I tell them honestly. The last thing I want to do is imply that I lost this weight through diet and exercise alone, and I want them to be able to ask me anything they want to know.

Great photo!! Alpacas are on my bucket list for when I retire! I live in central London but definitely want to move out and have a calmer, stress-free life! 😊

Totally off topic - but do you have alpaca?? I went to an alpaca farm today as I treat (I hit 70lbs lost - 38 before sleeve and 32 after). I had such a great time. I even got to pet a baby!!

Totally off topic - but do you have alpaca?? I went to an alpaca farm today as I treat (I hit 70lbs lost - 38 before sleeve and 32 after). I had such a great time. I even got to pet a baby!!

Yay congrats on losing 6.5 stone!!!! Come on aboard!
But please don't hold me up as a success story. I'm just a big ol' backsliding hairy sinner trying to muddle my way through it one day at a time! But I bore easily and am alternately easily amused as you can see here! LOL. I LOVE to track stuff in MFP and Excel cuz I'm a freak!

I was wondering the same thing!

With all that Protein and cheese - how will you poop?!?!

With all that Protein and cheese - how will you poop?!?!

Surgery on July 10th, 80 lbs gone forever!
Feeling amazing

you're just in a stall. Keep doing what you're doing. I wouldn't raise calories at this point - nor would I fast (your body is still healing and needs the Protein and calories). You are fine. Just keep following the program. My first stall last two weeks. I've heard of others having it last 3-4 weeks.

Feel free to ignore what I have to say about your post.
I had surgery in the same year as you. I get that you are excited about how life changing WLS is. Great to praise surgery and your outcome. I don't feel the need to educate or preach it to others. I am not the spokesperson for weight loss or surgery. If they ask, I will give information.
You asked "do you find that you seem to judge overweight people now ?? or is it just me ??
Is it only you judging people? Probably not, Many judgmental negative people in life. Biting your tongue and shaking your head judging people?...Seriously ???
I have to ask....
Did you enjoyed being judged or fat shamed when you were obese? Were you approached that you needed to lose weight pre surgery? How did they come off to you? Did you jump right on it and lose all your weight? Did you ignore their advice? Did you find it intrusive or offensive? You said "Im curious if anyone will really admit,,, to shaking your head to a overweight individual."
Really admit ??? No not all of us think this way about other obese people. I look at someone struggling with obesity with compassion. Why would I judge someone with a disease? I have not forgotten where I came from. I walked in the shoes of an obese person. Treatment options are their personal choice.

I let my unsupportive husband talk me out of surgery for many years!! This time I went through all the appointments and had surgery scheduled before I even told him. I was NOT letting him talk me out of it this time!! I had sleeve surgery one month ago yesterday. I only wish I had done it years ago!! And FYI - since the surgery he has been MUCH more supportive than I ever thought he could be! Good luck and please don’t let him change your mind!!

So I’m happy to report my stall “broke” 2 days ago! I was sleeved on 10/10 at 327lbs. I got down to 300.8 after 4 weeks. Then still 300.8 (exactly) at 5 weeks and 6 weeks and 6 weeks+6 days. Wednesday morning I stepped on the scale (exactly 7 weeks out and 3 weeks since I lost an ounce) and I was 299! YAY - I haven’t been under 300lbs in 10+ years! Then yesterday 298 and today 297.4. How weird!! 3 weeks of not losing anything and then 3 days in a row of losing! Obviously I’m so happy and I’ll never fear the stall again! Lol

So I’m happy to report my stall “broke” 2 days ago! I was sleeved on 10/10 at 327lbs. I got down to 300.8 after 4 weeks. Then still 300.8 (exactly) at 5 weeks and 6 weeks and 6 weeks+6 days. Wednesday morning I stepped on the scale (exactly 7 weeks out and 3 weeks since I lost an ounce) and I was 299! YAY - I haven’t been under 300lbs in 10+ years! Then yesterday 298 and today 297.4. How weird!! 3 weeks of not losing anything and then 3 days in a row of losing! Obviously I’m so happy and I’ll never fear the stall again! Lol

I had no idea about this! Thanks for mentioning it - I’ll have to check with my doctor!!

Thanks all for your replies!! I just ordered the 6 qt one from Amazon with accessories so I can make yogurt and cook eggs, too!! Excited to get it.