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My (ex) bf and I have dated for nearly 5 years; he lives with me. The last year of our relationship has been rocky anyway, but ever since I told him I had decided to have gastric he became even more standoffish and argumentative. Two weeks ago we had a huge blowout over something completely idiotic, he comes back to the house, and says he has been acting the way he has because he thinks that once I lose weight I am going to leave him and that's all he can think about.
Mind you... I have not even had the surgery yet. He said I am going to lose weight, gain self-esteem, realize I am too good for him, and leave him.
Well, guess what, pal... I don't need to lose ANY weight to realize I am too good for you. It's been a long time coming, but I think it's even sadder that he is using my choice to get healthier as a justification for being an a*s.
The only thing this does is put me in a rough position as far as someone staying with me while I recover. My mom and stepdad are going to take "shifts" as long as they can, but they both work. And the ex is currently dwelling awkwardly in my basement, but will probably not give me a hand at all. It does make me sad because I had hoped he would be there at the hospital with me... but then all of this BS happens. *insert gigantic eye roll emoji here*
I am okay, though. I need these next 12 months to focus on me and getting healthy and fit and not dealing with unnecessary dramatics and stress. I have always thrived when single and he actually had moved out of the house for a year and it was fantastic. I hate to say it, but I'm looking forward to this new chapter - of not just weight loss, but of being single and free!

And hiya guys. I'm Frustr8, I'm 72 and had RnY September 5th at OSU in Columbus Ohio. So many doctors refuse to operate on us, siily aren't they? You and I , Phillip are shining examples that it can be done, it shall be done, for we deserve it and can be successful too. Medicare, Medicaid and determination got me through. I hope my Bari-Bud. @csummeral sees about you guys, she is neat lady who is also making her way through to health. At any rate Welcome again!

Has anyone here been diagnosed with pseudotumor?
I was diagnosed with this in July of 2017, and my neuroopthamologist said it would go away if I lost just 10% of my body weight. Well, I lost way more than that.
That year, I lost 60lbs and NOTHING changed with respect to my optic nerve swelling and diagnosis (I have since gained all that weight back).
After you had the surgery, did the pseudotumor and optic nerve swelling resolve itself? That is one (of many) of the primary reasons I am opting for surgery.

My (ex) bf and I have dated for nearly 5 years; he lives with me. The last year of our relationship has been rocky anyway, but ever since I told him I had decided to have gastric he became even more standoffish and argumentative. Two weeks ago we had a huge blowout over something completely idiotic, he comes back to the house, and says he has been acting the way he has because he thinks that once I lose weight I am going to leave him and that's all he can think about.
Mind you... I have not even had the surgery yet. He said I am going to lose weight, gain self-esteem, realize I am too good for him, and leave him.
Well, guess what, pal... I don't need to lose ANY weight to realize I am too good for you. It's been a long time coming, but I think it's even sadder that he is using my choice to get healthier as a justification for being an a*s.
The only thing this does is put me in a rough position as far as someone staying with me while I recover. My mom and stepdad are going to take "shifts" as long as they can, but they both work. And the ex is currently dwelling awkwardly in my basement, but will probably not give me a hand at all. It does make me sad because I had hoped he would be there at the hospital with me... but then all of this BS happens. *insert gigantic eye roll emoji here*
I am okay, though. I need these next 12 months to focus on me and getting healthy and fit and not dealing with unnecessary dramatics and stress. I have always thrived when single and he actually had moved out of the house for a year and it was fantastic. I hate to say it, but I'm looking forward to this new chapter - of not just weight loss, but of being single and free!

My (ex) bf and I have dated for nearly 5 years; he lives with me. The last year of our relationship has been rocky anyway, but ever since I told him I had decided to have gastric he became even more standoffish and argumentative. Two weeks ago we had a huge blowout over something completely idiotic, he comes back to the house, and says he has been acting the way he has because he thinks that once I lose weight I am going to leave him and that's all he can think about.
Mind you... I have not even had the surgery yet. He said I am going to lose weight, gain self-esteem, realize I am too good for him, and leave him.
Well, guess what, pal... I don't need to lose ANY weight to realize I am too good for you. It's been a long time coming, but I think it's even sadder that he is using my choice to get healthier as a justification for being an a*s.
The only thing this does is put me in a rough position as far as someone staying with me while I recover. My mom and stepdad are going to take "shifts" as long as they can, but they both work. And the ex is currently dwelling awkwardly in my basement, but will probably not give me a hand at all. It does make me sad because I had hoped he would be there at the hospital with me... but then all of this BS happens. *insert gigantic eye roll emoji here*
I am okay, though. I need these next 12 months to focus on me and getting healthy and fit and not dealing with unnecessary dramatics and stress. I have always thrived when single and he actually had moved out of the house for a year and it was fantastic. I hate to say it, but I'm looking forward to this new chapter - of not just weight loss, but of being single and free!

I didn't taste the crushed pills at all... I used the squeeze bottle of apple sauce, layered the spoon lightly, dumped crush pill in the middle and put more apple sauce on top... it went down quicker and smoother than any regular pill.
Water seems easy now because you can consume 100oz, but it will get challenging especially post op. Set a timer and you have to follow your Fluid guidelines.

For the short interim, i had to crush my pills and take them with applesauce. I was told any pill larger than the nail bed of your pinky either had to be liquid form or crushed. - I only had to do this for 3 weeks and it wasn't a big deal and in some ways made some of my pills easier to take all around.
But I also did this under the guidance of my surgical team. No matter what you do, I'd follow their instructions first.

👍🐭🐯---You know you can do THIS and do it GOOD. Happy thoughts being sent Your Way!

Gotcha. Thanks! I'm used to taking them all at once with a big gulp of Water. lol. Have to remember not to try that one!

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Okay, this may be a stupid question... but if your stomach can only hold 2 oz immediately after surgery (bypass)... how are you supposed to take medicines? I take 5 pills that all have to be taken at night before bed (none of which I will ever be able to stop taking when I lose weight)... can I still take them all at once or is that too much at once to digest? This is coupled with the liquid Multivitamin I will have to take at night, too. Which THAT says to mix with 4 oz of Water. I'm confused.
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Gotcha. Thanks! I'm used to taking them all at once with a big gulp of Water. lol. Have to remember not to try that one!

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liquids, melts/dissolves etc are helpful, they told us for the first few weeks, no pills larger than an m+m. Water also starts to just empty through not long after surgery, so if you get lucky you shouldn't have any issues with water intake. I had no problems taking any of my numerous pills. Think of it like this, you've got a tube connected to a sphere connected to another tube. If you pour the water in as the same rate it flows out... you can pour as much as you want until the lower tube fills up. If you pour too quickly, you get the back up since the water input is faster than the water exiting. If the pills are small, they will flow though the pouch pretty quickly as well. Just take them 1 at a time and sip the water. Swelling with cause some restriction, but if you start drinking super slowly, see how much you can get in when taking tiny, constant sips, then slowly increase the input until you notice it starting to back up, then slow down a bit and it should go away. This way you'll figure out what your throughput is and you'll know the speed at which you can consume liquids without back up.

Mine is scheduled November 5th!!

I've done the Protein Shakes and healthy choice before surgery and have lost quite a bit (still pre-op) so far. It's good that you're getting fired up! All of those things along with food tracking help a lot. Good luck!

I am so excited - I found a really tasty soy Protein on Amazon. It's called 365 Everyday in Unsweetened vanilla. I mixed it with a banana this a.m. and it is so good I would have ordered something like it at a Tropical smoothie.
Heading to the store today with my grocery list for the pre-op and post-op puree phase (since most won't go bad):
Unsweetened applesauce, various meat baby food, canned peaches/pears, sugar free pudding, about 60+ AdvantEdge and Atkins shakes, and 15 Healthy Choice meals for pre-op. Going to grab some cottage cheese and 1% milk as it gets closer. I'm not a huge fan of yogurt. Anything you guys particularly enjoyed during the pureed stage? I figured meat baby food would be best for me as far as the meat goes, because blending chicken/beef into a puree myself just sounds gross. =p What are some good veggie puree options? I figured maybe mashed cauliflower?

Haha. It's Walmart... they'll take anything back here. I already had to return Protein powders I ordered off their website. Barf.

I am so excited - I found a really tasty soy Protein on Amazon. It's called 365 Everyday in Unsweetened vanilla. I mixed it with a banana this a.m. and it is so good I would have ordered something like it at a Tropical smoothie.
Heading to the store today with my grocery list for the pre-op and post-op puree phase (since most won't go bad):
Unsweetened applesauce, various meat baby food, canned peaches/pears, sugar free pudding, about 60+ AdvantEdge and Atkins shakes, and 15 Healthy Choice meals for pre-op. Going to grab some cottage cheese and 1% milk as it gets closer. I'm not a huge fan of yogurt. Anything you guys particularly enjoyed during the pureed stage? I figured meat baby food would be best for me as far as the meat goes, because blending chicken/beef into a puree myself just sounds gross. =p What are some good veggie puree options? I figured maybe mashed cauliflower?

Anyone can gain due to bad habits. It doesn’t matter what surgery the person had. Lots of sleevers here had good success.
You do see a lot of people posting about regain, but most times this is due to noncompliance with diet and exercise and has nothing to do with whatever surgery someone had.

Love brazilian food..one thing I can make lol but wont be eating in the near future..i have my pre op labs tomorrow along with my informational meeting with the surgeons office tomorrow.

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I had my birthday party on September 1st! lol! Went out to my favorite restaurant which is an upscale all-you-can eat brazilian steakhouse, went out for drinks two nights, and ate plenty of junky bar food. No regrets there!

Did your surgeon not make any recommendations? My surgeon advised against the sleeve because it can exacerbate or cause acid reflux. I already have some, so I certainly don't want to make it worse. And I wouldn't want to cause it - knowing myself how bad it can be sometimes. I'm pre-op, too, but I've talked to a LOOTTTTTT of patients and families of patients and it is SO variable who has dumping and who doesn't. And everyone has said, it only happens if they do not stick to their diet. Bypass was a no-brainer for me.

Did your surgeon not make any recommendations? My surgeon advised against the sleeve because it can exacerbate or cause acid reflux. I already have some, so I certainly don't want to make it worse. And I wouldn't want to cause it - knowing myself how bad it can be sometimes. I'm pre-op, too, but I've talked to a LOOTTTTTT of patients and families of patients and it is SO variable who has dumping and who doesn't. And everyone has said, it only happens if they do not stick to their diet. Bypass was a no-brainer for me.

It is certainly not an abnormal behavior. The reality is that you will eat these items again though. I have eaten Doritos gasp! I have eaten a small bit of a brownie or a cupcake, oh no!
The difference is after surgery you are most likely going to experience less tolerance and less cravings for these items. Once you start to lose weight, you will desire them even less because your progress and non scale victories will motivate you to stay on track 90 percent of the time.
We are human though, and food tastes good. We are meant to enjoy certain things in life, and in moderation I think food can be one of those things.
I would try and stay away from that food funeral thinking. You’re going to set yourself up for having a hard time staying on track for your pre op diet. You don’t want to really gain twenty pounds before surgery anyways and I would not test the surgeon on his no gain policy with a large gain.
Set yourself up for success preop, and you can definitely lose some pounds and have a smooth transition for after your surgery.

Can we just start a thread for us November bypassers? Mine is November 1st! Please feel free to spill your guts over your fears and excitements! I'd love to have the support knowing we're doing this together, even if we are physically far away.
I have 150lbs to lose and I am anxious to see those pounds go! My goal is to reach my goal weight within 24 months. I know it can happen much sooner than that, but I want to give myself a far out goal-date so I don't get too upset if it doesn't come off as fast as I hope. I hope to spend my 32nd birthday at 140lbs! My birthday is November 24th, so this is the best 30th birthday present I could give myself.

Honestly, and this sounds really stupid... but I am really, really upset at the Protein Shake issue I am having. lol. I LOVED the Syntrax Nectar shakes so much but have constant nausea. Now since I am drinking the most horrible shakes ever, in my head I am telling myself this is all I will be able to ingest. I think if I could have some tasty shakes, this wouldn't seem so daunting. I honestly may just say whatever and drink the whey isolates and feel nauseous all the time simply so I don't have to have the horrible pea or egg Protein. I don't know. It's frustrating.