George OG

I used Bariatric Advantage and would use a pill crusher and turn them to dust.You could try taking a little at a time.Im not sure if it’s acceptable but maybe crush them and put them in some water.I hope you get relief soon.

Glad everything went well!Please keep us posted on your wellbeing.If you have any questions or need to talk feel free to ask.

So I’m considering going to the BariatricPal hospital as an option for skin reduction.If you have been there which surgeon would you recommend and why?My biggest fear is reading about people saying they are having surgery in Mexico and getting tramadol for pain?I have a friend that had skin reduction in America and she the recovery was quite painful.I mean the savings are nice having it done in Mexico,but if going to be hurting like hell its not worth it to me.Also why is the surgery cheaper in Mexico.Also it looks like they do buttlifts but it’s Brazilian.No offense ladies believe me it looks great on you,but I’m afraid on me I would be sending the wrong signal 😂If anyone can shed some light on this I would be most appreciative.

I have only found these forums about two days ago.I haven’t really had a chance to get to know people yet.I just wanted to say thank you to the people that have talked to me.This seems like a really uplifting place,and I really hope to get to know you better.

It’s beautiful

1 minute ago, macadamia said:

Are you sure that insurance will not cover it? My surgeon has said that as long as he deems it medically necessary, the insurance will (should) cover it. It is my plan to have my excess skin excised using my medical insurance once I reach my goal.

I heard it’s very hard to get insurance to cover it.The skin bothers my thighs.I will have to look into it though.

So my weight is stable and my next step is skin reduction.I don’t think insurance is going to cover it so I guess i’ll Be paying out of pocket.Also if any of you had any work done at transformations at UW Madison Wisconsin please tell me what to expect there.So here are my questions.

1.Can I get my whole body done in one surgery?

2.I heard the pain after surgery and healing time is a great deal more than a bypass.

3.Has anyone had it done in Mexico or outside the USA?

4.What are the most important things I need to know or ask about?

5.What does the cost generally run for full body?

6.How long did it take for you to return to work?

7.How do you feel now?

I’ve got one shot at this so I want to do it right.If there’s anything that I haven’t asked that I should know please tell me.Thank you in advance.

23 hours ago, SGirl35 said:

On 7/18/2018 at 4:25 PM, Tracy1978 said:

Today was hard. I have surgery this Friday 20th. I've been eating the pre-op "envelope meal" diet almost 2 weeks and today the office ordered Cheesecake Factory. It's not their fault that I made the decision to do the surgery, but I still wanted to kick their chairs out from underneath them. It's literally all I can do to keep myself from saying "Eff it" and going for a steak and beer. I know I know, I am so close to surgery; I wont sabotage myself.

One other thing that has been on my mind is how some people I have told have reacted to my news. I honestly didn't tell people for a long time about what I was doing because I didn't want to listen to everyone's opinions. I've worked in the medical field for 20 years and if I have questions I know who to ask.

It doesn't stop people from saying things that are seriously discouraging:

- "Oh wow. Can't you lose it on your own without having surgery?"

- "I could NEVER do a liquid diet for that long."

- "Haven't people died getting that done?"

- "Awwww! Your surgery is the day of my party?? That sucks! We were having a Mexican food buffet too! I know that's your favorite. Well, at least you are missing for a good reason."

- "I'm fat too, but there is no way I would have surgery."

- "Let's go to {insert restaurant/bar here} before you have surgery since you wont be able to do it after that."

- "You know you can't have carbonated beverages the rest of your life, right?"

- "Don't people gain their weight back most of the time anyway?"

It's hard to tell if people are trying to make me feel bad about my decision because they don't understand it, or it they are jealous or just being downright hateful. I don't get it. I just needed to vent. Today was the hardest day I've had so far and I needed to get that off my chest. I keep telling myself that by this weekend it will all be over and I can start focusing on living a normal life again, just healthier this time.

The same exact reactions I got ... I also lost lots of friends. Lots of salty people! My own damn family .... but guess what??? When I post the new pictures on Instagram- the crowd went WILD. At least all the people who are happy for me, did... they can stay fat. It was the hardest and best decision of my life.

Haters gonna hate!Good job

55 minutes ago, BostonWLKC said:

You look awesome but more importantly you feel great.

I’m sorry about the current situation with your wife, I hope she comes out of the funk and realizes before it’s too late.

Do what’s best for you and your child.

Thanks.I’m going too.I’m just worried about what his future will look like if I lose.I love him so much.

59 minutes ago, J San said:

I would like to ask were you heavy when the two of you fell in love? That could be a reason she is acting this way. If you were both heavy she may have fallen in love with that "you" and may feel somewhat betrayed being you lost the weight and look and feel better when she is still the same.

Other than that I wish I had some additional wisdom to give you but pretty much everything else I would have said has already been said. All I can do is wish you the very best of luck and say your not a bad looking dude.

Yes we were both heavy.Since we’ve been married she put on 100+ pounds.I never had an issue with her weight till it affected her health.I just wanted her to feel good like me.I wanted her to live so she could be here for our son,and so we could grow old together.

2 hours ago, MarinaGirl said:

You look good George, really. It sounds like you’ve put in some effort to save your marriage but if your wife is not interested then it is for naught. I think you should immediately do what you can to protect the family assets as any further spending could impact having optimal resources to care for your child. Do not let your wife’s spending habits impact your credit another day. Good luck.

Thank you.My dad was remarried 4 times.I wanted to get married and be together forever because I know how badly his divorces hurt me.I promised my son when he was born that his mom and I will be together forever.I feel like I have failed him.I honestly don’t know what else to do.

7 hours ago, FLHappyGirl said:

Sorry to hear this, it must be hard for you! I would bet your wife is insecure in her own weight and now she feels like she doesn't have a partner in her unhealthy lifestyle. Don't let that derail your efforts! Loving someone means supporting them even when it is hard for you to do so.

You look fantastic! Don't let ANYONE tell you differently, and keep up the good work.

Thank you.I’m doing my best to stay positive.I’m from Alabama originally so I have no family up here.I really appreciate you taking time out of your day to uplift me!

7 hours ago, KCgirl061 said:

You don't look hideous, you look healthy. I don't know if its too late for your marriage but she could definitely benefit from counseling. Depending on where you are emotionally, you probably could as well. Especially if you believe that line of bull$#it about spending 5 grand on video games BECAUSE YOU LOST WEIGHT. That's ridiculous.

I’ve been hurt a lot in life.Physically,sexually,emotionally.She hurt me worse than anything that has happened to me.For the longest time my son called me George not dad,I always thought it was cute.I found out from someone that she would tell my son not to call me dad,to call me George.On that day what was left of my heart shattered into pieces.They also overheard her badmouthing me to her dad,and blamed me for our financial problemsI worked over 700 hours of overtime that year believing that I was helping my family.I wasn’t even able to buy my Vitamins for a year and a half.I just got back on them last week.I hurt so bad inside because the woman I used to love pretty much didn’t care that I was sick or hurting.She has taken me to depths of sorrow I have never experienced.But she destroyed me when she told my son that.

7 hours ago, Tealael said:

Sorry, this is happening. No one on either side of the equation deserves to be treated poorly. Abuse can come in many forms, emotional, physical and financial. It can even happen to men. It *sounds* a lot like what you may be going through. But no one will be more qualified to help than a marriage , mental (and financial counselor) give these resources a try, give it your best efforts, so that whatever plan you come up with will be a success, just like your weight loss journey.

Peace and Blessings

VSG2017 HW 249 SW 238 CW 167

Thank you.Peace and blessings to you too!

5 hours ago, wanda247 said:

You look great and congrats on all of your weight loss...I'm sorry to hear about your wife, maybe encourage her to have the surgery and take control of her health and to stop acting childish with the spending. Only you know your situation but if you love her and think it's worth it try marriage counseling.

I wish you all the best!

Thank you for your kindness

4 hours ago, Creekimp13 said:

oh man...a kiddo, too.

What a horribly difficult position to be in.

Best wishes to you, George. I hope your therapist helps you to understand you don't deserve to be treated like that. And your kiddo doesn't need to observe you being treated that way, either.

You can't save the world, George. But you can save yourself and be a good Dad who won't let a toxic stew become a child's definition of normal.

Wishing you brighter days and a healthier future.

Thank you for being so kind.It really means the world to me.

Believe it or not after my bypass the pain meds made me have no BM for almost a week.Take stool softer and drink as much Water as you can!You got this.

Congrats!When you feel up to it tell us how you’re doing.

34 minutes ago, wanda247 said:

You look great and congrats on all of your weight loss...I'm sorry to hear about your wife, maybe encourage her to have the surgery and take control of her health and to stop acting childish with the spending. Only you know your situation but if you love her and think it's worth it try marriage counseling.

I wish you all the best!

I did try and encourage her to have surgery so she could feel good like me,then I found out she told her family that I was trying to force her to have surgery.We are trying counseling but I keep getting lied to.Even when I have evidence she still denies it😂I’m sad because you hear women say they want a good guy but in my experience I just get walked on.People tell me I’m too nice.I just wished that someone that claims to love me wouldn’t do this to me and our child😞

Update she was gone today so I checked her computer and she spent more money on the game!F@@k it I’m done!

12 minutes ago, macadamia said:

You look far from hideous! Congrats on your progress so far. Her emotions are wrecked because she sees you as successfully dealing with your weight and she is not (my opinion). It is not cool to destroy the family finances by throwing a tantrum (my opinion). I know from my experience with my weight over the years, emotion plays heavy on me and I've been known to react badly to things around me. I now know that part of it is my use of sugar over the years - yes, I'm a sugar addict. I've been in counseling off and on to learn to cope better with the mood swings I experience from sugar. I'm confident that along with the counseling, the new diet lifestyle will be effective.

Was it at least a cool game?

Star Wars MMORPG.It makes me puke when I see her playing it!

On 7/20/2018 at 3:09 AM, actuallylosingit said:

After having my EGD my doctor pointed out that I have a fatty liver. I know the liver rests on the stomach and it can be an issue. During my nutrition class i was informed that those with a fatty liver may have to do an extra week of the pre op "liver shrinking" diet. Has anyone else run into this issue?

Yes I had to do a liquid diet for 2 weeks.I stuck to it exactly and lost 40 pounds in 2 weeks.Its imperative to do it because that area will be where the surgery will happen.The liquid diet was difficult the first week,but then it was a breeze.

You should definitely stick with your team.I did for my evaluation.I was approved for surgery 1st try

So I weighed 380 and my wife is like 300 pounds.Now i’m 167 pounds.She really wasn’t supportive of my surgery.She was making comments about me calling me skin and bones man.She also bankrupted our family spending over 5000 dollars on a video game because I lost weight.She has no interest in me emotionally or physically.I am only posting a pic to get honest feedback.Believe me I can handle it.She has made me feel like I’m very unattractive even though I think I look ok.I have decided to divorce her because I can’t take getting crapped on anymore?I don’t regret my surgery even though I’m getting divorced.I hate to say it but she really made makes questions if I am hideous now.I can handle blunt truth.Have any of you had issues after a bypass too or other weight loss tool?

Tracy all I can tell you is the world has a lot of miserable people in it.Surgery is a last resort for some people,it’s literally life saving.Can you imagine if someone said to a diabetic “Can’t you just keep your sugar in check without insulin?”What if someone was in a wheelchair and you said if you tried you could walk😂.I hate to tell you this but some people don’t want you to be confident,happy,or successful.They hate life and the fact that you might feel worse off makes them feel better about themselves,it actually scares them that they might become the most miserable or that you will be getting all the attention!YOU DO THIS FOR YOU AND SCREW THEM IF THEY DON’T SUPPORT OR UNDERSTAND YOU!You deserve to be happy,confident,healthy.Peoples true colors always shine through and I believe through your journey you will learn who your true friends are.