CashmereAndBones

This post made me feel so much better, we're all human, we do human things like eat things we're not supposed to and slip past that fine line of good and bad! But it goes to show that you can still lead a "normal" life with little to no repercussions as long as its not a constant reoccurring thing! Thank you so much Matt!

You as well I hope your journey is a good one, I'm always here if you need a friend to vent or just converse with (: just keep doing your research and some Youtube videos I found very helpful.
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJGHPqGhf1TOLpJ4hUVF08w
I love this girl she's awesome, not sure if the link posted but on Youtube her name is Clusie L, check her out!

Yes the honeymoon phase is crucial to succeeding I just don't want to feel like I'm constantly counting calories and not living a flourishing life when I move to Los Angeles. I remember flashbacks of when I was anorexic and would literally count EVERYTHING, from lettuce to carrots, fruit, coffee (black), etc. I just hope I don't fall into those tendencies again, also thanks for the follow up post of cheats and everything (: all the best Ash!! <3.

Thats great to hear that you can still enjoy a "normal" life and eat with friends but have Portion Control (: made me feel at ease.

I drink diet soda too. A lot less than I used to, but I need that caffeine pick me up. We are naughty naughty girls

You rebel, you!

OMG, so many ...
I rushed through my stages and ate real food starting week 3. Week 3 I was at a work event and I drank, all week, and I ate everything but fibrous veggies. No ill effects at all, I have never looked back.
I had no preop diet, except liquids only the day before surgery. I had a burger that morning. I was taking magnisium citrate to clear me out that afternoon, I figured it would get flushed out (and it did!)
I drink diet soda almost everyday. I just can't do Water, or crystal light, etc., I can never get close to 64 oz without it. I drink fountain only, so not a lot of carbonation.
I just don't believe in the we must have 64 oz of water every day or it is some terrible bad thing. It is honestly so uniquely American. Europeans say they can tell American tourists by the bottle of water they always have with them. Presurgery, there were days I probably consumed 16 oz of liquid total, to no ill effect.
So, that's a lot of bad stuff. My surgeon's PA grudgingly signed off on the diet soda. I also have a good friend who's a GI, and he's a lot easier to have real conversations with (vs. my surgeon), and he signed off on all of the above, as long as I promised to stop if I had any issues at all.

I just ate a bag of skinny pop from the vending machine at work. The most delicious 100 calories I have had in weeks.

Great idea, Matt!

I had TWO glasses of wine last night when hubby & I went out for our birthdays/anniversary. I had a designated driver and I don't feel guilty in the least. Part of me wishes I had gotten sick though, so that I wouldn't be tempted to do it again Additionally, I had the wine with my meal!

I was amazing on my pre-surgical all-liquid diet and the “full liquid” phase post op. Not a single cheat!

The purée stage I’m in now is so much harder though. I keep thinking, “if I chew enough, anything can be considered a purée”! I haven’t physically been made to regret it yet, but I did feel super guilty when I had one of my husband’s wontons last night, for example.

I confess that it brings me IMMENSE joy that I weigh less than my two best friends.

I figured it would be nice to have a section where we could just confess to some of the potentially dumb things we've done, pre or post op. Just so others can see we are all human. I want this to be kept as civil as possible, where people can own up to things without anyone else chiming in with anything negative, we all know what we did wasn't "right" but I'm sure we ALL have done something we shouldn't have.

I'll start.

I cheated on my pre-op diet a few times. I also like to find loop holes and exploit the crap out of them. I drank beer for a week+ on my pre-op, because it didn't say I couldn't. I only stopped after I was forced to, because my wife asked my surgeon and of course they said "no"... boo. I also ate a whole slice of French meat Pie at my Dad's 60th birthday luncheon.

I cheated on my post-op diet/puree stage a bit too. I ate rice cakes and Protein chips or other veggie chips. Not a lot, but it happened. I "pureed" a steak and cheese sandwich once. I ate a few fried ravioli on my puree stage as well.

This past weekend, I had a beer. My wife and I took my parents out to dinner at a local casino, it's Restaurant week, so we found a good looking location and went out to eat, part of the deal was that you got a draft beer with your meal. So, I had a shipyard summer ale with my grilled chicken parm sandwich (only ended up eating 3 bites of the chicken and none of the bread).

I did all that thus far and nothing bad happened.
I understand the changes are to ensure we stick to our diets, but understanding that we are all human and WILL either slip up or just stray from our diets on purpose like I did. It's good to see that, it's possible to still live and be able to enjoy a few things we "shouldn't" without any negatives happening.

So, what's your WLS confession?

Hi AshAsh1, yes I saw you posted to my first post and I did make a little apology on there as to why I hadn't responded. You're a bit negative to just flat out say you wouldn't recommend surgery. Like I said I still have four months before I even have to set a date and make a decision so I'm very new to this and there are a lot of questions, fears and things I want to ask and have to come to terms with but that shouldn't be your determining factor for me as I'm still quite a ways away from making a decision so I'm exploring all my options and getting every bit of information I can from everyone on here. Maybe I'm not ready right now but that why I signed up on this website, to interact with users and get vital information so they can help guide me and give me the resources I need to make a big life changing decision and who knows. Maybe in time I will come to terms that what I want vs what I need will out weigh itself and I'll make that decision to get the surgery, maybe not, who knows but what I do know is like Missouri-Lee said on my other post is I need to "read, read, read and ask, ask, ask". Best to you and good luck with the rest of your journey (:

So this is my second post (and yes I am back from traveling now so I will promptly reply to each person (: ). I've been doing so much research and watching so many Youtube videos on VSG and I keep going back and forth on whether I should proceed with the surgery or not. I still have 4 more weigh-in's before I'm done with the 6 month insurance coverage thing so basically 4 months until I can proceed to make a date. Sometimes I feel like yes this is exactly what I need, something to restrict my stomach and make me full quickly so if I eat like a half of an apple I'll be full for hours and can survive off of that and then a small salad with Protein for dinner and that's it (plus Water, tea, coffee). Making healthy choices but extremely small "meals" (obviously after the first few post-op required stages). But then I think well I do want that BUT I am not 100% convinced. Why can't I just make healthier, smarter, portion controlled choices now with the help of a dietitian and personal trainer so I don't have to undergo VSG? Technically you're not getting fat removed but shrinking your stomach to make it so you can't eat a lot but you're still following an extremely restricted diet, why not just do the same diet without the surgery? Is Portion Control too hard? Can anyone tell me why they got the surgery rather than just eating what they would have with the VSG but not actually getting it surgically done? I keep going back and forth because part of me like I previously said definitely can benefit from a difficult, but doable lifestyle change but another part of me thinks why can't I just do this on my own? What's stopping me from eating now what I would if I were post-op? I'm glad I still have time to decide but I'm just so confused right now.
Now the second part I just want to say (STOP READING IF YOU GET TRIGGERED EASILY) there is your disclaimer. I want to better myself, make changes and eat healthy. I just don't want a lot of scars, loose skin scars (if I need body contouring) and I want to be able to have that once in a blue moon treat myself if it's a girls night out or birthday or vacation, etc. I don't want to fall into a depression because of fomo (fear of missing out), I'm not sure if I'm ready to give up sparkling water, sugar (in strict moderation, but I hate sugar free since it's just "sugar" but chemically made so it's not real sugar) and especially the whole drinking and eating rule.
If you have any feedback or thoughts that would be much appreciated, thank you everyone and I'm happy to be back (:
xo,
CashmereAndBones

Hey guys!
Sorry I haven't replied to anyone, I don't get email notifications I turned them all off and I've actually been away doing some traveling and taking time away from the internet. I didn't realize I'd get so many replies so quickly! I apologize if I have offended anyone for not responding. After reading all of the replies I want to thank each and every one of you for your time and feedback for my post! You've all given me some insight as to what I need to rethink and change in my life in order to succeed.
Best,
CashmereAndBones

Hey guys!
Sorry I haven't replied to anyone, I don't get email notifications I turned them all off and I've actually been away doing some traveling and taking time away from the internet. I didn't realize I'd get so many replies so quickly! I apologize if I have offended anyone for not responding. After reading all of the replies I want to thank each and every one of you for your time and feedback for my post! You've all given me some insight as to what I need to rethink and change in my life in order to succeed.
Best,
CashmereAndBones

Hey guys!
Sorry I haven't replied to anyone, I don't get email notifications I turned them all off and I've actually been away doing some traveling and taking time away from the internet. I didn't realize I'd get so many replies so quickly! I apologize if I have offended anyone for not responding. After reading all of the replies I want to thank each and every one of you for your time and feedback for my post! You've all given me some insight as to what I need to rethink and change in my life in order to succeed.
Best,
CashmereAndBones