Lala70
Gastric Sleeve Patients
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Lala70 got a reaction from Orchids&Dragons in Should weight matter in a relationship?@sillykitty wow your story is just like mine! So glad we got rid that toxic relationship. -
Lala70 got a reaction from Frustr8 in Should weight matter in a relationship?@sillykitty wow your story is just like mine! So glad we got rid that toxic relationship.
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Lala70 reacted to sillykitty in Should weight matter in a relationship?Thanks Ash .... you're right on every point.
What I tell myself is he had the absolute best of me for 7 years. And his embarrassment over my appearance mattered more to him than anything else. I can change my weight (and I am!), but he can't change his shallowness
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Lala70 reacted to sillykitty in Should weight matter in a relationship?BIG CONFESSION TIME
I had a boyfriend of 7 years, who left me over my weight.
When we got together I was probably around 170-180. When he left me I was about 230.
We had no other major issues. We got along extremely well. We had only a few fights during our entire relationship. Despite my weight I was more physical active, and active in general (more social, traveled frequently), and also took a lot of pride in my appearance. He was slightly overweight when we met, gained some weight, and then lost weight to end up just very slightly overweight.
I noticed he started to not invite me to things with his family or friends. I didn't think too much about it. Holidays were off the table with him having 2 sets of kids, and me with my family, so we never did those together. Otherwise he was pretty much a homebody, so other social events for him were few and far between, made it easy to ignore. We both had demanding and social jobs, so staying in and me cooking was the norm. I barely noticed the decline in going out.
I knew from the beginning I wasn't his physical type. But I figured it wasn't a big deal, because we had a great sex life. There were things about him that weren't ideal, but all the good stuff made up for, I thought it was the same for him.
He began to get more distant. So we finally sat down and talked and he said he wanted to break up. He wouldn't give me an answer why really. I finally asked him if it was my weight. He was surprised I knew it was an issue for him. He told he was embarrassed to bring me around his family and friends or to be seen in public with me. He was still sexually attracted to me, but too embarrassed to be seen with me.
That was four years ago. I only told one person the real reason we broke up, and I did it when I was drunk, lol.
