Take heart, you state that you do not feel 'womanly' - could this be that you are just used to associating the term womanly with large curves or prominent curves? Our eyes and minds deceive us all the time.
Have you shopped for some new/used clothes yet? I find shopping and getting some new makeup uplifting. I wear a spanx bra/cami all-in-one and find a little smoothing makes my silhouette look a lot better, and keeps the 'girls' in place better. The fat will shift around a lot during this process and you are younger and some of the skin will retract. I am an old broad, so I will resort to plastic surgery.
Get some therapy for awhile, it may help. And you are not done yet, give your mind some time to catch up to the improved you.