AshMarie794

You are very welcome! I have become quite distant to this site due to the fact people tend to not try to understand and just make judgment's.

This is the book I use and swear by it. https://www.amazon.com/Complete-Vegetarian-Cookbook-Foolproof-Recipes/dp/1936493969

Seen this topic and had to chime in. I have been a religious GYM RAT for years now since being Post Op and to not be able to go to the gym is KILLING ME! The mental game is the worst part of it. I am still getting outside for walks and runs as weather permits but it is not the same. The fear of gaining and loosing the momentum I previous had is scary. As far as the virus goes I feel we all have our opinions on the issue. But stay safe and SMART everyone. And remember even though you may not worry for yourself think of others during this time. On a more positive note, I have noticed ALOT of families going out for walks and biking. Runners are out like crazy and even elderly couples have been out and about walking. Hope the positive changes this horrible time in our World stick around and we learn to cherish each other more.

SAME!!!

I know this is a long shot and not normal by any means as I had ALOT of bad apples message and reach out to me. But I met the love of my life on Match. As with any online dating site be patient and ASK QUESTIONS. Lots and lots of questions. I was not the online dating type but the dating scene now days is a joke honestly. So I took the chance and to thankful that I did. Good luck to all! If its meant to be it will be don't rush into anything.

Absolutely AMAZING! So jealous!!

Bet the views are super nice!

Way up there! I used to be friends with a couple and that's where they were originally from.

I myself have been him and hawing about getting some work done. I just struggle with the process and putting my body through something elective just to look a certain way. my health and new lifestyle is super important and I don't know how I would feel if I was one of those cases where it didn't go well.......

Clearly no one is from Michigan here LOL

Where in Michigan are you from? Jackson here

I feel the same way. I am actually turned off by someone who is not willing to take care of themselves. And its almost like in a way self sabotage to do that to ourselves. I have felt it makes me petty and shallow as well but as we change and grow along this journey our views and what we look for in a partner change as well.

Had to click on just due to the topic. I am single due to surgery and my success and the insecurities it brought with it (On his end). I was curious to see who all used dating sites as well. I am just not feeling the whole paying to have the headache of navigating the real ones and the games. No one has time for that. The struggle is real....

I also had family issues that came up like this prior to surgery. I just had to within myself let them have their opinion and say what they needed and now post op make them eat everyone of those comments! I am only in my 30's and have arthritis so bad in my ankle and leg there were days I was not even mobile. My family knew. And yet still made comments. And now post op they may say you look good but its always followed by "I bet you feel better now that your not in all that pain". So as frustrating as it is and many of us can relate just stay focused on you. BE SELFISH! Take your life back. And last thing the ones who seem to be not so supportive...deep down they are jealous. Sorry to hear about you mother.

Probably best not to work out together. He really sounds very controlling. “I don’t know how to get through to him”. Maybe you can’t get through to him. Maybe he isn’t up for you to “get through to him”. I started going to therapy as soon as I made the decision to have this surgery. I knew I wanted to reset my life & choose better for myself in every aspect. Physically, mentally, emotionally & spiritually . They say while doing this surgery that you also have to do the head work. To me that’s just as important as losing the weight. Best of luck I have pretty much gotten to that point where I accept I cant get through to him. The head work is where I struggle with myself. Because in so many aspect of my life I have taken back control and am a whole new person with all new outlooks. But yet with him I cant overcome it. Maybe its the years of I guess you'd call it emotional abuse....idk but I am trying to focus on me and not letting his negativity invade my head space.

We have actually split and gotten back together a few times in the last year. Is it my fault at this point also....yes because I keep taking him back. Even with all my new gained self worth it is still hard. I try and stay positive about everything in life. Especially after surgery. I cherish each day now. It is just very hard. But I still put up with it. Maybe one day I will open my eyes. But idk.....its hard. I feel so stuck just due to financial reasons and family issues.

I have been A-Wall from here for a while but coming back I feel especially on this post I needed to update and get advice. I feel my partner is still very jealous of my progress due to comments made to me by male/female it does not matter. He is INSANLY jealous. And that only seems to getting worse. I try and push though and know I love him but its so hard at time. We have talked about working out together (weight training). But he is 6"2 300lbs and can def pull some weight. I am 5'7 155 and I DO NOT want to get big. Maybe tone up what I have and be more lean. Yes we can put together some routines but he does not listen to me about why I don't want to do some things and why I don't lift like him. why I don't stand a certain way. why I don't do this that and the other. Working out together yesterday at the gym all I could do was cry because he wouldn't listen to me. I don't know how to get through to him.....Def struggling to keep my cool. Stay motivated to stay at the gym. To stay in this relationship. I just don't know what to do.......

Challenge Starting Weight: 209 Weight Lost as of Christmas Day: 65 lbs!! Still Loosing and same fitness goal

Current Weight: 198!! FINALLY HIT ONEDERLAND!!! Still losing and gym 5x a week

I am thank you. Feel like a new person all together!

This is a before and post op 12 weeks.

Yesssss! Freezing all the time! And this type of cold is different from even anything I felt before surgery. Bitter cold! Ice cold extremities!

Challenge Starting weight: 209 Current weight lost: 49 Losing or maintaining weight: losing. Fitness/exercise goal: 5x a week

He is relocating to Arizona.

I am just worried who I would be referred to. My surgeon is already over an hour from me I don't feel comfortable just going to anyone who hasn't even seen me or been involved in my journey. I am very torn and only have a month or so to figure out what I will do.