Frustr8

I'm not you
You are not me
We are each on our own pathway
But when they do run parallel or intersect
May I walk a while with you?

And someday with enough diligence after my surgery I can rock a senior level bod, maybe not quite as good as yours but a satisfying state anyway.

Although I have gotten much less fearful about things, tattooing I'm a little still, I have wanted ever since his death my son's name Kevin at the top, an sweet looking Angel and under that his birth date. May 7 1976 death date,January 11 2008 all placed on my left arm at the pulse spot. Sounds pretty, doesn't it? Would you believe I approached a tattoo artist with a shop maybe 2-3 blocks from here- he poo-pooed it, said I had a faulty commitment to tattooing? It would be small, maybe that was his kvetch, well I was doing it for me not to impress the world anyway. Pfooey on him anyway, I do have a friend and I have seen his work, he does beautiful ink, he would do it for $65 which I find reasonable. But I still,balk, remember I'm 72, my generation's mama's told us only fallen women had tattoos and never anywhere anybody could see them. Wasn't like I was planning an arrow on my upper inner thigh pointing to my lady parts after all. If I had a lover who had trouble finding the proper area, don't think I would want them. Only other one I'm pondering is a Phoenix bird, rising. from my former life and flying strong and free. But where should I put it ? IDK. But I do still yearn for my mini- angel!😝

Well I know a few things about Delaware. Let's see, you are grouped with surrounding states as Delmarva, Joe Biden was your Senator before he became Obama's Vice-President, his late son Beau Biden was once your Attorney General, you have Dover Downs of racing fame, I think when killed Serviceman are returned to the USA I think they off-load at Dover, DuPont, and if the movie 1776 is to be believed your representative Caeser Romney was terminally ill but cared for freedom so strongly that he used his remaining strength to attend in Philadelphia. So you see I do know bits and pieces about your small but powerful state. You are my first Delaware friend so I am honored to know you! I never thought you were part of Pennsylvania, but when I was 6 or 7 I thought New Jersey was, once I knew a little more about our country I knew better.

Frightening turn of events to what you hoped would be a beautiful story. Please rest , heal and I am happy they did not kill you, for you easily could have died from their bungling🙏Thankful that you. didn't, I have lost too many friends as it is.😫💦😫

Congratulations Chelsey602! Good surgical results couldn't happen to a nicer person than you. Now forward,day by day,👣you have made a very n8ce start to your future life👍😝

Maybe by the time this reunion comes to pass I will grow small enough for a nice swimsuit in something beside navy blue and black!👙👍🌴😝

Well did all of you July 18th people have good surgeries and now are on your road to recovery and a new future?

And many changes in her thinking will have to occur for her ever to be ready. You have to feel major surgery is preferable to continue living as you are and she doesn't seem at that point. Maybe later, maybe never.

Yo @ markuspak where in our fair State are YOU located? I am in Central Ohio, in Mount Vernon, 14 miles from the Geographic Center, and approx 48 miles NNE of Columbus, where I will have my RnY surgery September 5th At OSU-Wexner Medical Center. My surgeon is Dr Bradley J Needleman, head of Bariatric Surgery and Metabolic Weight Weight Loss, yep the top dog in that kennel! Saw you said in another posting you were in Ohio. Will be sending you good healing wishes for August 13th.😝

@lillybilly, hooray --you are back, been missing you, wondered what happened? I haven't had my surgery but do have,as of yesterday, a confirmed date of September 5th. So a little while longer to wait for mine, but no less desired. I will be praying, sending good wishes and anxiously waiting to hear everything went well. Please post and let us know!😝🌴😝

And@ Beautifully Flawed you will become Surgical Refined! Be watching from here as it happens!😛👀😛👍

And I am not until September 5th when I was dreaming of joining all these nice July folk💦 But I will shine, just a little later than I hoped for! Still Good, Still Fine, Just waiting a little longer For a date of mine!👉😛👈🍀

Oh you are not, got a few myself, but we can overcome and succeed, did you see,i got a confirmed date, not until September 5th but I am so looking forward to that day. I'll be first surgery at 7 AM, so there can just be a traffic jam behind me, don't care, I finally got the break I deserved and I'll do it for all I'm worth!

Congratulations Joe on a successful surgery and the start of a new life. Proud knowing you!

And I will be cheering you both along, I have faced people saying I was silly, foolish, too old, should be satisfied the way I am, hope I will succeed, for this is my time, my chance, and your chances too for a brighter healthier future. Let's do it and prove the nay-sayers wrong, I'm up for it, how about you?😛👍😛

I feel the same about White Cheddar ones but we are separated and finalizing our divorce with my RnY on September 5th. I've just got to make sure they don't sneak back to my pantry shelf where I can find them!🍞

There is nothing shameful for trying to better yourself. You don't deserve a scarlet letter, rather you deserve a shining twinkling 🌟. If others don't understand that it's a lack in them, not you. Continue on your path, for you might be an inspiration for someone to start their own.😝👍🍀

Land sakes hadn't heard that for a while, got another one that goes with my pen name Frustr8,"as frustrated as a wallpaperer with weak paste" At any rate, you are among friends here, anything you need answered, we will be happy to help. Some people get brave sooner than others, I will have my RnY September 5th At the age of 72 years 8 months and 10 days. Been seeking it since August 2015, a lot of twists, turns, a few roadblocks, quagmires, and a rollercoaster of emotion, in 6 weeks I'll have my satisfaction. I am ready to make my remaining years better, healthier, thinner and I hope fitter. That last for a redheaded post-menopausal broad might not be achievable, but I will try very hard.

"She saw a change needed to be made; and she did it!"

Stigma maybe, stigmata very doubtful unless your side and the palms of your hands are bleeding.

@MN Meg770 I like Muscle Milk strawberry better, try it and see.

Missouri Lee'sSummit LOL you are going from Boy Scouts" Be Prepared" which also used to Be the Girl Scouts to the 4H ,their motto at least one of them is "To make the Best Better"

And @AshMarie794,@clsumrall,@Chrisb428, this is Frustr8, I'm lagging behind a little but I'm a-coming. Put me down for September 5th At 7AM edt at my hospital of current record OSU- Wexner Medical Center in Columbus Ohio with my surgeon, the one I really wanted, Bradley J NeedlemanMD, head of Bariatric Medicine and Metabolic Weight Loss there. Since I am at 7AM, that means I am the first case that morning, let,the rest of the traffic pile up behind me. First time in a long time I've got preferential treatment anywhere. And Ash Marie, I understand what is going through for you, how many times has my journey stopped, started, had to overcome roadblocks, quagmires, all my fears drowned in my tears, now I am joyfully looking ahead, and I think I can do this, it's my choice, my commitment, and mine will be the final victory. Would you believe I can choose the duration of my prep diet? They ask for a minimum of 2 weeks,max of 4, they of course recommend 4, I'm told that ensures easier,recovery and possibly better healing. Yeah but what my bari-buds have related, I will be hangry, tempermental and the only thing that will keep me from blowing someone or something up is the fact I will be week and dizzy with hunger. My high school class reunion will be the 11th, 55years, I warned you I AM OLD, actually the youngest in my class, but still OLD. So do i commit to 4,3,or2 weeks? And I have an ornery landlord wanting to sell my house. Think his greedy wife wants the money for God knows what, fix their own house, go on a cruise, put money in their daughter's college fund? I have an. insurance settlement coming to payment in mid August, greedy Jenny wants us out by August30-31. Yep right before my surgery! Do I make arrangements to purchase this place, that he has neglected to repair things in, or relocate somewhere else? So I am pitching things out, been here 18 years, in that time my MIL, a 31 year old son, and my husband died, still have all their stuff stored upstairs. MIL was a photo pfreak, I have several totes-full upstairs, I have no MF idea who most of them are, some have names on them, most don't. As example there is old timy one "at aunt and uncle's house, boy we all had a good time" Aunt and Uncle Who? Nobody left from that generation to ask! Add in mine and Tomkitten's out-of-season clothes. What size am I going to be by winter? I'm a 26 now, how close will I be to my goal of a 15 junior? See underneath all of this flabby fluffy fat I think I am a junior. For a big girl I'm only a C-D, many at my weight are E, F,G. So I am an overgrown tomboy figure, honest. I probably can wear the sweatshirts a while longer but the old beat up jeans and slacks have got to go. Do I dump them at Goodwill, throw them in a dumpster, we have a church run facility in my community, gotten rather persnickity, they want everything freshly laundered, neatly ironed or folded before being put into not,overfilled bags. Must have delusions of being an upscale consignment Shoppe.
So think,is me,fighting the fight, scratching my head, holding a premiere Protein in one hand, wondering WTF do I do first?😫💦😫

What happened is the past, if I cannot change yesterday, this I must accept. I am perfectly okay the way that I am; this is acceptable and I now have the,power to change my future.
I do not know,the original author but it is MY statement now.

Tonight on the first night of having a definate surgical date, I regret my body wearing out so far before I could schedule a date. Yes I will regain many facets I once had and lost. And my internal motor will run smoother but the chassis rust, scratches and dings will remain. But I will dusplay them like the battle medals and ribbons they are but now I wish I never gone to war, I wish I had been a conscientious objector to life, I would have like to have lived my life differently, but still life is life and it beats death all hollow. What did not kill me did strengthen me for battle, and although my scars are many most don't throb anymore . Even if I am not showroom fresh and a honey I have "good bones" I am strong, sturdy and capable for many more miles. Don't junk me, I. still have many useful parts.🚘