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Ditto what@anonbaribabe said

I'm so very sorry for your loss. My heart aches for you and your family. I will keep you all in my prayers.

Thanks for your post. I’m only 3 months out but I’m already feeling similar. I know I should have lost more weight than I have - but as you know “knowing what to do” and “doing it” are very different. I did join a gym right after surgery and I was going 3 days a week (up from NEVER exercising). Then my NUT told me I should be going more often. So what did I do? Start going more often? No - I stopped going! I don’t even know why. Part of me was like - I’m not doing good enough? Well screw it - I’m just not going to do it anymore. So I too am disappointed in myself.

That's awesome!!

hopefully we can all encourage each other to break out of our lagging and bad habits. The battle is mainly in our mind.
you: 'I'm fighting the downward spiral of not being happy with myself.'. I can relate. For me this means that I am not happy with myself BECAUSE I am not doing what I should do and I have no good reason not to. So I am disappointed in myself more so than not happy with myself. Again, this is a battle of the mind. But not loving yourself goes deeper and VSG is not the issue in that regard. I pray your love for yourself will grow because it has started by your stepping out to try to change your life and get healthier. That is actually a courageous step. I did this to try to reverse diabetes and get HEALTHY. Honestly, and I mean it, my main goal is not to be skinny but to be HEALTHY so I am not dependant on insulin. And weight/obesity ties me to diabetes so I hope to loose enough weight so that I don't have to take it anymore.
How about we both FIGHT!?? Starts in our mind...……..we decide to fight

I'm sorry you're struggling. I can only empathize but I have no words of wisdom because I too, am having a hard time at 5 mos post surgery. I don't feel I've fully embraced a healthier lifestyle and made it part of my routine like I expect I should have by now. I'm fighting the downward spiral of not being happy with myself. Good luck to you. I hope you find a way to turn things around.

It feels like the honeymoon phase may be coming to an end for me, at 5 mos post surgery. And it's really starting to affect me mentally.

Oh my gosh you have given me such great information and I really appreciate this. I have looked and can not find any support groups in my area so this forum has basically become my support group. I do see my pysch next week. And will pick on him to see what he knows about bariatrics as I have a feeling he is not so practiced in this. When we talk he always refers to another patient who doing really great and had started the special diet before the surgery and is now below her weight. Other then that he hasn't spoke much about Bariatrics so this is why I am questioning his skill here. I have been with him for a few years to be treated for Anxiety, Panic Attacks and Depression which he says is medically related - whatever that means. So the information you just gave me is invaluable and I will try to find more information on the web to self help me. Thank you.

Tell them that you are terribly ill and should donate to your GoFundMe, use the money for plastics later lol
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I said previously in another post that a woman at my work keeps commenting "oh, you've lost weight". One day I got pissed off with it and looked at her and said back "Oh, it looks like you've gained weight". That shut her gob pretty quick.
Commenting on someone's weight is like saying "Oh, you finally got rid of that hump on your back" or similar. Your healthy weight loss is none of their damn business. I have told the people I feel I want to tell but other than that it's not up to anyone else to comment on my weight, or any other part of my anatomy/appearance.

Yup, I still have issues with meat and eggs. My nutritionist says it's not uncommon. I was sleeved Aug 15th.

Yup, I still have issues with meat. My nutritionist says it's not uncommon. I was sleeved Aug 15th.

Congratulations!

Thanks for the update. Good for you for taking care of YOU by distancing yourself from this unsupportive person, and also for being kind enough to leave the door open for the possibility of the friendship to heal at some point in the future. Hugs.

Thanks for the update. Glad you're home and feeling better.

Better you, than me. I simply can't handle eggs anymore since surgery. Not hard boiled, fried, scrambled, etc.

Something to keep in mind when you come across friends who have become unsupportive through your WL journey. It's possible that if the person is taking too many withdrawals from the relationship then it might be time to let them go. Special thanks to @ummyasmin for sharing this concept.

I don't think I can really claim credit. I'm sure I read it somewhere but I can't remember where. Might have been Boundaries by Cloud and Townshend.

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Sorry you are having such a tough time. This is certainly a hard road to travel especially in the first week or so. I felt like you in the beginning. Ended up dehydrated and needing fluids pumped in me. I never thought things would turn around and I was so angry. Fast forward 4 mos, after having lost 50 lbs, and the weight loss alone makes me feel so much better physically and mentally. But I will admit that I still throw up sometimes and I still struggle with the mental aspect of this journey. I get angry sometimes because I just want to eat the way I used to. I'm a continued work in progress. Hang in there. Read the posts on this site and you'll see that it really does get better over time.

Interesting. My nutritionist is fine with me still having shakes. It's the only way I can even get close to reaching my goals. I'm 4 mos post sleeve. I went through a period of not tolerating premier so I switched to Core Power, made by Fairlife. I like the banana and the Strawberry/Banana. https://fairlife.com/core-power/our-products/

@LBwPCOS keep us posted