kakatlady612

My regrets may or may not be responsive. I regret when I grew up, when I reached late adolesence I was told stop being such a tomboy, stop playing softball and running wild with kids your age and younger, you are a young woman ---sit down and calm down. My parents even sent me to finishing school type classes to teach me to" deport" myself better. All I remember learning were make-up techniques, how to walk smoother and seductively and how to,balance a book on top of my head. But I listened, after all Mama and Daddy told me to do it and didn't they always have my best interests at heart? So although my appetite remained the same my activity level decreased phenomenally. Sit down, do your embroidery, crochet, knit, you can get up if you go cook, the only exercise you need is vacuuming or other housework. You'll never get a husband unless you move slow, smooth and act like a perfect,lady. As i look back, I probably didn't have a boyfriend because I was starting to look chubby but about as stimulating as thick vanilla custard. I regret marrying the first man who,seemed to,look past my body to my mind. They say you always marry a man like your father, well the" late lamented" did share the "my way or the highway" mindset, although he. was taller and heavier than me he seldom missed a chance to make snide remarks about my size. But I as least had gotten a husband, in the 60 and 70s every girl was supposed to have one, so I stiffeled my snappy retorts and bore up under the burden.Although he was a city boy he ate like a farmhand. Every meal better have potatoes and meat. When I married him his idea of a good meal was creamed corn, macaroni and cheese,(and that better not be from a box! )and mashed potatoes. I could throw in a platter of some sort of roast beast or fried chicken. Dessert better be cake, pie or choco-chip Cookies. Salads-- well they were evil, I could have one if I wanted but,I sure didn't expect him to eat any, did I?" I'm not a cow or other farm animal.after all." And I "dumbed out", me with the Mensa level brain, but I couldn't keep a man that way, could I? So I played the game, if I raged I did it in the bathroom or behind closed doors. Oh I promised to love, I did not promise to obey but it still was implied, wasn't it? I had a baby 13 months later, a little girl, he wanted a girl, so did both grandmothers. Both grandmothers set out to spoil her rotten , when one of them hadn't taken her shopping he was marching her around town. Meanwhile I cooked , cleaned and sublimated my will. I guess it wasn't a bad life, just not a great one. When" little precious" started school I decided to try to diet,in earnest, what was my reward? I lost 50 lbs and. I got pregnant. Yeah I had begged for years to have" little precious" a sibling, now when I had picked myself up out of low self esteem-ville. I got another baby, lost weight during my pregnancy, then regained it afterwards, did it again 3 years later, same scenario except after child #3 I went into peri-menopause and the weight remained, creeping up increment by increment. I wish then I had sought bariatric surgery but no-- I would surely find the right diet, I had lost weight before, I could do it again. But no matter how I tried I didn't, got ridiculed for my salads etc so I gave up and ate the carb -heavy diet I was expected to provide my family. In 1987 I started working, activity level went up and I started yo yo-ing the same 30 lbs, family members started dying-' many of them from obesity, did it sink in? Not really, still thought I could beat it on my own. And the arthritis I had since 25 started to take its toll. Yeah I had snuck in a little playtime and activity with the children but that started to become difficult. I ended up having 2 knee replacements, one in 2014, one in 2017. I started saving my energy so I could continue working for money. And although l.l. had parted ways with his Columbus corporate job in 1985 and worked sporadically after that, I kept chugging along. Like the bumblebee that doesn't know his wings are too short to support his body weight, he keeps flying and I guess I did too. And my life kept on, finally when I.I. died (and God forgive me, a relief) after 44 years of marriage in 2012 I had finally time to consider my health or what remained of it. Started going to my PCP, yeah another thing I.I. was against, doctors. They're only after your money, so many a time I went to work marginally sick. Only thing PCP stated on my 1st visit" You know you are overweight" [emoji197]No I'm obese but if you aren't going to say it I won't either. Finally after several years I got brave enough to bring up bariatric surgery. He told me at that time its something I think you should consider, when you feel you're ready I'll help you find a program. Finally in August 2015 I consulted a Bariatric surgeon in Columbus and started on his hospitals program, I was getting all my prerequirements done , had dietary assistance and had even,made a noticeable weight loss and my job and health insurance terminated in January 2016. I had 5 of the 6 I thought required when this happened. So I thought there would be no use in pursuing any further, I had no money for private pay and no covering insurance. Wasn't like I was personal friends with Obama and could ask him to underwrite it. Unbeknownst to me when I got new insurance the New insurance had looser requirements, I could have had surgery then. I regret not getting in touch with the surgeon's office then but on the other hand they could have volunteered the information to me also. I started again in autumn 2017 to seek surgery from the same place, since it had been 2 years I had to duplicate all the prerequirements once again. I did so, feeling I had jumped through every hoop they requested. I was waiting to hear back from them since my stuff had been finished in mid January. Waited and waited and waited, was told February 20th all 3 surgeons in the practice had a commitee meeting and decided not to perform my surgery. I regret returning there, I regret trusting these people with my life, I had felt my best interests were being respected there, I regret being told a lie as an excuse, what I was told made no sense to me or to anyone who truly knows me.But most of all I regret the abject waste of time out of my life. Oh I can and will find a placement in another program, maybe go in with my eyes wider open. But I can and shall make a success out of shambles. Just watch me folks![emoji197] Sent from my VS880PP using BariatricPal mobile app

I would guess you would lose some of the fat shielding your pubic bone with weight loss. Sent from my VS880PP using BariatricPal mobile app

Charity will be watching you. So will I. You have 2 Bari-sisters in your corner, she'll be watching from Illinois, I'll be watching from Ohio but there will be many many more before you're through. Best wishes to Elizabeth and you tonight. We know if you set your mind to it you will be a success. Sent from my VS880PP using BariatricPal mobile app

How are you doing with your presurgery liquid diet? I hope I don't need to do,one, but I would :try to not complain if I did. Sent from my VS880PP using BariatricPal mobile app

Kirstyoz had hers today in Western Austrailia. Ok. I hope she lets us know how things went for her. Sent from my VS880PP using BariatricPal mobile app

Put in some lounge pants or jammie bottoms, you probably,won't,be able to wear the gown because of wires and,IV s in your arms. That way you can wear their snappy gowns and walk around without somebody singing Moon over Miami when you walk by. PS best of,luck, hugs and prayers for you both! Sent from my VS880PP using BariatricPal mobile app

Kirstyoz had hers today in Western Australia, sure hope she did well,also. Sent from my VS880PP using BariatricPal mobile app

I'm afraid if the wind blew up my skirt there would be a flapping sound from the nether areas loose skin. Ka-slap ka-'slap. Sent from my VS880PP using BariatricPal mobile app

You're the first to march into March! You'll do famously tomorrow, it starts you on your road,to better health and all you desire for your life. Hugs for you, get some rest tonight. Sent from my VS880PP using BariatricPal mobile app

Think of it as a dimple, just in a strange location. Maybe you could put a small,precious,jewel there later? Just a suggestion. Sent from my VS880PP using BariatricPal mobile app

So do you now know what one is? Ask me and I'll explain, after all many of us have them. Sent from my VS880PP using BariatricPal mobile app

Might be even less because the area where most gastric ulcers/cancers start is now gone. Yeah it's not impossible for it to be in the top portion, just unlikely. Sent from my VS880PP using BariatricPal mobile app

I have one that will be repaired with my surgery, tendency to have them has run in my family for 4, no 5 generations. So as Hank,Williams Jr sings " it's a Family Tradition". Sent from my VS880PP using BariatricPal mobile app

And I've been widowed 5 1/2 years, I hope it isn't like all the guys told me " If you don't use it You lose it" want something in reserve in case Mr Wonderful comes along. Don't want Mr Barely Breathing, Mr What did you say, Honey? or Mr Just turn the electric blanket,on to medium. Want one that can generate his own heat. Sent from my VS880PP using BariatricPal mobile app

Most people on here are 5-6 months, insurances vary in their requirements as do Bariatric practices and hospitals. Some of our Canadian brothers and sisters it may take up to 2 years. Our UK ones through NHS seems to take a while, that's why many either private pay or go out of the country. The New Zealand, Austrailia, South Africa and the rest you'd have to ask someone from there. I haven't heard anything from our Caribbean friend LillyBilly for awhile, she lives on a beautiful warm island and is going to Columbia South America for her bariatric surgery. Sent from my VS880PP using BariatricPal mobile app

Well today is the last day of February and I want to thank,each and everyone for allowing me to hear your stories, share in your success and empathizine with your trials. Today still will be surgery day for a few of you. I know over on the sleeve side SleevedSoulSista is having hers,today. Thank you for making me feel one of your own, even if my tummy is still unbypassed. Perhaps March ,Perhaps April. I have 2 introductory seminars to attend, one on March,9th, one on March 10th. I am certain one will fit me me better. When you have been back-stabbed or lied to, it is difficult to step forward,with full trust. But my God didn't make no junk, I am a good person worthy of the surgery I so earnestly desire. I am a katlady, I will land on all 4 paws and go forward. Look for me around on one of the other month forums, I intend to be a Bariatric Paller until it's finished. Love and Hugs your kakatlady612. [emoji197] Sent from my VS880PP using BariatricPal mobile app

Yeah a C or above we need industrial gauge,but still,feminine and pretty. Alas there does not seem to be such an animal. Sent from my VS880PP using BariatricPal mobile app

Thanks Tealael ---you are a sweetheart! Sent from my VS880PP using BariatricPal mobile app

So March the 6th will be your day? That's my oldest granddaughters birthday, she'll be 22. Took me a second to do the arithmetic. Excitement and apprehension go hand in hand. No matter how hard you,prepare you're going into uncharted territory. I'm sure you have a good doctor and you'll be fine. We'll be praying for you. Please let us know how things go for you --we groove on successful stories. Sent from my VS880PP using BariatricPal mobile app

And mine tonight? To find another surgeon, receive a firm schedule date and receive my RnY before my last nerve snaps.But I will mention your hair Tealael, that way my own cute red pixie won't turn into looking like the Rock or Bruce Willis. Oy vey that would be very very bad. Sent from my VS880PP using BariatricPal mobile app

Junuu. Honey I'm 72 years old, 323lbs and still anxious to have my surgery completed. A little nervousness is fine, you wouldn't be human if you didn't feel that way facing the unknown. How can I help you feel better? What part of it all are you most worried about? I haven't had this one, but I've had several surgeries and c encountered many things in my life. I'd like to think I'm a pretty wise person, so if I can help just ask okay? Sent from my VS880PP using BariatricPal mobile app

You're gonna do just fine day after tomorrow. Rest and be calm tonight. When it's time, lie peacefully and go to sleep, when you wake you may be sore maybe not. One person said it just felt like they had done,2000 situps. I personally don't think,its gonna be worse than afterpains when you've just had a baby. I'll let you know what I felt when mine comes, but of course after Thursday you'll know yourself and you'll tell me. I had pancreatitis in 2015, ain't nothing can touch that pain. When they got,me up to walk a hour after knee replacement, it didn't hold a candle to that. You're going to do the traditional walk walk walk and sip sip sip and soon you'll be back,home and starting on a new healthier and fitter life. And I'm so excited for,you. God Bless. Sent from my VS880PP using BariatricPal mobile app

I agree with Tealael. You are a caring person in a very caring profession. I was a STNA for 20+ years, very nearly became a LPN. Take some time to take care of you first. You yourself are very important also. Sent from my VS880PP using BariatricPal mobile app

I could be your bariatric god-granny I also have fibromyalgia, Migraines, lymphedema in both legs, struggling with mild depression-- a good portion is eating myself up emotionally about not getting surgery, so anxiety &, used to have panic attacks. Otherwise I'm more than healthy,enough for surgery-- PCP says I'm a 40-45 year old trapped in a 72 year old shell. Low BP, low cholesterol, good heart, passable lungs and although I am an adult child of 2 diabetics ,no diabetes. He admits my cholesterol is lower than his and he's maybe mid40s.I have 2 plastic shoeboxes of pills, but right now I'm taking antibiotic for sinusitis, Wellbutrin, Ditropan , Zyrtec and a over50 Multivitamin. That's all currently.The Wellbutrin is to keep my anxious depression down prior to surgery, not a real high dosage. I'm not suicidal, more like I don't care to live. Does that make sense?, but do myself in? Nope I feel some days like I'd even screw that up. Low self esteem can come calling.for me. I try to reach out to others on Bariatric Pal and It helps me from crawling back into my safe turtle shell of isolation. Yeah ever this old cowgirl gets the blues. Sent from my VS880PP using BariatricPal mobile app

BGMOM12 aetna- thank God they didn't forget ya! Congratulations on your date, when is it so we can pray for a smooth surgery.?? Oh I'm so happy, always happy when somebody gets scheduled. Takes my mind off my own bumpy road to RnY. Sent from my VS880PP using BariatricPal mobile app