desertdivalv

He should make you feel like a goddess at any weight. I could grow another head and my husband would tell me that's just extra beauty or something to make me feel good. Maybe seeing a marriage counselor as well might be helpful.

So, a few things, in no particular order -
Your BMI based upon height and weight is generally one of the most significant criteria. So if you weigh 210 and are 5'2" - your BMI would be 38.4, which would qualify under most insurance policies. (Generally over 35 will get you covered if you have coverage in your plan for bariatric surgery). But if you are 5'7 - that makes your BMI 32.9 which might be too low for surgery - so knowing your BMI and what your insurance plans requirements are is the biggest factor.
Second - losing weight is not going to change how your father or your mother in law treat you. Losing weight is not about changing them, its about making changes for you. Your father's comments and anger will still be directed at you. Your mother in law will still treat you the way she does because your husband has never stepped up and told her that she cannot treat his wife like that. (I was married to a guy like that - we got divorced. Easiest 160 pounds I ever lost.)
Your relationship with your husband appears to have issues that have nothing to do with your weight. It sounds to me like you have a lot of work to do on yourself. From what I am reading, it appears you have some self-esteem issues which need to be worked out and bariatric surgery isn't going to fix those.
You have to go into this for the right reasons - and part of that is getting your head right about why you were overweight to begin with. Then you need to drill down and do the hard work on yourself.
I had VSG one year ago. I now weight less than when my husband married me. Am I thinking of leaving him? Absolutely not. Why? Because I love him and he loves me and we work on our relationship every day. I have my own work I need to do - I still see myself as the fat girl I once was.
Please find a counselor to work on yourself before you head toward surgery. If your head isn't in the right place, it will not work. It's not magic. It is a tool which requires commitment for the rest of your life.
I wish you luck and peace.

Everything Diana said. But I would give you a big hug and tell you all this as if I was your best friend.....
Be your own best friend right now. Give yourself everything you've got and make the changes to feel good about yourself.

Yes, my husband & children know, but other than that I am not telling anyone else in my family. As others have said, I just don't want it to be the constant topic of conversation (good or bad).

Thank you, I'm set for surgery with him on May 9th! Very excited! He did personally call and answered all my questions, however haven't seen a whole lot about him. But what I did find, I was pleased they were good reviews! But would like to find more info!

Has anyone here used him?

Nov 17 at the OCC in Mexico with Dr. Ortiz. Give a shout out if anyone will be there at this time.

I'm scheduled on November 17th

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I'm scheduled for Nov 17th in Mexico. CAN - NOT - WAIT! So ready to start this chapter of my life!

I'll ne in Mexico as well surgery November 17th Mexico bariatric center

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I'm scheduled for Nov 17th in Mexico. CAN - NOT - WAIT! So ready to start this chapter of my life!

I'm scheduled for Nov 17th in Mexico. CAN - NOT - WAIT! So ready to start this chapter of my life!