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My bypass is scheduled in December. I’ve learned so much taking the paid classes, etc. One fact that has stuck with me is the honeymoon period.

After the surgery your metabolism is great, and for 12 to 24 months you will lose weight. It’s during the honeymoon period that you must learn what and how much to eat for the rest of your life or you will begin to gain weight again.

It’s not the amount you eat, it’s what you eat.

I’ve seen several psychologists and a psychiatrist over my many years mainly because we had good insurance, and could afford to do so.

I learned you have to take some things they say with a grain of salt. Don’t take her words to heart. She could have major problems of her own. 😂

I would call the doctor or gastroenterologist who stretched your esophagus earlier and tell them what’s going on.

It’s inexcusable for your surgeon to not be available for you when you’re unable to swallow. Personally, I would raise h*ll until I got his attention!

The only other option you have is to go to the emergency room.

I’m so sorry. 😢

2 minutes ago, szhanay said:

Hi, I had my sleeve done 9/29 and I am now about a week post surgery. Every time I eat I get intense chest pain right on my diaphragm area ( i did have a hernia they removed while in surgery there) the pain gets worse with the thicker the liquid. Has anyone else experienced this ? About how long until it goes away ?

What has your surgeon said about it? Have you called them?

I am having the exact same thoughts. I’m doing very well on my pre op diet, and am wondering if I could just keep doing this.

Maybe I could, but I never have before. One reason I am have been successful on the pre op diet is because I know I have to see my surgeon once a month. And if I gain weight, i’m out of the program.

One reason I have decided to continue with the surgery is because i’m not a young chick anymore. I believe I will lose the weight faster by having the surgery.

About a week ago I read a post about a Vitamin dispenser. The woman sounded so excited to share her find!

I looked at her profile, and it looked strange for a few reasons. The more I thought about it, the more I thought she was just selling something.

Today I noticed this site selling the same brand of vitamin dispenser. Whatever.

i simply do not like items appear to be in my cart when there aren’t any, and neither do I like fake posters by this site (if this is the case). My apologies if this isn’t the case.

Rant over.

Congrats!!

I’ve never watched it, but I think I’ll start. Sounds good!

My surgeon said I had no choice because I already had hiatal hernia surgery. I’m kind of glad now as I understand you lose weight faster.

I remember how Star Jones was treated on “The View.” The other women were angry at her for not telling the truth. They treated her terribly. As I recall, she was simply trying to keep it private, but the other women shamed her for it.

3 hours ago, FluffyChix said:

I'd just say when asked, "Magic, baby! Pure magic!"

Lol!!! Thanks for the laugh!!!!

Congratulations!!!

13 minutes ago, PrayingForWeightLoss said:

I am a clinician and am bound by very strict confidentiality laws. That person should be too. It is a gross violation of professionalism if they divulge your medical information. Your body, your choice. Personally, I chose not to publicize my WLS. I had a hysterectomy a few years ago and I chose not to share either. Over the years, I have had a urinary tract infection, a yeast infection and got a tooth extracted. Again I chose not to share. I just believe my medical information is private. It is your choice and don't feel pressured by anybody to divulge.

Thank you so much. 🙂

8 hours ago, Skinnycows said:

I respect your choice and understand to a degree but I feel you're not doing yourself justice by hiding away. You need to be proud of your choice and proud you've decided to be healthy. There is nothing wrong with what you're doing and only by telling people and explaining can you teach their ignorance if they do react badly. At the end of the day it's your body and your choice and I think it's a shame to have to hide how much work you're doing to be a better you.

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You make a lot of sense. Thank you. 🌸

1 hour ago, ColleenErin1974 said:

I totally agree with Rainbow_Warrior. Let your surgical team know about the certain staff member and your worries about her knowing. If she breaks HIPPA guidelines, it can be up to a $250,000 fine. You have every right to inform or not inform anyone you wish about WLS. Good luck to you on your journey! You can do this!

Great idea. As kind a person I am, I would definitely sue. I would be so angry.

4 hours ago, Rainbow_Warrior said:

I don't want this to come across as hurtful or negative but you may be awry in your estimation.

No best friend or true friend would 'open' your secrets and personal information to third parties.

That's the mistake people also make when assuming that anyone they speak to or mix with, including social media, is a friend.

If I was in your position, I'd be reassessing any one of my so called "best friends" if they were the sort of person that would open private information up to public scrutiny.

It has crossed my mind that a true friend would keep a secret. In a way, she can’t help it in that she gets a kind of high from it. Sad, but true.

28 minutes ago, Myaiku_Kuraitani said:

I haven't but you're not obligated to tell them anything. If they gossip or can't keep secrets and you don't want the whole world knowing... Do you really think they absolutely have to know what they did.

Word got around about me having my surgery and I never said anything to anyone about it. Be careful who you tell... Some people have a mouth that never stays closed.

Hw-273
Sw-226
CW-164
GW-130
Size- 4 or 6, Small in sweats. Large in shirts... Could be a medium. depends on how it's cut or made.

Surgery Date- April 26th, 2017
RNY
"Only those who try will become" FFX

Thank you. I agree that certain people can’t keep their mouth shut. I’ve decided to not ever let them know.

2 hours ago, Loot Lady said:

Here is my take on things - I told friends and family first, once I had a confirmed surgery date. Then after surgery, I told others. Mostly for myself not having to deal with awkward questions... if you loose a lot of weight quickly, sometimes people think you are sick and worry about you. It happened to me before, (another weight loss attempt) and a customer brought me a get well card thinking I had cancer. So - I used Facebook to announce to others post surgery, that if they noticed me loosing weight, it was because I was focusing on my health, that I was recovering from a gastric by-pass. The support I got and continue to get is amazing. Be brave - you decide who knows, but consider the positive role model you are.

Thank you so much! I think my problem is that most of my friends don’t know that i’m overweight enough to qualify for surgery. I’ve been too embarrassed to go anywhere in case someone saw me.

I believe I’ll become more confident as times go by.

I am scared to death of gaining any weight between surgeon’s visits. In the booklet I was given, it says that if you gain weight during the process, you’re outta there! I’m sure they would understand fluctuating weight, but I dunno! Eek!

10 minutes ago, naturallyzee said:

I chose not to tell anyone except the hubby and immediate family. Someone at work asked if I had the surgery. This person is obese. I don't think she was being nosey or rude. I think she just wanted information. I just said I decided to live a healthy life and left it at that. I don't think it's something I need to share with everyone.

HW 330
SW 292
CW 204.2
GW below 200

I agree, and congratulations on your weight loss! 🙂

Have you had to have many tests done yet, and did you have to pay for them? I can’t imagine a surgeon allowing you to go all through that without them being fairly sure that your insurance will pay. They usually know.

17 minutes ago, SammieKay said:

First, realize that you are not obligated to tell anyone anything. It's your story to tell IF, and WHEN you want to do so. If someone asks you if you had weight loss surgery you can say,

" That's an interesting question. Here's what I will say: I made a conscious decision to put myself and my health first. And, that decision led me to put a plan in place that's helping me to get healthy. My focus is getting & staying healthy. And, I'm keeping the conversation at that level and not getting derailed into making this about weight".

Then move the conversation along by switching topics.....

A bit long, but hopefully you get the idea.

Thank you so much. That’s a good way to explain it.

My problem is that my friends know me so well that they will get me to admit it, and then, being me, I will cry and be upset with myself and them for persisting.

On top of that, one friend’s relative is in charge, in some way, of all the surgeries where I will go. I know that there are Hippa? laws, but I have no doubt she will ask them, and they will tell her.

Then she will tell everyone.

I don’t know. I wish I didn’t care, but I do.

I have told my immediate family about my upcoming bypass surgery, but not my friends. I really don’t see my best friends that often, but that’s been my fault since they live right here. We do correspond everyday.

Even though two women are my best friends, they are the ones who will not keep a secret. I’ve learned the hard way.

I’ve been thinking ahead, and I see the following scenario coming up. After I lose a significant amount of weight, I know they will just ask me if I’ve had surgery. I don’t want to lie to them, but I will feel so much guilt if I do.

Has anyone run into this situation when people just bluntly ask if you’ve had WLS?

HW 275

CW 262

Surgery in December

I’ve always watched the show. But now that i’m about to have the bypass, I watch it with more interest.

I find it informative, especially what NOT to do. 😂.

I haven’t had a psych evaluation online, but depression is considered one of the hallmarks of being obese. In other words, you’re normal. 😀