FluffyChix

GREAT point girl! Very very great points!

Ok, so I'm seriously interested. I'm not trying to be mean or accusatory. I'm SERIOUSLY interested in your history. Did you have some metabolic event or genetic disease such as lipomatosis that got you a ticket to the MO Obesity Ball? If you TRULY do not have any food addictions or anything like that, and don't have any medical reason, how do you suppose you got to weigh 249lbs at 5'3"? How long were you in this category? For me, I was obese from childhood. ITP and steroids until 11 set me up with a lovely parting gift of PCOS that dogged me for life along with genetic predisposition to it, AND a lifetime of "food issues," over eating, comfort eating, eating cuz I had cravings, self indulgence, self abuse, depression, etc, etc, etc. I could not will power or white knuckle diet myself to goal ever. I'd get within 20lbs and decide I "felt good enough" and was "happy enough with my new size" and so I rationalized the crap outta going the distance. But I'm not gonna do it this time. Fu*k settling. Sideways. Real hard. Cuz no matter how dedicated and focused I need to be, I will get there. There is no quitting this time.

Let's go girl. You be hotttt!!! And Mr. F. Might like havin' two of us in the hizzouse!

It's gonna get way more fun when I'm thin and at goal! Cuz you know...there is no disguising someone going from 287 down to 150 in about 18 months. LOL. Inside I'm kinda like waiting for Christmas. But of course, they do all know I'm "eating healthy and exercising" so it might not be as much fun and mystery as I think. If I'm pressed, I just say stuff like, "Dang! Lunch is still with me!"

Set your "Oh sh*t! Panic Meter" at 5 lbs. If you're at the top of your window, go back to basics and hone down until you're back at your goal. I truly think from observing the vets who are 3-4+ years out, that these people maintain without a gain. And make it look easy. We know though, it really isn't easy lol.

I just shut-up, smile mysteriously and don't explain anything. It adds to the drama and suspense!

Don't wuss out. Don't rationalize. Don't over-think. Trust me. I did all of it and it was a GINORMOUS waste of time. I would do this over again a million billion trillion gazillion times.

Don't poke it? Yeah, I think I remember one of my incisions being more painful. Probably where they put the anal probe or something. It got better. Call the doc if it gets worse, or reddens, or you develop a fever. I think my instructs were fevel lasting over 24hours that is over 100.4 degrees to be quite specific. Drink and walk!

Well, it could be emotions, or maybe our opposable thumb. (and kung fu grip) Sounds like you've got in figured out and under control! You'll rock it. No doubt!! Again, welcome to the boards!

Ok, this is a FABULOUS point!! My goal of 150 is the weight I was in high school. And it's still in overweight territory at 5'4". I had my RD confirm my goal--even though hers is 160-170lbs for me. And she cautioned me not to get all het-up if I don't make my goal. :-/ The goal she determined from a formula is: (Surgery Day Weight - Ideal Weight) x 60% for RNY surgery (or 65% for RNY if you really push it)=Projected Weight Loss Goal So I'll use this as an example: 1. Ideal Weight in the US = 100lbs for the first 5 feet (for women) + 5 lbs for every additional inch over 5 feet *Now, this in and of itself might hold the contradiction. Because this is old-school and taken from the old insurance tables, but never-the-less, it's what the RDs STILL to this mother truckin' day use to compute ideal weight in their formulas. :-/ So for me: I'm 5'4" So Ideal Wt=100+20=120lbs (cuz 5x4=20) 2. My Weight Projection from the RD 222-120=102lbs of EBW (excess body weight) 102 x 60% = 61.2lbs 3. 222-61=161lbs at 60% loss (I'm just saying for the record right now...if I'm stuck at 161lbs at the end of my honeymoon period and cannot lose another ounce, then I might have to look at sacrificing small rodents or a live chicken. Something isn't going to end well. Just sayin'. 4. So to appease me, she ran the numbers at 65% too. 222-120=102lbs x 65%=66lbs EBW 222-66=156 Notes: So she is estimating I will fall between 156 and 161lbs. So my goal of 150lbs is not so unrealistic. I thought her % seemed low for RNY, but she said that's the percentage they use for that particular surgery. I thought RNY had a higher % of loss on average?

((hugs)) I know hon. It's so weird how volatile it gets with it (I think?). And then I see young people able to go drink like fishes and still lose and I'm like...oh the thoughts I'm having about you. Yeah, I figure I will try to give it a year and see how I feel then. I do know my liver and upper right quadrant really feels so great now! LOL. So I may just kick it to the curb. Who knows. It doesn't hold the importance I once thought it held. I now feel it's so easy to go out with fam and friends and they are all drinking around me and I still have fun at the event without it. But you know, it's subject to change without notice. ROFLMFAO!!

OH man! I have to give the wine chalice a miss at mass! I just cross myself and walk on. The thought of it alone makes my esophagus and tummy burn! But I will say, I do enjoy sniffing Mr. F's glass of wine and his glass of whiskey! And I'm truly satisfied with that--with no longing or feelings of needing to have one. Hope that isn't an eating disorder. LOL.

I laughed. I cried. I felt the whole gamut of emotions... So look. This is life. We didn't get this far in life not to be cracked, warped or bent by it. All of us. We're one big giant bowl of cracked nuts and if we were cracked so far to get to the point that we could take part in the obesity ball--we may have quite a few more mental issues than some who are not at the ball. Who knows? I just know MO and mental issues/depression/anger/PTSD, etc, go hand in hand. I also know that living well (and successfully) is the best revenge. And lastly, I know that forgiveness isn't for others. It's for ourselves. When we forgive someone, we grow whole again. And scar tissue can then form over the gaping sucking chest wound. We also can go on to experience full and rich lives as more complex, resilient people. So honestly? It sounds like at this point you are stuck in the past and it's keeping you from your full rich future. Getting skinny isn't going to help you. It's like being rich. You think you'll be happy. But if you were a miserable poor schlep, guess what you'll be once you win the lottery. Get counseling. Spend your time (THIS time) working on YOU. Work on your emotions, your spirituality, on healing. This isn't magic bean surgery. It's surgery on your guts. The End. You STILL have to do the head work. (Ok, I know gut-brain axis theories and neurohormones etc begin in the gut. So it is a little bit like having pseudo brain surgery too...but seriously dude. Put the big F-U in FUN and lose your romantic past thoughts of your catalog model.) Sincerely, No Protein Necessary

Yes, I tasted a couple of sips of a Michelada. BIG mistake. Not anxious to repeat alcohol any time soon--including my beloved wine. Honestly, I thought I'd miss it. But I do not. I'm much happier with tea. And plus, any time pre-surg that I had alcohol of any kind, I stalled for 4 days. I could count it on the calendar. And I'd usually go up a couple pounds about 2 days after drinking. It SUCKED!

Bahahahaha! He was a trooper, for sure! Texas wines are something of an oxymoron! LOL. I asked him if he thought they grew the grapes for photo ops only! LOL, cuz most get either grapes or concentrate from California. And you gotta think the vintners in CA aren't stupid. Just like in Italy, they keep the "good stuff" in country! LOL. I kid you not, at one place, I smelled each glass and they all made my nose burn!!! I'm like dayum...can you say not fully fermented alcohol and acetone?? *snort* But yes, the atmostphere is soooo lovely and relaxing! Glad to hear you have that too. Cuz you know, mizreh loves company! Hey, how's the charting going? Is that thing which won't be mentioned going down still? ((hugs))

First. Welcome. And congrats on your surgery. Second. If you had schrapnel, then the most obvious is that this happened during active duty and if so, thank you for your service. Third. Take a vacation from your profession. Seriously. Stop the reading. Stop over thinking. Stop micro-managing. Doctors make THE worst patients and worse, you scare the crap out of yourself with knowing too much. And then there's the whole debateable self-fulfilling prophecy thing. Fourth. They told me in the hospital and I saw it for myself that they were running my drip slowly to avoid a build up of too much fluid. (I know a bit about iv rates and could see by the rate of drip...) I STILL came out with 14 extra pounds of fluid. My abdomen looked like a 5month pregnancy. I also had quite a bad case of adhesions from a previous surgery and bad uterus (nothing in comparison to the trauma of schrapnel). Frankly, between measuring with my 1oz med cups and sip, sip, sipping, and walking, and dozing I had my hands full from a time perspective. I watched endless documentaries and binge watched some series. I did small things around the house and by I think day 2 of being home I was playing mah jhong and hearts and helping make din for the fam with my sissy. LOL. Good news is by week 1, my fluid was almost gone, and my tummy had come down significantly. The walking helped so much. I walked every hour that I was awake! So find something that interests you--non-medical related! And do it!

Wait. I'm confused. You weigh 280lbs? If so, I guarantee you're >40BMI. That alone quals you. If you are <40BMI, then RA IS a recognized co-morbidity for insurance. So why are you cash pay? Welcome to the boards and sorry for your struggle btw.

Hi Sarah, welcome!!! Read a lot and post often!!

Good luck. Sorry for your struggles!

What are you eating in a day. Post some sample menus please with daily totals if possible--also how many cals per day? Also, what volume is a meal? And are you still drinking protein drinks? How many meals/snacks/times do you eat a day? Are you drinking alcohol? Do you drink/eat at the same time? Are you taking supplements? Do you exercise?

Great report girl. Congrats no 10lbs!!!! Glad the nausea and feeling bad is lessening. Good that you go through it now and not after surgery!! But ICK on the heartburn. It sounds like your protein drinks are not playing well with your bod hon. Or else, your vitamins aren't? May 17th will be here so fast!!! Excited for you!!!!

Holy cow! That's awesome!!!! On both counts--hubs losing 2 waist sizes and YOU being right close to each other. Doesn't it make you fee fantastic? I swear that was a SV that was so dear to me. Can't wait for you to report that you've passed him by and are wearing his jeans now! Then that his jeans are too big for you! Sooooo craving tacos!!!! And we're making fajitas tomorrow. I was so pooped when we got in that we just had turkey roll-ups and raw veggies for dins. Then I needed a little more protein, so had my decaff sf peppermint protein mocha. Tonight is lc fish and shrimp tacos. Tomorrow is beef and fajitas chicken. And Tuesday is chicken, mushroom, peapod stir fry. LOL. Then no cooking for the rest of the week cuz we will have a metric crap ton of leftovers and I'm good to fly 'til next Saturday! hahaha. Happy belated Cinco de Mayo!!! Sadly the arts & crafts fair was cancelled and we never found Mai Fest. But we explored Brenham (cute cute town on the way to College Station), and stopped at a some Texas wineries. I drank my iced tea and Mr. F. gacked over bad wine. But the views were great, the breeze was awesome, and the sunshine magnificent. We had great conversation and met some lovely peeps along the way. So it was a great day for a drive and an adventure. And we're about to go walking on the nature preserve this morning. Sunday brunch with bacon! Then back home to lots of chores.

Ok guys. Just a brief fly-by then off to an arts & crafts fair! We had a great time at the ballpark yesterday. Our team one and is in first place in the league! Woot!! 7-0 games won. Wore shorts. Was great! Now this morning used my new Hamilton Beach "personal blender" to make a green smoothie. $14.99 at Big Lots! Yippee!!! It made the smoothest, most non-gritty fully blended smoothie I've ever made at home! And I'm trying out doing 3g of psyllium husks in it. If this goes down and sits well without marching through me like Sherman through Georgia, I'll go up to 6g of psyllium husks. May be dicey, but I have GOT to up my fiber. I am used to having 10-12g of psyllium husks daily pre-surg. So hopefully my gut still remembers that volume! Here's the green smoothie recipe. Sorry no piccys. GREEN SMOOTHIE Serves 1: IDK. A big ass glass full. Will have to measure my glass volume later, but it's maybe 16oz? (Ok measured: 400ml; 1 3/4cup; about 14oz. ) 44g frozen blueberries (about 1 1/2oz) 2oz frozen chopped spinach 25g Isopure Bananas and Cream protein powder 4g Vitacost peanut butter powder (Peanut Butter Slim=PB2 you get in the grocery) 3g NOW! whole psyllium husks (optional but it keeps me full longer) 6floz Silk Cashew Milk (can use So Delicious Coconut Milk, almond milk, or FF Fairlife or FF Mootopia) 4floz cold water ice cubes (optional) Nutrition w/o psyllium husks: 168cals; 25g protein; 2g fat; 10g carbs; 3g fiber; 7g net carbs; 6g nat sugars Nutrition w/psyllium husks: 179cals; 25g protein; 2g fat; 12g carbs; 5g fiber; 7g net carbs; 6g nat sugars Have a great day!!!

Oh my gosh. THIS!!! ^^^^ A thousand times this!!!

Gosh I'm so glad you brought this up. I didn't realize mine were going down as well. But someone pm'd me last night about the same thing asking if I knew anything. I hope you guys get it fixed. I do really love hitting the like button and am a frequent flyer - er - I mean liker. Cuz you know, it's nice to be nice to the nice! Ok, off to the ball game! ((hugs))