QueenTiff

I am having my surgery on Aug 14. Would love to hear how you do after your first few days.

Hi I'm in Louisville too! Surgery date is 8/14 for the sleeve. Have you had surgery? Doing pre op diet now. Only first day. So far not bad lol. Good luck to you!

So I'm getting sleeved on this date and would love to have a day to day friend to help out and vice versa. How are you feeling as well? Also what diet are you on?

Tiffani️

I don't actually have some curves, I have a lot of curves. My waist to hip ratio is .74 and I wear a 34G/F.
My friend had RNY several years ago, and decided to stop her weight loss at 255 before she decided she was fine at that point but at 5'3, she still qualified for surgery and was still morbidly obese. Fast forward she has gained back to 300. All because she wanted to keep some curves.
Meanwhile I am cuvier than her because my waist is well defined. My breasts stick of far past my stomach.
Pam Grier is probably the best classic hourglass I can think of. Her body was amazing in the 70s, and she had a face to match. Her measurements were 40 28 40. I am not quite there. I need to lose a couple inches of my waist and hips to get there but that is what being curvy at a healthy weight looks like. No one in their right mind would ever say that she isn't curvy.
You can still easily be a brick house at a normal weight.

Nope. I don't engage in any type of shaming as it's not worth expending my energy to do something so negative to others. However, health will always trump curves and I stand by my views.
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Good health always takes precedence over curves and looks.
Many of the women who receive dialysis three times per week still have their curves and look great, yet they're going to die young. Many women who have had major strokes look great and have curves, but their weight problem placed them at increased risk.
Great looks and curves don't mean much when you stick your finger 4 times a day and shoot insulin to prevent blindness, kidney disease, heart problems and nerve damage associated with diabetes.
Great looks and a curvy body won't help when one is told she must undergo a bilateral knee replacement and weeks of therapy because the 300+ pound body wore the joints down over the years.
It is time to ignore the people in your life who prioritize 'curves' over improved health. I'll bet top dollar that many of them aren't truly concerned...they're envious.

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Currently I am smaller than I have ever been. I am smaller than I was when I was a freshman in HS, partially because I am just smaller and also because I am about 2 inches taller.
I had no idea what to expect when losing weight because I had never lost more than 30-50 pounds and had never dropped a size really.
I went from a tight size 28, loose size 30 to a perfect size 10 in almost all brands of dress. Size 8 top, size 10 on the bottom.
You don't have your information filled out so I have no idea where you are starting or how long you have been large.
I really never imagined I would be shaped like this, but now I am built just like my aunts and I actually fit in with my family.
Just lose the weight and see where you are. Work out if you want to, go hard if you want to, but don't fear losing weight thinking you are going to lose your femininity.
Also being curvy and "looking good" is not going to save someone from metabolic disease, diabtetes, heart issues, skin issues, etc.

People that say that ish are just haters.
I went from an apple to an hourglass. I walk and do yoga. I do weights some of the time but not really. I have way more muscle mass than a person who was never obese because I was obese and my body had to adapt to carry it. I don't have to add muscle just maintain what I already have.
The people that look like who did it and what for post-op either were bad bodied from jump and nothing was going to save them, or they ate the bare minimum Protein and it shows. You can always see it all in their face.
If you have a figure you will still have a figure. I had a big stomach that overshadowed my breasts, hips and butt. When I lost the stomach all of that was able to shine. And yes I lost all over, but I still am shapely. People can still be shapely and be smaller. All you have to do is be proportionate.
None of this is to discourage you from working out or adding weights etc but losing weight should not equate a fear of losing your figure.
Those are just things that people tell you to hold you back, project their own feelings on you, usually because they are afraid you will be smaller and more attractive than them.
I am all for being body positive but this idea that obesity is curves is lunacy.

Just think about why you are doing it and the outcome...slim thick...yasss. Stay positive. your emotions are normal

So I'm talking to a couple of people that are close to me about the surgery. I sworn I wouldn't tell anyone but I think these people deserve to know. Anyway they were talking about did I start adding more squats and weights in my workout routine? I said kinda but not really why do you ask. They told me I was going to lose my figure and have to build it back up. I don't think that's true but then again I don't know I never lost more than 20 pounds in my entire life.

Tiffani️

Congrats!!!! You look amazing and continue slaying!


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My surgery date is August 7 and let me tell you the waiting game is an awful game. You have all different emotions and you're just questioning a lot of things. I suggest keeping that new sexy you in the back of your head the whole time. I'm not sure what type of diet you will have to do but I'm on 1500 calories and boy it's depressing. All the foods I ate before the diet I miss but all the food I'm eating for the diet I'm going to miss. Again I say keep the bigger prize in your eyes. That's what is helping me and I hope it can help you too.


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Hi! Saw your surgery is scheduled for the 7th! I'm having mine on the 1st! Here to chat if you want! [emoji4][emoji173]️

I read the forums and comment when I feel like it- reading others posts and connecting with them will build your relationships on the site. I cruise the forums when I'm bored or want to eat something.
I've made some friends that ways I have only told a few people about my surgery so here is where I connect with people who understand what I'm going through or who can help Celebrate the little accomplishments.
So - that said, welcome!


Mich W
Hw 223, SW 217 CW 197.4 GW 135

Lol wish I knew. I was a hot mess the week before surgery. I spent a lot of time on here! It was wasted energy though because everything turned out great and yours should too. [emoji173]

@ QueenTiff Hello there you are not alone we can inbox chit chat if you like my surgery is next month also I live in California .ITS weird but I'm not nervous at least not yet I can't speak for the day of but as of now no ..Goodluck too you on your journey!

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Same I'm young and haven't told many people I'm gonna have this procedure


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Start thinking about the new you thats about to happen. Go shopping & get something you want to get into. Make a list of all your meds & times you'll need to take them. Get organized with your drinks & items youll need post surgery. Get excited about your new journey that you worked so hard to get to!

I am from Louisville , KY anyone wants to be buddies I'm all for it!


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It will all come into place. Anything specific let me know!

I felt like it wasn't coming fast enough and then it was like wait I'm not ready all the way up until the time they rolled me back to surgery. Which surgery are you having? I had the sleeve

I have my surgery August 7th so things are coming fast


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Hey hun!

Hi Tiff. Im 1 week post op. Anything I can do to help you on your journey let me know. Where you from?

I could've put mine in right after surgery, but was feeling so ill I didn't until I got home- and had a hard time getting them back in [emoji30]