QueenTiff

Thank you so much I really needed to hear this! God bless you


Tiffani️

So I’m just curious for anyone who knows people who had surgery as well, do they compare you to them. I’m about 8 months out and a couple pounds from 100 down but my friends who are only a couple months compare themselves to me and it really makes me mad. I have goals just like them, I struggle just like them and I’m wishing I lost a certain weight too. I really try to be a guide to the process but it’s starting to upset me. What should I do?

Tiffani️

So I got sleeved in August and it’s almost 7 months since surgery and I still have not reach my 100 pound down goal and it’s really eating my soul. I know that sometimes it’s my own fault you know from eating the wrong things but other times I just don’t know what to do. I gained two pounds from having to much fun and now I’m trying to go back down again. It’s frustrating when your afraid your gonna fail. Any encouragement? Advice I been stress out for months?

Tiffani️

So I️ know during this journey otherwise being healthy, getting the weight off is important. I️ also know it’s very important to not compare yourself to other people because it can get discouraging. My question is how do I stop being impatient. I’m a impatient person in general but reading these stories and seeing people results in 6 months honestly have me worried. I️ would love to be 100 pounds down in 6 months but I️ just feel like that’s not gonna happen. So how do I️ just stay focused and let my body do the work?
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Also i have a lot of “I️” these things it’s because my letter l is messed up.


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So I️ know during this journey otherwise being healthy, getting the weight off is important. I️ also know it’s very important to not compare yourself to other people because it can get discouraging. My question is how do I stop being impatient. I’m a impatient person in general but reading these stories and seeing people results in 6 months honestly have me worried. I️ would love to be 100 pounds down in 6 months but I️ just feel like that’s not gonna happen. So how do I️ just stay focused and let my body do the work?

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So I admit I had some bad choices lately and maybe this is why I’m feeling like I’m not losing weight but geeze it seems like I been at the same weight for a couple weeks now or more and it’s killing me. Even my sister loses weight and her eating habits are awful she has the lapband. Im just trying to figure out what I can do. Im back on track now and I workout more so idk maybe I’im

Just impatient. Any suggestions?

Tiffani️

Wait it is past one month I mean 2 sorry I'm sleepy lol


Tiffani️

You're not taking in enough calories to gain. Even with a change in phase at this point. Your weight loss WILL slow down but there's not anything you can do about that. We lose a large amount in the beginning with pre/post op diets. Its normal to slow down to 2lbs a week depending on your weight and habits. But this soon out i wouldnt worry. Mainly because your still healing. So long as you keep at what your doing, move at your own pace and sip, sip, sip, you should be fine. Just take it slow. I didn't start weighing consistently until well after a month post. I'm almost a year.

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I'm having this same problem honestly like I want it to go fast but I keep forgetting I already lost 37 pounds so far and it's not even one month. so Idk im so eager to get to 200 pounds but that's more than 100 pounds. Keep pushing you got this I promise


Tiffani️

Hey guys I'm back.

So since last couple of weeks I been doing so much better. Thoughts have changed but now I'm struggling with a new problem. Weightloss. So I started my first Water aerobic class and I felt great but even though it's only been a day I feel like my appetite has increased. It makes me a little worried. I really want to get out of the 300s and into the 200s but I have to lose this 15 pounds. I feel like I'm losing weight slow but someone said it's progress. Idk anyone has advice or something

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Well I truly appreciate this thread. I agree I did kind of go off on people but at the time I was in sooo much pain I just wanted someone to say it's ok. I always tried be genuine and raw. My aunt and best friend is getting this surgery and I want to be the best example I can be. So again thank you so much and I have nothing but love and support for you.


Tiffani️

And I'm just like you. I never met you in my life so to think someone is gonna cyber bully me into thinking that I'm dumb for the way I'm feeling they are absolutely out of their mind. People don't understand there is no difference between me on the internet and off. People get all scared when the other person speaks back and defend themselves. Sorry that was a little rant but I understand


Tiffani️

It was your thread that actually made me post this some of the comments were outta line .. I'm not about that life I'll cuss somebody ass out coming for me the way they were coming for you..... it's so sad because you already feel away for even telling people who actually know you saying negative **** to you but when somebody you probably will never meet think they can say whatever and it be ok is crazy to me.....

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Well I truly appreciate this thread. I agree I did kind of go off on people but at the time I was in sooo much pain I just wanted someone to say it's ok. I always tried be genuine and raw. My aunt and best friend is getting this surgery and I want to be the best example I can be. So again thank you so much and I have nothing but love and support for you.


Tiffani️

SOME OF THESE COMMENTS UNDER THESE THREADS ARE CRAZY ... EVERYONE'S EXPERIENCE WITH SURGERY IS DIFFERENT HOW CAN YOU BASH SOMEONE FOR FEELING HOW THEY FEEL??????!!!!!!! ONE THING I DO KNOW IS THAT AFTER I GET MY SURGERY AND I EXPRESS HOW IM FEELING AND YOU COME FOR ME IN A NEGATIVE WAY IM GONNA LET YOU HAVE IT AND THEN IM GONNA BLOCK YOU.....

I know exactly how you feel. I just want to be more positive and pray I can do better. I'm here for ya if you need someone to talk too


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Hi tiff, I am from the UK and I have postponed my surgery 3 times already because of the fear of regretting the surgery . I appreciate honest and realistic posts like yours. My surgery is on the 26th of September but at the moment I am in 2 minds about getting it done.

I try to be as honest and raw as I can. I am doing better than when I originally posted this but it's still a struggle. I would encourage you to get it and get through it. I wish I could hold your hand but I promise to be here for support


Tiffani️

Keep your head up Sis!
This is a journey that's affects all of us differently. We have the surgery in common but where it leads us to in our lives and how we feel about it is as individual as you get.
Have you ever hear the saying "Eat the meat and spit out the bones."? That what you have to do with the negative comments. Take whats good and leave whats not.
I respect and applaud you for sharing your ups and downs and being raw. Its doesn't always invite the kindest of people, but you put yourself out there anyway. You continue on knowing that you are helping the person who feels just like you do but is afraid to say anything for fear of being judged and called names just like you were.
I will be one full month sleeved on the 14th and let me tell you, things have taken a turn for the positive. Im eating and drinking much better and I no longer dread my decision but am beginning to be aT peace with the new me. And yes, I do like watching the numbers going down on the scale. But I certainly didn't feel that way 3 weeks ago. Now, I find myself motivated to try eating in a different way.
I said all that to say, be encouraged. And I hope that things are looking up for you a bit.

Thank you I needed to hear that!



Tiffani️

The whole back and forth accusatory banter is a counter productive deflection to thwart discussion about the "Real" issue at hand, which is your original post about regretting the surgery. Check into resuming your therapy to figure this new way of living out and don't post in the forum areas until you are emotionally ready to review what others are saying and various perspectives, without all of the sour comeback statements and argumentative posting tone in your replies. #GoodLuckAdapting

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Most of my responses are very grateful and fortunate that people share their experience with me and people encourage me to still push forward. I am always ready to view people opinions of things but I'm also allowed to say how I feel, what I feel in response. It's America, it's only sour if that individual takes it sour. Thank you for your concern and thank you for sharing how you once had regret in your journey as well. I appreciate you sharing your experience.


Tiffani️

@ Tiffany
Got up your @$$.. ??? Not even really sure what that is. Change your sour attitude and stop making everything that happens to you in your negitive existence somebody else's fault. You elected to make your life better apparently .. Good for you. It's a giant step to a positive future. Now buck-up and live the dream.. The surgery is the BEST elected decision I've made in my life-time.

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You chose to be negative and you chose to address this post telling me I'm pathetic. I will happily take all the advice and encouragement that you have but the harsh words of yours I won't allow. At the end of the day the only person who can really help me through my emotional boundaries is god and people who truly care for me. Have you started your comment with not calling me pathetic we wouldn't be here but since you did now we are here. Negative things that happen to me I never blamed anyone but myself. I am so happy the surgery was the best thing that happen to you and I pray I can get to where you are. See that's what this app is all about.


Tiffani️

Stop-it you're feeling sorry for yourself.. You have an opportunity to be the biggest success of your life-time.. Instead you sound like a pathetic addict. Yes a food addiction addict.. Wise up or people will blv you're a failure seeking attention which may be why you elected to have the surgery in the first place.. A psychology evaluation seems to be in order.

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Don't ever in your life call me pathetic! I may have low days and want to share with the group because it's normal but don't call me pathetic. My bounce back is strong just like my attitude chill and sit the f**k down somewhere


Tiffani️

What he said to you was true. If you can't deal with the point of view from other forum members, don't post. We should be able to be open and honest about all things relevant to this lifestyle we ALL laid on the operating table to commit to. Perhaps you should seek more individual therapy or group support to fully explore why you wanted surgery in the first place and what you expected to gain and contrast the inner discovery you make with the reality of what this new life really is. #DoNewThingsForNewResults

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Obviously you can't deal with people point of view either because what I said to him was my point of view


Tiffani️

I am on week 3 post op and I feel like I made the biggest mistake in my life. I'm reading how my favorite foods is a no go and I'll never eat it in my life again. Here I am struggling to meet my goal of Protein and Water. I can't enjoy life with my friends. I'm over this sleeve people who wants to get it I tell them don't. I'm trying to find the beauty in all this but right now I feel like I ruined my life.
Tiffani️

So let me update everyone on my life. So many responses in two weeks. I appreciate all the comments even though some people are just naive to life. Like some people on here act like it's sooo easy. If it's so easy how come you couldn't lose the weight on your own. (That's a different topic though) . I experience a lot in two weeks I lost 40 pounds in 4 weeks. Pretty great I know. Um I'll be over a month out tomorrow. Do I feel different than two weeks ago..... yes. Is this still a process for me.... yes. Do I still have regret not as much as I did originally it is getting better. I dilute a lot of drinks and found out some foods like queso still isn't my friend. I'm working on it I really do. I start my workout in another week. I chose to build myself back up by water than just go straight into the gym. So thank you all for the comments like this thread went viral. I'm glad it did because there so many people who are feeling this way but scared to admit it. I'm always glad to be a voice for people anyway I can. Again thank you all for your encouragement. Also for those of you who are still judgmental..... you all need to live life a little. Go get your nipples pierced or skinny dip or something. You don't have to be "the bitter mean/old/ person" I understand you all are giving wisdom and advice but to talk about people maturity level or say that I need to go to an institution and I'm crazy that's just kind of low.


Tiffani️

I keep hoping the next update to this thread will be Tiff saying the cloud has lifted and she feels better.

I'll be honest with you when it's not one thing it's another I don't think I was made for this surgery or something. I don't seem to be doing anything right and no it's not getting better.


Tiffani️

I really like rotisserie chicken it's good


Tiffani️

I did a google search for menu plans and it helped. I'm doing low carb so lots of meats (the fish here sucks or I'd do more fish) cheeses and nuts. I am forcing myself to cook more so I don't get bored and don't fall into old habits. It took me a while to get in the groove so at your stage I was eating chicken. Lots of chicken lol
Do you like to cook?

I hate cooking but I'm like you I'm gonna have to force myself to cook. I just am like so what do I cook. When can I eat I start adding certain foods in you know. Can you tell me exactly what you googled because I need help.


Tiffani️

Oh you're still early


Tiffani️

Precisely, this is why I'm not returning to my gym until one-month post-op just to be safe.

When did you get sleeved



Tiffani️

I stick with the basics, focus on Protein, Vitamins and Water. So I eat mostly: bacon,egg,cheese in morning, rotisserie chicken for lunch/dinner, nuts/soft veggies/cheese for Snacks. Even when I was on the full diet it took me a long time to ease into what I'm eating now. My stomach took a long time to heal so it took a lot of trial and error to find what works best for me. And even now and under a year I'm still slowly trying to add things in. I don't eat veggies with hard rinds, I can't do beef very well, things are just different. But it's fun to try, little bites here and there see how it goes. Okay good

Yeah it's just nerve wrecking I feel like idk what to eat. But thank you for that help


Tiffani️