GreenTealael

Dealing with unsupportive family is really hard. 😢 The New Yorker in me always wants to use sarcasm but defensive tactics don't always work especially with people you love (sometimes it just alienates you further) You may have to win them over with patience & kindness. Perhaps let them express what they want to you (1 on 1 so you don't feel attacked and overwhelmed), present them with the research you've gathered, answer questions & even invite them to seminars or doctors appts. Or maybe don't address anything until after surgery when you are more confident in you decision. The choice is entirely yours. But please *try* to not let their opinions sway you in either direction. This life & body belongs to you alone and you have to make the right decisions for yourself. Good Luck and try to enjoy the (inquisition) event as much as possible❤

Want to bet ...😎 Joking! It maybe just be a temporary aversion. I began to develop food aversions (in 2018) and my NUT helped me create a rotating menu of featured proteins so that I didn't get sick of things completely. I still rotate protein sources weekly/ bi weekly. In fact I gave up yogurt for 6+ months because I was tired of it and yogurt was my absolute go to food. I'm just starting to eat it again. *Perhaps* for now go with what sits well and add items back little by little. And of course if your entire appetite is severely reduced for a long period, its time to touch base with your team.

The very first time I felt the full impact of my weight loss was when I began to have A LOT more energy for tasks and activities I had long dropped because of fatigue. Walking long distances became pleasurable again and I encouraged others (mostly my thin & lazy teen kids) to join me. I believe it was around 190lbs (down ~60lbs) Next was when my super attractive Surgical PA said he wasn't worried about me or my progress, I was at the proper weight for my frame and I looked *amazing*. I could tell he really meant it by the way he gushed over my results. That was around 160lbs (down 90lbs) Another time, I was waiting in my surgeon's office about to discuss revision (from VSG to RNY to solve a few complications) and a prospective patient kept staring. Hard. He eventually asked me if i was waiting with/for someone and I told him no just my surgeon. I thought he was trying to *pick me up* but in fact he was confused that I needed to see a surgeon & was a WLS patient because i didn't look like it. (I've heard these types of comments several times) Two final events sealed the deal for me: My Bariatric surgeon and I decided revision to RNY was the best course of action for me but he DID NOT want me to lose anymore weight. He was adamant that I was at the right size and was already small enough at 155lbs & 5'3". (The revision went well and I'm maintaining in the 150s as promised.) Finally, I had Plastic surgery. At the Preop workup, I was discussing my plan with the surgeon. I wanted a Mommy Makeover- breast augmentation, Tummy Tuck and Brazilian Butt Lift. I wanted lipo on my back to transfer fat to my buttocks. He informed me that there wasn't much fat to lipo and it was excess skin that needed to be removed (instead I would need skin removal - a back lift and *maybe* after we could lipo my inner thighs for fat grafting.) He manually lifted the skin to prove it. I was shocked because I thought for certain it was excess fat but apparently I have thicker skin in certain areas. ****************************************** I took the long way round just to say that there were many incremental (progress) points that help me view myself differently/adequately and not just one defining Aha! moment. For sure outside validation played it's role and luckily I became receptive to complements instead of misanthropic because of society's new level of interaction with me (nicer, more welcoming) However, I'm unsure if I would have ever believed anyone's comments if I didn't begin to feel & see the change on my own first. Being kind, loving and accepting myself at every single stage of weight loss, instead of just at goal, really helped me. Good Luck ❤

70-80 lbs loss is AMAZING! Not everyone needs to lose 100+ lbs to appreciate the magnificent life altering effects of improved health and happiness ❤

I love everyone's outfits and I'm back in workout clothes... Not a gym in sight 😅

Hot liquids like broth, tea and coffee help a lot

Where is your sponsor ?!?! Joking Joking Joking 😉

Throw a party when you reach goal to let them celebrate your success with you Or Pay it forward anyway you can ❤

Try to think of it as a brief pause to let your body recover. I wish surgeons would discuss stalling more often. It happens at one point or another for almost everyone. If its so common it MUST be a part of the process. (But I understand no one really wants to hear it when having a stall) Remain diligent and motivated, stalls always break❤

Thank you! Now if I could borrow this shirt I would be all set 😍

Awwwww thanks! Looking good... The smaller tops may have to be junior sized since the clothing industry seems to be on a serious vanity sizing trend 😳

I thought I did too (44 H) but my body lied😳because It all went away. Apparently It was all excess fat, no real breast tissue 😭

BFs dinner Spicy fish masala w/ rice and pumpkin roti (I just had a roti and the salmon masala) I was excited to make a variation of sweet potato roti using pumpkin instead. I eventually will try this with an alternative flour ( maybe coconut ) but for time and sanity sake just used a simple traditional roti I learned growing up.

Sure ❤

The above posters have beautifully provided insight into how amazing WLS is as a tool (so I will not address that idea) However I am interested in your statement about taking the easy way out (presumably versus working harder). There seems to be an obsession in our society with the concept of hard work reaping greater rewards / working harder is better. I cannot help but wonder where that viewpoint originated since most advancements in humanity were based on technological advancements (working smarter) making life easier. Linked is a Medium article i enjoyed that addresses this idea and can be applied to many aspects of life including WLS. https://medium.com/@tomnew/nothing-is-impossible-if-you-work-hard-enough-bullshit-4fdf4d83937d

I'm still amazed that you got to keep them! How was this even possible? I salute you 👏

A lot of people have trouble finding a balance that works for them. Especially when they are tempted constantly, so you're not alone and at least you're aware ❤ ************************************** I personally had to learn (mostly during losing phase) : Not every celebration meant eating I didn't have to eat celebratory foods because it was a celebration Protect my journey from negative influences Eat what I wanted/needed (on plan) vs what's expected I could handle a single indulgence not a days worth People in my life can conform to my food standards too vs always conforming to theirs A stall is a setback but not a failure There's no going backwards ************************************** You got this ❤

Oh you look so fit! Congrats 😍

Yes 😎

Breakfast Date ❤️ Eggs grits turkey sausage biscuits and hash browns (Didn't feel like eating so additional carby vegetarian options went to BF, I just had tea then the grits with an apple slice, savings the rest for lunch)

Thanks ❤

Wearing real clothes today 😬

Thoughtfully created post. Thanks ❤

This is common advice from Dermatologist, your Doctor is giving sound medical recommendations 👏

And us voyeurs 😎