I haven't told anyone on my mother's side of the family (including my mother) with the exception of my sister in law, because she had a bypass 5 yrs ago. My surgery is on Nov 8th and mother has no idea. I don't plan on telling her anything until after I get home from the hospital. Some might say this is cruel, but my mother is the type to make it all about her medically. She has been in and out of the hospital for different things most of my life, and I don't need her "I'm worse off than you" attitude. I just want to get this done in peace and positivity. My husband and his family knows. My mother in law is going to be there because she is a positive influence and will be helpful to my husband. I'm just glad to see I'm not the only one who has been keeping mum about it.. at least partially anyway.