Kat410

Why would you decide something before you have even tried?
This journey is probably more mental than physical.
Do you think I wanted to tell my trainer that I weighed 280 and had just lost 55 lbs as a result of a bariatric surgery??? No, of course I didn't. What I wanted MORE than avoiding my discomfort was the benefit of being fit.
You are not going to get the results you want without confronting what your choices cost you. OK, fine - avoid the discomfort of potentially being judged (which may actually be unlikely). But at what price? You are not getting trained and you are left with it's more important not to deal with the discomfort of people assessing you.

Why would you decide something before you have even tried?
This journey is probably more mental than physical.
Do you think I wanted to tell my trainer that I weighed 280 and had just lost 55 lbs as a result of a bariatric surgery??? No, of course I didn't. What I wanted MORE than avoiding my discomfort was the benefit of being fit.
You are not going to get the results you want without confronting what your choices cost you. OK, fine - avoid the discomfort of potentially being judged (which may actually be unlikely). But at what price? You are not getting trained and you are left with it's more important not to deal with the discomfort of people assessing you.

Thanks for the mansplaining here.

I am clear it is well intentioned. Peoples actions are what communicates, not their intentions.

It could just be different for us girls, given our bodies are regulated, legislated and seemingly up for grabs in even casual social interactions.

Thanks for the mansplaining here.

I am clear it is well intentioned. Peoples actions are what communicates, not their intentions.

It could just be different for us girls, given our bodies are regulated, legislated and seemingly up for grabs in even casual social interactions.

This makes me sorta mad and it’s not even happening to me. I think it’s just embedded in our culture that the female body is there to be managed, controlled, commented on and otherwise handled.

The other day One led the commentators came back to me and asked if it was inappropriate that he said something (as I was walking past him in a busy office he literally said “How much weight have you lost???” No greeting - just that.)

I told him that I recommend that he never comment on someone’s body ever. And if he has a relationship with that person he should ask for permission to ask about it. People lose and gain weight for all sorts of reasons and we can never assume that we know what people are dealing with.

When my aunt was initially diagnosed with pancreatic cancer people started praising her for her weight loss at first - she lived for a year.

Thanks for the mansplaining here.

I am clear it is well intentioned. Peoples actions are what communicates, not their intentions.

It could just be different for us girls, given our bodies are regulated, legislated and seemingly up for grabs in even casual social interactions.

Saw this in a fb post and thought it was hilarious. I've lost a newborn calf. Lol. Happy Monday!

Is it just me - or does anyone get annoyed by the NEVER ENDING STREAM OF COMMENTS about your body???
I work in an environment where I interact with hundreds of people every day, and while the comments are "nice", I am unbelievably sick of people thinking they have the right to comment on my body, how I look, their assumptions about how hard it's been, what this means, how they think I feel, what they think this means to me, what they think I have had to deal with, their opinions about it, etc.
I mean.... it is NON STOP. People literally say things like "You must feel so much better!" (I didn't feel bad before). "This must have been so difficult!" (no, it really wasn't because I was mentally read). "You look so much younger!" (I didn't realize I looked old before). "How much weight have you lost?" (I have lost none of your business pounds).
Am I nuts to get so annoyed about this?

98 Pounds down!
65% of excess body weight gone
Lifting weights, HIT and yoga
More energy, vitality and aliveness!

I was open about my surgery with people I spent a lot of time with - including co-workers.
I was very straight about what would and would not work for me.
My staff members are no longer allowed to bring food into my office for meetings. I am also more sensitive to smells, so that means no coffee (I have a coffee aversion).
I can now handle being around any food, but it was not like that for a period of months. I told people what would work and what didn't work.
You should talk to your friend. There is nothing wrong with being straight and telling people what you need and what is OK or not OK in your own dang house.
In the long run, I think it's more undermining to have resentments and be upset about things and NOT discuss it than it is to be straight and work things out.
You are in the toughest part right now. The second toughest part will be right after surgery. You are doing great. And venting is useful.
YOU GOT THIS

98 Pounds down!
65% of excess body weight gone
Lifting weights, HIT and yoga
More energy, vitality and aliveness!

Is it just me - or does anyone get annoyed by the NEVER ENDING STREAM OF COMMENTS about your body???
I work in an environment where I interact with hundreds of people every day, and while the comments are "nice", I am unbelievably sick of people thinking they have the right to comment on my body, how I look, their assumptions about how hard it's been, what this means, how they think I feel, what they think this means to me, what they think I have had to deal with, their opinions about it, etc.
I mean.... it is NON STOP. People literally say things like "You must feel so much better!" (I didn't feel bad before). "This must have been so difficult!" (no, it really wasn't because I was mentally read). "You look so much younger!" (I didn't realize I looked old before). "How much weight have you lost?" (I have lost none of your business pounds).
Am I nuts to get so annoyed about this?

Thanks for the mansplaining here.

I am clear it is well intentioned. Peoples actions are what communicates, not their intentions.

It could just be different for us girls, given our bodies are regulated, legislated and seemingly up for grabs in even casual social interactions.

Thanks for the mansplaining here.

I am clear it is well intentioned. Peoples actions are what communicates, not their intentions.

It could just be different for us girls, given our bodies are regulated, legislated and seemingly up for grabs in even casual social interactions.

Strivingforbetter.. I looked at her dead faced and told her I lost 50 lbs. I work in veterinary medicine so sometimes the human to human social skills here are lacking. Funny, it's only women who have commented, all the men I work with haven't said a peep.

I am actually excited to have a break in routine these holidays.

In the past I loaded up, felt terrible, got really tired and felt very anti-social. While I am not dealing with liquid or puréed stage, I am excited to not have all those horrible feelings that come with over eating

Seriously if these husbands knew how much sex they are about to have, they would be waaaaaaaay more supportive.. Every woman that I know who had the surgery has been a maniac about sex afterwards..

You’re probably right. Today he said “3 more days” maybe he is starting to realize how I feel. Thanks for your advice.

Sooo, I am not in the gym as I would like to be. Apparently even losing the weight I’ve had, the old injuries like to pop their ugly beads out periodically or if I move the wrong ways. I was thinking of what I can do that wouldn’t wreak havoc on my frail body. Okay, it’s not really that frail, but that’s how I feel currently. I found an app for a squat challenge. I’m on day 6 now and after the first two days, I was thinking to myself “no way is this going to make any difference”—I was doing just 10 squats (day 1) and 15 squats (day 2). Well, by day three, I felt all my quad muscles being pretty sore when I get up and down from sitting. Oh ok...it does work!!! So, yesterday was a rest day (barely moved, lol) and today I had to do 30 squats. Which I did and I felt my heart rate go up. Good!!!! So far so good...if I can’t be doing my weights and cardio the way I’d like to, at least I’m working my butt out (and legs) pretty good. I’ll add in some bicep and tricep workouts that don’t require me to use my shoulder as well.
Oh, I decided to start on beginner level 1 on the 30 DAY SQUAT app. I’m sure I could skip a few levels, but now doing this one, I know I should gradually ease into the advanced in six months or so. There are six levels.

I am actually excited to have a break in routine these holidays.

In the past I loaded up, felt terrible, got really tired and felt very anti-social. While I am not dealing with liquid or puréed stage, I am excited to not have all those horrible feelings that come with over eating

I was open about my surgery with people I spent a lot of time with - including co-workers.
I was very straight about what would and would not work for me.
My staff members are no longer allowed to bring food into my office for meetings. I am also more sensitive to smells, so that means no coffee (I have a coffee aversion).
I can now handle being around any food, but it was not like that for a period of months. I told people what would work and what didn't work.
You should talk to your friend. There is nothing wrong with being straight and telling people what you need and what is OK or not OK in your own dang house.
In the long run, I think it's more undermining to have resentments and be upset about things and NOT discuss it than it is to be straight and work things out.
You are in the toughest part right now. The second toughest part will be right after surgery. You are doing great. And venting is useful.
YOU GOT THIS

I was open about my surgery with people I spent a lot of time with - including co-workers.
I was very straight about what would and would not work for me.
My staff members are no longer allowed to bring food into my office for meetings. I am also more sensitive to smells, so that means no coffee (I have a coffee aversion).
I can now handle being around any food, but it was not like that for a period of months. I told people what would work and what didn't work.
You should talk to your friend. There is nothing wrong with being straight and telling people what you need and what is OK or not OK in your own dang house.
In the long run, I think it's more undermining to have resentments and be upset about things and NOT discuss it than it is to be straight and work things out.
You are in the toughest part right now. The second toughest part will be right after surgery. You are doing great. And venting is useful.
YOU GOT THIS

Is it just me - or does anyone get annoyed by the NEVER ENDING STREAM OF COMMENTS about your body???
I work in an environment where I interact with hundreds of people every day, and while the comments are "nice", I am unbelievably sick of people thinking they have the right to comment on my body, how I look, their assumptions about how hard it's been, what this means, how they think I feel, what they think this means to me, what they think I have had to deal with, their opinions about it, etc.
I mean.... it is NON STOP. People literally say things like "You must feel so much better!" (I didn't feel bad before). "This must have been so difficult!" (no, it really wasn't because I was mentally read). "You look so much younger!" (I didn't realize I looked old before). "How much weight have you lost?" (I have lost none of your business pounds).
Am I nuts to get so annoyed about this?

This makes me sorta mad and it’s not even happening to me. I think it’s just embedded in our culture that the female body is there to be managed, controlled, commented on and otherwise handled.

The other day One led the commentators came back to me and asked if it was inappropriate that he said something (as I was walking past him in a busy office he literally said “How much weight have you lost???” No greeting - just that.)

I told him that I recommend that he never comment on someone’s body ever. And if he has a relationship with that person he should ask for permission to ask about it. People lose and gain weight for all sorts of reasons and we can never assume that we know what people are dealing with.

When my aunt was initially diagnosed with pancreatic cancer people started praising her for her weight loss at first - she lived for a year.

Is it just me - or does anyone get annoyed by the NEVER ENDING STREAM OF COMMENTS about your body???
I work in an environment where I interact with hundreds of people every day, and while the comments are "nice", I am unbelievably sick of people thinking they have the right to comment on my body, how I look, their assumptions about how hard it's been, what this means, how they think I feel, what they think this means to me, what they think I have had to deal with, their opinions about it, etc.
I mean.... it is NON STOP. People literally say things like "You must feel so much better!" (I didn't feel bad before). "This must have been so difficult!" (no, it really wasn't because I was mentally read). "You look so much younger!" (I didn't realize I looked old before). "How much weight have you lost?" (I have lost none of your business pounds).
Am I nuts to get so annoyed about this?