I couldn't imagine what you are going through right now. I want you to know that you were amazing before and you are amazing now. The only thing different is your look and how you feel never forget that.
I strive to keep it under 75 grams of carbs, with the majority coming from fruit, vegetables, and grains. I want to lose 15 more pounds, and my body is being stubborn about it, so I am going to try to cut back to around 40. I haven't been to the gym yet at all this year due to being on vacation, and then sick for over a week. I'm hoping that getting back into gear with that in tandem with lowering my carbs will help me to reach my final goal.
I completely agree! That is awesome that you were able to stay on track and still be satisfied. I had 2 small bites of cake and I was good. A lot of people from my support group I go to say as long as you only have a bite or two it's okay. This whole journey I feel like is making a new relationship with food. [emoji847]
Good for you! I am in the soft food stage and went to a work lunch last week. I ordered fish, as it seemed to be the "softest" Protein there. It was ok, I guess. The big test for me came with Desserts - which have always been my downfall; I shared dessert with two colleagues and it was the first time I'd had sugar since prior to the pre-op diet. I had three spoonfuls and really enjoyed what I had, but figured if I ate more, I'd start to feel sick and/or regret it. I was SO proud of myself for not turning into a sugar-seeking monster (which I had feared) and that I could have a small quantity but still really enjoy it. It's so lovely to have these kind of "victories" over food like this.
Good for you! I am in the soft food stage and went to a work lunch last week. I ordered fish, as it seemed to be the "softest" Protein there. It was ok, I guess. The big test for me came with Desserts - which have always been my downfall; I shared dessert with two colleagues and it was the first time I'd had sugar since prior to the pre-op diet. I had three spoonfuls and really enjoyed what I had, but figured if I ate more, I'd start to feel sick and/or regret it. I was SO proud of myself for not turning into a sugar-seeking monster (which I had feared) and that I could have a small quantity but still really enjoy it. It's so lovely to have these kind of "victories" over food like this.
Sorry this is long....
The first thing I MUST address is the way in which some people talk to on another on WLS forums. Often, I will stumble upon a post because I Google a question looking for an answer in the moment rather than asking something that may have already been asked and waiting. I've noticed a lot of people being extremely critical of the questioner...
Here is an example (in a weak moment -MOMENT being the keyword - I might add... I'm on the liquid diet), I found someone asking if in the pure liquid post-surgery diet stage if they could have sugar free soft-serve ice cream. The first response was from someone who decided that rather than answer the question, they would provide an impromptu lecture on slider foods and how they should be dealing with food post-surgery. While I recognize posting on the internet opens you up to opportunities of criticism, I would hope that most people on weight-loss-surgery forums would have enough common sense to understand that most people on here are adults capable of choosing what they want to do. She didn't ask if she SHOULD eat the ice cream, she asked if she COULD eat it. I'm not saying the concern about slider foods wasn't without merit, but it wasn't warranted in this situation. Turns out, the poster just wanted to see if she could indulge in a lick or two in a social setting (a birthday party or something). She wasn't planning to enter a soft-serve eating contest. And even if she was... SO WHAT?! How does that impact the responder in any way? Why waste the time responding? The question wasn't, "What's an exmaple of a slider food and what are the dangers of a slider food?" UGH!
This leads me to another thing I'm really, really, really frustrated with. NOT EVERYONE HAS MENTAL ISSUES WITH FOOD THAT IS OVERWEIGHT OR UNDERWEIGHT OR IS INCAPABLE OF CHANGE OR INCAPABLE OF LEARNING WAYS TO COPE WITH FOOD ADDICTION. I am not saying it will be EASY, but it doesn't mean someone can't overcome their addiction. I know people from all ends of the spectrum who have accidentally overeaten at a holiday or party or have made a bad choice (food related or not) and I know many people who OBSESS over the food they put into their bodies and have done some serious emotional and physical damage by being TOO restrictive. Here's the point I am trying to make...
WHAT WORKS FOR YOU MAY NOT WORK FOR ANOTHER PERSON. And perhaps this is my unsound opinion, but having HAD WLS does not make you an EXPERT on WLS no matter how long ago you've gone; until you've gone to school and extensively studied psychology, gotten your doctorate, etc. etc. etc., no one wants to hear it unless they specifically ask you hey what SHOULD I do! SHOULD BEING THE KEY WORD!
Yes, some people may find it best avoid slider foods at all costs for the rest of their lives. However, other people will be able to indulge in a few bites of ice cream, or whatever and it doesn't undo all of their hard work or everything they've accomplished.
I have to say that I'm so disappointed when looking for answers to certain WLS-related questions to see so many people 1 - not answering the question directly, 2 - providing emotional/psychological advice, 3 - just not showing a little more compassion to people regardless of where they are in their journey, 4 - assuming you know anything about the person based on a question they've asked. And hey maybe you can tell they're making a huge mistake, but they may have worded the question incorrectly, they may be having a difficult time with something else in their life and they're searching for empathy from someone else who may have gone through something similar... the point is, a simple question doesn't provide you all the facts so stop assuming things about people because they've had weight loss surgery or are contemplating it!!!
On a related note, I'm so disappointed in the frequency in which I read people who start off by replying, "I'm sorry, but..." YOU ARE NOT SORRY! You are about to say something hurtful. If you have to say BUT after sorry, you're just not and you should delete your sentence and go read a book. Unless you're saying, "I'm sorry, but you're totally awesome and I love that you're realizing you're perfectly capable of realizing this is an internet forum and not a conversation with your doctor..." but rarely does it go that way.
FINALLY, I am so tired of reading things that are presented as black and white. I bet there are a bunch of people who disagree with what I have said... okay, fine, but does that mean I'm wrong? DISAGREEING WITH SOMEONE DOES NOT MAKE THEM WRONG AND IT DOESN'T MAKE YOU RIGHT. SOMETIMES YOU CAN BOTH BE RIGHT, WRONG, OR IN BETWEEN!
50 Shades of Grey? TRY A BILLION! AHHHH!
PS - I really need the pureed food stage to arrive... and fast.
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