I'm a nurse and some of my coworkers are just SO negative because of the few people they worked with that had bad outcomes, and one is like obsessed with reminding me how /terrible/ she thinks her friend who had it looks because she's "lost too much weight and it made her look old" like lady my appearance is not my only concern WHY ARE YOU LIKE THIS??!? Sigh.
So sorry about your mom! My dad had a heart attack and died in 2012 and I know I'll be headed down the same path if I don't do this, which is what ultimately led me to choosing the sleeve. Re: bad outcome, in particular, we have another coworker who had either the sleeve or RNY, I'm not sure which, but she tends to go long enough without eating that her blood sugar gets dangerously low and she's had seizures at work because of it. I don't mean to sound insensitive, but based on her personality it seems more to me like a self care issue that's compounded by the surgery. Though admittedly, we're understaffed and breaks often aren't a thing, but we all know that and should plan I guess? (Actually work shouldn't be that awful but it is. But I have to and will make sure that I make 30 seconds to stop and take a drink, take a minute to pee, and a couple minutes to eat a spoonful of Peanut Butter or something between patients or while charting. If I'm there late charting, then so be it.)