NancyNYC

Hello @Dtrain84!
I just had sleeve surgery 6 weeks ago and about 5 people know. I don't feel like its anyone's business! I have been using the same logic as @ansoninc At first I didn't want to tell anyone in case I failed, but 40lbs later, this is working! The only complaint I have had is extreme nausea.......................... its been a rough 6 weeks. But YOU DO WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE. Discussing my weight has always embarrassed me, so that's another reason I haven't told too many people. Only you know what you are comfortable sharing with the world. Best of luck to you! This forum is amazing! Glad you found us!
XOXOX
Nancy

Yes @reverseforward and @Smores !!! Exactly why I didn't tell anyone! Quite honestly I don't know HOW anyone gains the weight back - I am almost 6 weeks out and can barely look or eat food still without feeling nauseous. On the flip side because its been 6 weeks of hell, I wish I had told someone that could have talked me out of it because I am so miserable from the nausea I would take back the 40 I lost plus 40 more. But I do get what you're saying. People try and help, but I don't think they always have the best intentions.......................

Hi @VooLivre2017
I totally understand where you are coming from! That's my reasoning too! So many judgmental people and I don't want to hurt from their comments and I don't want to have to explain myself to everyone. This is HARD. Hardest thing I've been through in my 43 years and I don't want anyone telling me I took the easy way out....but I will say the support I have received from those that know has been wonderful. This is such a personal decision- different for everyone. ❤️

Hello @Dtrain84!
I just had sleeve surgery 6 weeks ago and about 5 people know. I don't feel like its anyone's business! I have been using the same logic as @ansoninc At first I didn't want to tell anyone in case I failed, but 40lbs later, this is working! The only complaint I have had is extreme nausea.......................... its been a rough 6 weeks. But YOU DO WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE. Discussing my weight has always embarrassed me, so that's another reason I haven't told too many people. Only you know what you are comfortable sharing with the world. Best of luck to you! This forum is amazing! Glad you found us!
XOXOX
Nancy

Hi Kristenmh!!!
I know EXACTLY what you are going through!!! Quick story- this past Sunday I literally said to my husband, "if I don't feel normal again in like 3 months I am going to kill my self." This is SO hard. And I've been also sooo depressed. Everyone says it gets better and it is. Little by little. Right now food isn't really my friend so I'm just eating what I can, mashed potatoes and tuna. Eggs- Can't keep them down for some reason so I'm loading up on Protein via shakes. The past few days I feel good! Nausea is more manageable!
Funny! I'm obsessed with cooking videos on IG. I think we just miss food. But I'm finally believing it gets better. And when youre having a bad day know I'm here. And email me whenever you want!! We are all in this together!
Dont give up!
XO
Nancy

Big sign you are not getting sufficient fluids.

I'm a little over a year and a half out and burping and stomach gurgles have become my new normal!

Hello!
I am hoping that someone can provide some advice or encouragement for me! I am 2 weeks post - op and feeling depressed and hungry - but just thinking about food makes me sick! And, to top it all off, I have not lost any weight since last Friday! Will I ever feel normal again? Does all this go away?! I want to eat food again and not feel like I am going to die!
Please help.
Nancy

Yes @reverseforward and @Smores !!! Exactly why I didn't tell anyone! Quite honestly I don't know HOW anyone gains the weight back - I am almost 6 weeks out and can barely look or eat food still without feeling nauseous. On the flip side because its been 6 weeks of hell, I wish I had told someone that could have talked me out of it because I am so miserable from the nausea I would take back the 40 I lost plus 40 more. But I do get what you're saying. People try and help, but I don't think they always have the best intentions.......................

Hi @VooLivre2017
I totally understand where you are coming from! That's my reasoning too! So many judgmental people and I don't want to hurt from their comments and I don't want to have to explain myself to everyone. This is HARD. Hardest thing I've been through in my 43 years and I don't want anyone telling me I took the easy way out....but I will say the support I have received from those that know has been wonderful. This is such a personal decision- different for everyone. ❤️

Hi Kristenmh!!!
I know EXACTLY what you are going through!!! Quick story- this past Sunday I literally said to my husband, "if I don't feel normal again in like 3 months I am going to kill my self." This is SO hard. And I've been also sooo depressed. Everyone says it gets better and it is. Little by little. Right now food isn't really my friend so I'm just eating what I can, mashed potatoes and tuna. Eggs- Can't keep them down for some reason so I'm loading up on Protein via shakes. The past few days I feel good! Nausea is more manageable!
Funny! I'm obsessed with cooking videos on IG. I think we just miss food. But I'm finally believing it gets better. And when youre having a bad day know I'm here. And email me whenever you want!! We are all in this together!
Dont give up!
XO
Nancy

Hi @VooLivre2017
I totally understand where you are coming from! That's my reasoning too! So many judgmental people and I don't want to hurt from their comments and I don't want to have to explain myself to everyone. This is HARD. Hardest thing I've been through in my 43 years and I don't want anyone telling me I took the easy way out....but I will say the support I have received from those that know has been wonderful. This is such a personal decision- different for everyone. ❤️

I agree revesefoward. Some people say things like " I know someone that got real sick from that surgery or It only lasts for a short time then you gain it all back". Also, My BMI is 35.6 but I have four health issues that go along with being obese. My sister-in-laws are saying that I'm not fat enough to have the surgery. According to the guild lines I DO qualify. I'm not going to tell too many people. I've already learned my lesson.

I only told people (close friends) who I knew wouldn't judge me. A lot more care about me than I originally thought, and since they've seen me take on other recent calculated risks to improve my life and be happy....they get it...and are happy for me. No one else needs to know. People at work make comments about how much I have lost weight and I say, "thank you" or "It's a life long journey and I'm not giving up! I hate working out but I'm gonna keep going with that too."

I would like to thank everybody who has commented. The only support I need is my beautiful wife. She has been through everything with me. In October of 2015, I suffered sudden cardiac arrest at work and was clinically dead for over 5 minutes. I am truly blessed to be here talking to you all right now. I spent almost 30 days in ICU and my wife never left my side. Because my of my medical history, I chose weight loss surgery because I had been obese for over half my life and had failed many times dieting and exercise. I chose to keep surgery a secret with the support of my wife. I'm glad I found this site. I will be looking forward to following you all I wish nothing but the best for you all in your journey for a healthier thinner lifestyle.

I have told my husband, 2 close friends, pastor and an acquaintance who reminded why it's important to keep it too yourself. The first words out of her mouth were "when did this happen ? The next words were shocking"you know it's not permanent". I stumbled over my words while trying to think how surgery could not be permanent. She went on to explain how there was a woman attending her gym who was exercising to get rid of some weight she had gained after having had WLS. I picked my lip up off the floor and gave her an ear full . "Surgery is not a solve all and anyone who thinks that it is-is mistaken. You still have to do the work and for me surgery was a tool to get me to my goal". She didn't say another word. I can't be sure others haven't told anyone else. I had surgery 2-6-17 and at this stage I have too much to deal with than being open to comment that involves pride and ignorance. So not saying anything else at this time.

I have told my kids, mother, sister, hra and two co-workers. That was all that I felt necessary to tell that way of it gets out a work I know who to get. Also, I don't want to jinx it that why I told a little bit of people.

Hello!
I am hoping that someone can provide some advice or encouragement for me! I am 2 weeks post - op and feeling depressed and hungry - but just thinking about food makes me sick! And, to top it all off, I have not lost any weight since last Friday! Will I ever feel normal again? Does all this go away?! I want to eat food again and not feel like I am going to die!
Please help.
Nancy

Thank you everyone who responded! I'm feeling much better and the scale has moved a little! Back to work and back into a routine has been good. Still feeling nauseous when I try and eat but shakes and liquids are doing the trick for now! This is definitely much harder than I ever antipciaped. Thank you for all of the support! It means so much to me!
xoxoxoxo
Nancy

Hello @Dtrain84!
I just had sleeve surgery 6 weeks ago and about 5 people know. I don't feel like its anyone's business! I have been using the same logic as @ansoninc At first I didn't want to tell anyone in case I failed, but 40lbs later, this is working! The only complaint I have had is extreme nausea.......................... its been a rough 6 weeks. But YOU DO WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE. Discussing my weight has always embarrassed me, so that's another reason I haven't told too many people. Only you know what you are comfortable sharing with the world. Best of luck to you! This forum is amazing! Glad you found us!
XOXOX
Nancy

Thanks, @NancyNYC! BTW, Dr. Fielding did my lap-band surgery years ago! I ended up having to revise to a VSG, but not b/c Dr. Fielding wasn't an amazing surgeon.

Thank you everyone who responded! I'm feeling much better and the scale has moved a little! Back to work and back into a routine has been good. Still feeling nauseous when I try and eat but shakes and liquids are doing the trick for now! This is definitely much harder than I ever antipciaped. Thank you for all of the support! It means so much to me!
xoxoxoxo
Nancy

Hello!
I am hoping that someone can provide some advice or encouragement for me! I am 2 weeks post - op and feeling depressed and hungry - but just thinking about food makes me sick! And, to top it all off, I have not lost any weight since last Friday! Will I ever feel normal again? Does all this go away?! I want to eat food again and not feel like I am going to die!
Please help.
Nancy

Hi Kristenmh!!!
I know EXACTLY what you are going through!!! Quick story- this past Sunday I literally said to my husband, "if I don't feel normal again in like 3 months I am going to kill my self." This is SO hard. And I've been also sooo depressed. Everyone says it gets better and it is. Little by little. Right now food isn't really my friend so I'm just eating what I can, mashed potatoes and tuna. Eggs- Can't keep them down for some reason so I'm loading up on Protein via shakes. The past few days I feel good! Nausea is more manageable!
Funny! I'm obsessed with cooking videos on IG. I think we just miss food. But I'm finally believing it gets better. And when youre having a bad day know I'm here. And email me whenever you want!! We are all in this together!
Dont give up!
XO
Nancy

I am 8 days post-op and got hit with a giant wave of depression this morning. I had a great first week (lost 8.7lbs) and this week I've lost .2lbs. I am worried I am getting too many calories since I can drink 64oz of Water and get in all my Protein for the day.
Hunger isn't really a thing, but I find myself browsing recipes kind of obsessively on Pinterest. Thank you for posting, @NancyNYC -- I am sorry you are struggling but it helps me to know that I am not the only one.