Sosewsue61

Yes, I really only paid the deposit for surgery of 1,000, doctor co-pay, and the psych exam and nutritionist which was around $400. It depends on the exact policy, and what your out of pocket max is, etc. But the whole bill was around 50,000 which is ridiculous. Hoops were 6 months of NUT appointments, psych exam, and no gaining.

It's okay, your body is recovering and you are hungry. You will feel actual hunger right now. As far as head hunger, you will need to meet that monster face-to-face and do battle, journaling might help. I concur with the sf popsicles and bone broth, alternate as it will help with swelling. The salty bone broth helps with dehydration,get in as much as you can. Sip sip sip constantly, dehydration can get serious rather quickly. As the swelling in the esophagus goes down you will be able to take bigger sips. I can't relate to the remorse much, but being in pain tends to make everything seem so much harder. Is it an internal pain in one area, constant, more while laying down, or upright? It helps to define it. I had nerve pain where they went in on the right side for a few weeks. If it's too hard too define or constant call your surgeon. Good luck, it gets better.

Congrats! Exciting! Will be waiting to see your results.

I'm not going to suggest a craft, exercise, or activity, if you have hobbies or exercise clothes or equipment - you already know things you could just do..... Stop. First you need to get to the why. Sit with the feeling, examine what body sensations or thoughts you are having, or had just BEFORE this urge to run to food popped up. You don't want food, you need something. You might be tired. You might need a hug or to talk to the person you are mad at, you might need to go pay a bill, quit your job, cry, or stop procrastinating in making a decision, or putting off an unpleasant task. You might be being too hard on yourself. Figure that out. THEN find the activity that will best address the CAUSE. Bored - the hobbies. Tired - either a nap, or short walk. Lonely - call a friend, get out of the house. Anger - vigorous exercise, then solving it. Hating on yourself - a bath, a spa treatment, etc. Try on some cute outfits. Anxiety - yoga or massage. And I can't advocate enough about therapy....

Cook with fat- coconut oil, avocado oil. Try adding fatter meat choices, starchy vegetables like parsnips, winter squash, potatoes, etc. Can you tolerate nuts - cashews will help with constipation and are high in fat. Full fat mayo. I agree that your NUT is not listening. I also agree to get her advice in an email, just email her and ask for clarification because she told you so much and you can't recall all of her recommendations regarding the dairy since you are lactose intolerant and need to know how to end the weight loss phase Then reiterate this to the office manger. Also do not be too concerned about going below goal because there can be a 10-15 pound bounce especially in year three.

You should be proud of your progress. Stress like last year's lockdown can cause many to resort to stress eating. Go back to basics, throw out all temptations, go to therapy if you can. Journaling your stress can sometimes help find what triggers you. Once you get back to basics, cravings will go away again. Then look into intermittent fasting. Look for Dr. Jason Fung's books or youtube videos.

I can only eat two bites, and sits there like it wants to come back up, so it's not worth the trouble. Rice was worse because it swells even more in your gut and was painful, so no on that too. Also it was a year out before I even tried those things. I also could not tolerate steak until 9 months, nor chicken breast. I ate thighs, ground beef, pork steak, egg.

I did, but mine ended up being too low, so my doc gave me prescription to take once a week for 12 weeks. It brought it up a lot, but doing another round because it's not quite there yet.

Wahoo! Amazing. Look that tiny waist.

I only kept one pair of jeans from each size to stack on each other to take a picture. Otherwise - the fat clothes went.... good riddance. And I cut up the Lane Bryant card, too!

Yay! You look fabulous!

I still really can't tolerate rice, maybe one spoon - but just not worth it. Also pasta - sits like a lump and uncomfortable, plus it's boring now. Toasted bread is okay, but not frequently. And only chocolate in small amounts like - choc chips in a cookie. What happened with the chocolate was early on I had sf chocolate pudding - OMG! I was so nauseous and sick that now the thought of that - no.

You look awesome, I love a bare shoulder look..

Happy Surgery Day!

I am glad you are taking steps to help yourself. I am sorry for your loss, and I know how much your heart aches for your daughter, she should go to counseling as well. If you need to vent on here please do that. If you need to cry I suggest the shower, or your car. You do need to grieve, that is very important to do that. I am sending a big virtual hug. I could write a novel here on my own experience, both with a full term neonatal death and a granddaughter that died of SIDS at 18 months. If you want to message me please do.

My temptations come when other people are eating, particularly my husband's evening eating during movie time - so beware if you are going out with a group. I craft all the time - sewing, crochet, beading. I do love shopping for clothes now or even just trying stuff on is really fun. I also dance - folk dancing. You might look up a community dance program when you are up for activity, Google Contra dancing - they are very open to newcomers. Take up golfing or tennis or join a community baseball team.

I can only tolerate about 2 tablespoons of rice even now, but it could be a combo of the two items. Drink lots of extra water.

Early out there is still a lot of inflammation and you might have to take food stages a bit slower. Also you fill a little faster than with liquid and it could be a bite too much food causing the burning, or it could be acid reflux. Just take it very very slowly. Keep a chart to see if it is a particular food combo or time of day. And if burning persists get the doc to prescribe a PPI.

It really isn't a big issue, only in the beginning when you can't eat solid foods. People might notice, but no one is that interested in other people eating. When going out, I either just get an appetizer, or an entire meal and eat what I can and take the rest to go. Early out - soup is a good choice as it takes awhile to eat. Entertaining - I still cook the same Thanksgiving dinner (with 8 pies), I plan what I really really want the most - eh not mashed potatoes - turkey and stuffing, maybe roasted Brussels sprouts. I eat sliver of pie 4 hours later. When going away from home, I always take food with me in my car, because you never know about delays or such - cheese, nuts, water, etc. I have always carried water with me anyway. I have went on many many vacations, a cruise, hiking, square dance conventions, quilt shows - you name it and not an issue. Early out I had food intolerances - chicken breast was too stringy no matter how it was cooked, salad slimed until 9 months out, and rich chocolate anything I still can't eat but one bite, beef can still be a little harsh. Fast food is iffy regardless but I get grilled chicken salad if there are no other places to get food.

@Seimmaj You can't come on here and ask for help and not expect the forum members to give their help and opinions. There are some very experienced and successful people on here, and the really successful ones are not going to sugar coat it. You want to defend your nutritionists approval of a full sugar drink and yet complain when posters point out that obvious issue. Change is hard, but humans generally run from it. Also deep introspection that elicits lasting change usually takes a huge painful event, and not subtle gentle hints. A friend died, boom and he was only a couple years different in age from me - he and his wife - wonderful people, but both obese. I did not want to be that person, at the least I would die having tried to really change. You are early in the journey, and we all get impatient, there will be stalls, frustrations, maybe even a set back - but just keep going.

https://www.theladders.com/career-advice/this-harvard-study-might-put-the-end-to-the-carbohydrates-war So 225 grams of carbs translates to 900 calories, if that is 45% of daily diet, that means 2000 calories..... some people might be able to maintain weight loss on 2000 calories, but the majority of wls patients would be in trouble with 225 grams of carbs (5 fruits a day). I wonder how many MO or Obese people were in this study - betting zero...

@TheresAGround please update your profile. Give an example of what you eat in a day - protein, carbs, etc. And intermittent fasting might be valuable to get the scale moving, it's slower but moving.

Some family members of their own accord actually ditched me, one was tough to take, but the two after that were a smaller blip and I have moved past it all of it. I don't know that you have to actually announce anything, or take steps to sever ties. I still attend some family functions, and am polite. I tried reaching out and since it is never reciprocated I have just stopped contact altogether in any one-on-one manner. It is just a non event. Changing your will is certainly in your control. Make new relationships, go on some single cruises, or events pertaining to your new or favorite interests, fill your life up.

Oh please stow it, since when is snowflake exclusively a political description, you assume too much.