LadySin

55 minutes ago, James Marusek said:

That is because I am an out of box thinker. It is one of my skills.

So I consider how many websites have been hacked and personal data stolen by other entities in the past few years. Personal information on hundreds of millions of people and that is the ones we hear about. Many times these hackers are sponsored by foreign countries or criminal elements. And the data is then suddenly used for criminal activities. [These are systems that the IT scientist have come up with counter measures for such a scenario and failed.]

Next consider that the organizations storing this information probably do not even consider the DNA information to be extremely high on the privacy act material. So in general, this material is very vulnerable to attack and exploitation. Remember this business [Ancestry DNA] is a money making business. In a way it is like a hobby business dedicated to matching ancestry information. So protecting privacy is not their highest priority. And it appears that they are also in the business of selling this information.

Next consider how quickly the ability of man to replicate or modify genes has grown in the past few years.

DNA analysis has been used for several years in identifying criminals and putting them behind bars. It is almost like a gold standard.

So I see this as a vulnerability. And I like this gold standard and prefer not to see it tarnished by becoming vulnerable to abuse.

Again all great points. You are indeed in out the box thinker. I would a imagine those ALL those scientists are too is the point Im trying to make. They know this stuff. YOU know this stuff. A quick google search and ANYONE can learn this stuff. I'd rather believe my grandkids. who will be leading the research on human DNA resequencing, will be living in a society where such blockbuster events couldn't be kept in the shadows.

DNA analysis has indeed been used to people behind bars. Lots of guilty and innocent people have been put to death because of the "Gold Standard" DNA Analysis. You can do a good search and find plenty of verifiable stories of DNA analysis failure. That's why no prosecutor goes in with just DNA evidence alone. It Ain't perfect. Nothing is. I'm OK with that. Lets not hinder progress with fear mongering. I plan on one of my oh so many great kids being the President of The United Planets of Sol. Don't ruin my dreams!

*Just want to add the Government already has all our DNA anyway, and our parents gave the permission.. They collect it in the form of blood tests we receive as babies to check for a crap ton of disorders*

... But let us enter the world of science fiction...

Friendships are kind of like a joint bank account where if its healthy, both people make deposits and both make withdrawals. If she has made a lot of friendship deposits in the past (being supportive, listening to you, helping you out, giving in your time of need etc.) then it just might be her time to make a few withdrawals now (your time to support her, even if it feels a bit one way).
But, if you're always making deposits and she is always making withdrawals, it's not a friendship, it's codependency or she might be a user. Only you can honestly know which.

But if it's creating feelings of resentment in you, it might be worth examining whether this friendship can really be kept alive or not. Sometimes relationships come to an end and its time to move on, as difficult as it may seem.

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Ignoring warnings from the CDC or even their whistle-blowers is exactly how you get a zombie apocalypse. Dont be the one to unleash doomsday upon us all!

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17 hours ago, FluffyChix said:

...we're going to have to beat you. Bend over...;)...

Some people punish an eye for an eye, this time it's going to be bun for a bun! (As mild a joke I could manage. I deleted several in my head. Ya'll go get me banned!)

My proudest moment in 2018 was finally seeking mental help. Everyday is a struggle, some days more than others and recovery doesn't move in a straight line. BUT I feel healthier both physically and mentally better than I ever have. I never would have been able to achieve the weight loss on my own that I have so far if I had not reached out for professional help. In fact I'd be compost (Future goals, get cremated and thrown in a garden). Instead I've got decades more SINNING to get down too! My Pride or More time. I made a pretty OK choice

Oh I am a bundle of nerves. Normally nothing comes between me and sleep but I've been up once 3:30 am. I'm going for my preop testing tonight. I have an appt with surgeon monday afternoon. The 14th I start Clear Liquids. I've been doing 2 Protein Shakes a day with a small lunch to prep me. According to dr and insurance, I'm only scheduled for 1 night in the hospital.

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How about sitting down and talking to him about this rather than a bunch of strangers? I’d tell him why you want to have the surgery and why it is important to you. Then I would hear his concerns and see if they are really as superficial as they may outwardly appear or if there is something else.

Don’t listen to the people here that instantly tell everyone to leave their spouse the minute they are unsupportive. You have been with him for 21 years. I think before I threw a relationship like that away I’d sit down and try to work it out first.

I’d make sure he knew how he makes you feel when he says unsupportive things and that you’d appreciate support on your journey. Give him a chance to do better and if he has legitimate concerns like complications from surgery then take him to your consults and let him talk to the surgeon and even post a thread on here where he can ask questions using your account. We’d be happy to answer anything he has.

But don’t listen to a bunch of people that have nothing invested in your relationship and immediately say leave him. That is ridiculous and they have no skin in the game.

Try to work it out. Like adults.

As someone who nearly lost the of their life do to lack of communication and taking bad advice from outside people miserable in their own love lives, talk to YOUR man. TALK to HIM. If need be seek professional help. Youre paying someone to operate on your body. Pay someone to operate on your marriage. Don't trow it all away until there truly is no hope. You what you need to do Sis. You've got this!

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How about sitting down and talking to him about this rather than a bunch of strangers? I’d tell him why you want to have the surgery and why it is important to you. Then I would hear his concerns and see if they are really as superficial as they may outwardly appear or if there is something else.

Don’t listen to the people here that instantly tell everyone to leave their spouse the minute they are unsupportive. You have been with him for 21 years. I think before I threw a relationship like that away I’d sit down and try to work it out first.

I’d make sure he knew how he makes you feel when he says unsupportive things and that you’d appreciate support on your journey. Give him a chance to do better and if he has legitimate concerns like complications from surgery then take him to your consults and let him talk to the surgeon and even post a thread on here where he can ask questions using your account. We’d be happy to answer anything he has.

But don’t listen to a bunch of people that have nothing invested in your relationship and immediately say leave him. That is ridiculous and they have no skin in the game.

Try to work it out. Like adults.

And the pallbearer won't have to be from Mr Olympia competitions, I can have the Regular-grade ones! Might sit up in my casket and cheer! Oops better not, they MIGHT drop me!

I have noticed the many people that get the sleeve eventually end up having the bypass at a later time.

10 hours ago, ElectricBoogaloo said:

I love that bustier!! The good news/bad news it that soon it will be way too big!! You will have to buy another one!😊

I hope so because as of right now if that thing was a thong it would be all up in my ass!

*2019 Goals*

This year I'm reaching my goal weight of between 140 and 160. As the Dothraki say "This is known". By the end of year I'll be gaining weight in the form of muscle. This too is known.

18 minutes ago, Healthy_life said:

#22 Music that gets me moving

Music helps me live. Thanks for this!

Starting weight is 249.9. My January goals are to make it to the 230's before my surgery on the 15th of this month, and have a successful surgery! Tonight I go in for pre surgery instructions and what not. I still don't know the exact time of my surgery. I was told that the hospital would call the night before. Whhhhy? Why must they torture me so? Don't they know I'm a planner!?

Before

Can't wait Not waiting for the new me! She's here now!

1 hour ago, GreenTealael said:

Lasts night was lit... but time to come back to reality.

I'd say! Looking forward to starting this challenge. My goal is to lose 15lbs in these 14 days before surgery. Completely doable at my size. I feel I'll be cheating a bit since I am having surgery on the 15th, but I'm not sitting this one out!

18 minutes ago, Frustr8 said:

And I had so many Southern aunts and uncles marry in that I am an Official Buckeye Red neck . Family just shakes their heads with me, my greens and Hot Sauce, Need to cook me some more, like Mama's Milk maybe they would stay down!

Girrrrl I had some greens and hot sauce Monday night for dinner and let me tell you! I ain't even miss the ham.

1 hour ago, FluffyChix said:

Hahaha! I'm gonna go out on a limb and ask if you're from the South?

Dangit the curse has followed me here as well! My dad is from Louisiana and my mom is South Carolina. Here I am, born, bred, raised in Michigan, yet as soon as I open I mouth people are like "what part of Texas are you from?" 😒

OMG all the jokes in school! I was cowgirl this, or Texas toast that. Where on this side of the Mason-Dixon is this mystery accent this people claim I have!?

A long time ago when I was a bright eyed and bushy tailed Sin, I was working in a retirement home. This one dude I was taking care of was blind and deaf so he had this device that we would speak into and it would amplify our voice to his headphones. Well that thing sucked ass because we'd have to yell into that thing so damn hard! Whenever I'd take care of him he's say "Oh you're that county gal" Or my favorite "Oh is everything bigger in Texas, or are you just happy to see me?" I'm stuck wondering WTF are you talking about old man? Are you sure you're telling this joke right?Instead I'd just fake laugh. Oh the things we'll tolerate for pay.

So long story short; no. No I ain't from the south sweetheart. 😂

Let me also say thank you for giving a few days heads up on this. Most of the time it's like damn, give me some time to hide the rice!

I'm definitely in it to win it! I came late to the other challenges so I'd love to be here from the start!

1. Challenge Starting weight: 256.9
2. Current weight lost: Unknown. Will weight tomorrow!
3. Losing or maintaining weight: losing
4. Fitness/exercise goal: I bought this awesome desk elliptical thingy called Cubii jr. I love it! I use it at my desk all day. I'm gonna have legs like Tina Turner! I also do upper body weight training with resistance bands.
5. Total weight loss at the end of challenge: (Post January 1st 2019)
6. Check in: Tell us how you are doing - (How is your diet and exercise plan going? Any struggles? Stress level? What have you overcome? Any strategies that have helped) Alright dog, what had happend was....CHRISTMAS! You want to know what I did for two days straight? No i didn't eat sweets. Didn't take a sip of egg nog. Didn't even lick pie off my wife's fingers. (A decision I regret deeply) No, none of that stuff! What I did do however, was eat more rice then I have possibly eaten in my life. Not not Black rice, not even brown. In fact the only color evolved with said rice was the guy on the box. No ladies in gents, the culprit was plain, Old. White. Rice. With copious amounts of garlic and onions. I mean whyyy Sin? Whhyyy! Now I'm stuck feeling as bloated as the national debt, and have gotten to know my toilet bowl very well. I'm even on first name bases with the one here a work, Man f**k rice!

1 minute ago, Sigi42 said:

English Teacher thoughts: I feel like "Bye, Felicia" **in usage** is gender neutral, like, "Girl, please!"

Or maybe I just like annoying the men in my life, calling them "Felicia" and "Girl".... honestly, it's a crapshoot. #teamgenderneutral #professionalopinion

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OK I'm I clearly need to look for a new brand of tin for my foil hat because you're all up in my brain girl!

(Hey I've just invented a creepy new pick up line!)

My date is on the 15th as well! Lets keep in touch!

1 hour ago, Healthy_life said:

I was Low carb in weight loss mode. bread. ric, and e Pasta were excluded from my diet. As I got close to gaol, whole wheat, brown rice and sweet potato were added by my dietician. This was to slow/stop my weight loss. First year bread would fill me up and I had no room for other foods. Years out, bread is not a big problem for me to eat. I have to keep it in moderation.

I can't wait to add those things back into my diet. In moderation of course!

3 minutes ago, Sigi42 said:

..A lot of times, women have been socialized not to make a scene, to not make a fuss, to lie take it (like[mention=314375]LadySin[/mention] 's doormat)..

Say it a little louder for the people in the back!

I will go out on a limb and say at times, certain women can be WAY WORSE when paying a compliment cause they feel the old double standard rule applies to them..I often had girls walk by, and literally say "Damn"....Or "hello, how you doin?" in the Joey from friends voice.. I have also been called Delicious, right here on these very forums..lol (granted I posted an underwear picture...lol..)

NICE ASS BABY!!