AntoinetteNY

Hi all,

I had my surgery on 5/8/17. Since then, I have been hiding it well from my husband and friends and family, but I have been crying A LOT. Most of my family has not been supportive at all, didn't even call me to check on me before or after the surgery. I feel like a lot of my family members and I are so distant. I try ALL THE TIME to get together with them, but it always seems like they are making up excuses. I feel so bad for my daughter because she is so social and all she wants is to see her cousins and other children in the family. The family members I am specifically speaking about is my brother and my cousins. I try so hard to be a part of their lives but my brother only cares about himself (selfish and immature) and my cousins are very busy with their own lives. I didn't even tell them what type of surgery I got because of how judgmental they all are. And I know, "Why would I want people in my life that are going to judge me?" I guess it is because I love family and time together and I try to see the best in people. I would love to tell them, if I knew I would not get downed or be talked about behind my back, which they totally would. My friends have been supportive but on their own time. When I ask for them for their time, they are always busy or cleaning their house. They call me almost everyday, but sometimes I need that face to face support and a shoulder to cry on. My husband is amazing but he has that "erase them from your life attitude". He will listen and be supportive, but it always ends with "stop talking to them". Like I said I try to give everybody another chance, and a third, fourth and fifth. Even with my husband and my friends, after this surgery, I feel so lonely. I know my family is ignorant and all I do when I think about it is cry. I just want that "don't care" attitude. My brother is a social media bully. He loves to indirectly post nasty stuff about me or anyone he is having a problem with at that moment on Facebook. My husband said to delete him but that doesn't take away what he is saying about me. When my brother and cousin and me are around each other, I am the odd one out. And the fact that I am SO MUCH MORE emotional now, I cry at the thought of this stuff. I know I am NOT alone, but why do I feel that way.

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I had my surgery the same day and I'm experiencing the same thing! My stomach grumbles like I'm hungry and I'm having cravings. I'm plannning out what I eat for the next week so I hope it will help. Not having to think about what I want to eat might help.

Can you try Boost clear Protein drink?

We're on the same boat. I too have my post-op appointment in May 18th. Last night I was so hungry, I sipped on Water and forced myself to sleep lol.

I had my surgery on may 8th. I dont have my post op appointment until may 18th. I know this is not head hunger, but I am hungry. I can feel my stomach growling. I am sticking to my liquid first but 5 more days seems so long to stay hungry. I eat some Jello, Powerade, popsicle when I feel hungry but it doesn't always work. Any body experience this or can give any advice.

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Scared of the 8 days of no pooping post surgery...yes that too shall pass. It turned out to be a non-problem. It sucked that I gained weight post surgery, but it went away quickly after the IV fluids left my system. I really hated that I had pizza 8 weeks post op, that crap got all stuck and ended up retching. (Never again). But over all, not getting it done sooner. But I'm a hard ass who thought this was the easy way out and didn't really look at it in a significant way until two years ago.

7 minutes ago, Ylm87 said:

I definitely don't want the afternoon. I am praying it is the morning too. I am very nervous.

I'm so anxious, I hope it's in the morning so I can get it over with. My neighbor had to wait all afternoon for hers


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3 minutes ago, Ylm87 said:

That's great. I'm waiting today for the call to let me know what time I have to go in.

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Me too, waiting on the call.

May 8th here too

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I am almost 1 week out with pre op diet and I have only lost 4 maybe 5 lbs. Is that right? Or should I be losing more?

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I am just starting and on day 1. Want to cry and cheat but I am nervous doc will open me up, not be happy and not do the surgery

Thank you. I appreciate it

Same here. Even though I had big comorbidities along with the crazy weight loss they were under control months ago and significantly improved on the preop diet alone (normalized liver function, massive fibroscan improvements showing likely improved liver diagnosis, hba1c dropping from 7.9 diabetic levels to 5.7 which is normal or pre-diabetic levels). My surgeon has a rep of being a huge RNY fan but because my comorbidities were under control he pointed out the risk wasn't worth it in the mid 30s. Both second opinions saw both surgeons recommend VSG as well. For much of my time in weight management I was pretty set on RNY but reading the research, evaluating risk management, and seeing in person at classes never mind on forums like this the very high positive results combined with lower risk, it turned into a no brainer by the time it came to sign the surgery papers early this year. Unless someone is older or has extremely untreatable diseases with immediate high risk to their lifespan justifying the increased RNY risk, VSG is definitely worth it, in my opinion.

I agree with [mention=309438]PatientEleventyBillion[/mention] I feel like your GERD will probably be resolved with losing weight.
I am also so surprised to read sugeons pushing RNY on people who only need to lose 50-60 pounds, unless you are over 50, that seems like over kill. I have also seen an influx of people lately getting DS, who in the past they would have never pushed it on. If you are young and not slug the sleeve can get the job done. Also being a younger person. I chose the sleeve knowing that if things get out of hand down the line, I have revision options as I get older if I need it (I don't think I will have far exceeded my goals with the sleeve and enjoy my new life enough to protect it at all costs). RNY leaves you no revision options really. I know they tight the pouch for some people or bypass more intestine but its not the same going from like the sleeve to SIPS or DS.
I have lost 182 pounds with a sleeve. You can lose a lot with it if you want to. My Dr is very skilled at them, they are all he does and he sees amazing results.

He's way wrong about reflux.
For the vast majority of people with reflux, even diagnosed GERD like me, only 1 out of 5 cases are worse because of the VSG surgery.
The rest are either diet related or other conditions.
For the majority, the underlying obesity problems causing reflux are more resolved than worsened due to weight loss and dietary improvements and awareness of what foods initiates reflux.
In theory a smaller stomach makes easier reflux but not quite accurate.
I would be skeptical of him trying to push you to RNY. Firstly, the added complications of the surgery makes it a better idea for older people or those like me with comorbidities like advanced liver disease. Risks associated with VSG are much less. Secondly, see if the door is open to revision if you have any issues with the surgery including reflux. My surgeon offered this.

My surgeon at first also suggested bypass, mainly because of diabetes and the amount of weight I need to lose (50-60 pounds). She said that I will probably benefit more with bypass but she will perform a sleeve if that is what I want. She told me to keep an open mind when I am doing my research and the biggest deal breaker for me was the dumping syndrome.
I told them I want a sleeve and that is what we are going with.

My surgeon at first also suggested bypass, mainly because of diabetes and the amount of weight I need to lose (50-60 pounds). She said that I will probably benefit more with bypass but she will perform a sleeve if that is what I want. She told me to keep an open mind when I am doing my research and the biggest deal breaker for me was the dumping syndrome.
I told them I want a sleeve and that is what we are going with.

I had this experience when I first went in to see surgeon..vice versa. I told my doctor I wanted to do Bypass but when he found out I was a smoker he said he would not perform the surgery . Reason being was because if you smoke when you have bypass you get ulcers. So basically you are in pain all the time. So i decided to do Sleeve. I will tell you that it was the best decision I have ever made. It was non painful except for the gas pain you will have for maybe 2 weeks..I have lost over 60 lbs and I am 4 months post op. I feel better then I ever have. But you have to go with your gut intincts. My doctor was highly recommended and If he told me what was best then I listened to him! Good luck and relax! Everything will be ok!!

A few questions - how many surgeries has your surgeon done. Did you research him/her as much as the procedures? Have you met with the rest of the team and discussed any of this before today? How long have you been in the process?
If you really feel uncomfortable, then consider changing surgeons, but, when I spoke with my surgeon he asked me the same question. I told him I preferred the sleeve because I was concerned about all the complications with bypass (dumping, etc.). He then laid out the pros and cons in a very thoughtful way and told me his recommendations based upon the 200 bariatric procedures he does every year and has done for the last 19 years.
I trusted his judgment. He has a medical degree. I don't.

[mention=313687]antoinette85[/mention]
How much you lose after surgery is basically based on you and how you eat/live. I have lost more weight with the sleeve than most people with RNY. That is because of my lifestyle choices.
I was diabetic. Completely reversed it. The one person I know that had RNY with a family history of diabetes had cured their diabetes with surgery. Then they started eating poorly and regaining, and now they diabetes is making its way back. It is really a roll of dice if RNY will cure you of diabetes or prevent you from every getting it. It isn't a guarantee.
The only reason to choose RNY over Sleeve is if you already have GERD and that GERD is not based on a Hiatal hernia.
In the end you have to live with the choice not the surgeon.
A lot of things that claimed to be guarantees with RNY don't always apply like dumping, most people don't dump long term. People with RNY supposedly lose like 10% more weight, but that 10% isn't really worth having your intestines touched.
JMO

This came in up during a group meeting with our surgeon. We all told him what we were getting again. He described both procedures again. This was about 2 weeks before surgery and we had all been on a 6 month wait so we had discussed this in private with him several times. However, some of the people who were getting bypass starting wanting sleeves. Someone asked how do we know which one is best for us. He explained that its a personal choice but that sometimes if people have a lot more to lose, they chose bypass, or significant diabetes, they choose bypass. Even though I don't have it, but both my parents and grandparents have it, I opted for the sleeve. I'm only 6 days out, but I am 8lbs lighter and happy!

I think you should talk to another surgeon. Some doctors just really think about themselves other than their patients. Sometimes it's all about the money. The gastric bypass cost more than the sleeve so maybe he's thinking of dollar signs. I understand that the sleeve wouldn't be right for you IF you have existing acid reflux disease because it can worsen your condition. However, if you don't have acid reflux right now then there should be no reason why you shouldn't have the sleeve. Sure patients lose more weight with the gastric bypass but it's very risky and has a higher complication rate. So I say if you feel comfortable getting the sleeve, go for it!!!

Was that a typo, or did your surgeon really say that with the sleeve you would only lose 5 pounds? Because that just seems very wrong.

Was this the first time you were seeing him?
That seems odd.
Personally, I wouldn't want bypass due to the rerouting and the potential for dumping syndrome.
Can you find a different surgeon?
It is your body and your choice.
If you want to get sleeved, then get sleeved.