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Is it normal that I've lost 97 pounds in 4 months and only have 15 pounds left till I reach goal?

Sleeved March 8th. Starting weight 297 current weight 237 goal weight 180

They are delicious and tender. I was able to eat about 4 ounces

I started beef yesterday and filet mignon went down easy. Can't believe I'm almost 2 months post op and I'm down 54 pounds!

53 pounds since march 8th. I have no appetite and just make sure I get my Protein Shakes in for the day and only eat a small meal once a day.

I agreed with him that his criticism was constructive, and wasn't berating. How you got I agreed with him that "someone isnt worthy".. no idea, but that's hilarious. Thank you for that.

What you should be questioning is why OP made this thread. It has nothing to do with WLS, it's instead whining about posters putting out negative opinions regarding his food choices that he posts in the open for people to respond to.

I went tanning the first week post op

Relax at least you admitted it. There are lots of critics on here that will tell you how bad you were. Bottom line just get right back on plan. I've slipped and was criticized for eating three marshmallows peeps

Be careful the food police are waiting to pounce on people that have slip ups. I think it's fine as long as you're losing, Feeling good, and having no problems

Guess those three peeps didn't matter much. Lol

Difference: I'm not complaining about opinions criticizing eating crap. I'm complaining about personal attacks, which no one but you is doing. Indeed decorum is key, and as stated in the very forum rules I talked about earlier, opinions are more than welcome, which includes criticism of eating candy. Bashing people for giving their opinion strays from that. Obviously neither you nor the OP know the difference, and are likely being far too sensitive to have a reasonable discussion with. Hopefully over the weekend you can settle down.

I had my 1 month post-op visit today and have been doing well. However, I told my surgeon it is my birthday next week and I am going to have some ice cream. She said she would prefer I had something else to Celebrate but as long as I have just a tiny bit and then no more it would be ok.

I don't mind being called 'far too sensitive'. It's a chic magnet. [emoji6]
What isn't, is nagging.
Be a person of your word too.
Opinions are welcome.. even over sensitive ones right? [emoji23][emoji23]
As for being agitated, I'm having quite a bit of fun. Too bad its good friday so I have been banned from 'conjuring up demons' [emoji8]
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LoL.. I read through the post.. I saw no name calling.

Before the point gets lost in needless and irrelevant back and forths, it still goes back to the same thing.

Decorum is key. some people want to label others as being 'sensitive' for feeling insulted by a post, yet are chagrined when others label them as 'rough mannered'.

Anyway, the thread was a chance for me to air certain opinions...

Long weekend coming up.
Have a good one..

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Well, since I was the only one who offered anything that could be construed as "criticism" on your peep thread, I can assume this thread is about me. I'm sorry I hurt your feelings. I honestly only had your best interest in mind. I did not have any subtle jibes at your expense in any of my posts.
For those unfamiliar with the posts:
[/url]  That being said, I will no longer post on your threads because now I am judging. I do not deem you worthy of my time nor experience. I have a rather respected reputation on this forum for a simple reason. I don't belittle people on this forum, I don't talk down to them, and I don't do passive aggressive conversations about them. I am upfront about what is fact and what is opinion. I clearly state that whether or not they take my advice or not is perfectly fine with me. Many of the vets that were banned were very harsh, I'm more apathetic.
If you have a problem with me, contact [mention=1125]Alex Brecher[/mention] or any of the other admins. If I am in the wrong, they will no problem telling me so.

Question from a Scot.

A Peep to us is a pervert or person - what is the candy one for you guys?
#confused

I don't even mind 'know it alls'.. but if one is truly willing to educate another, respect and empathy are important. Push aside all sentiments, judgments, resentments and all the other negative 'ments' and try to understand the person you are educating. Then give advice in a palatable manner. ..but No!! Because they they have all the answers, they must dish out with tough love.

They try to bash the information onto, and into others; Then double down when their advice is rejected. Then they go and throw hissy fits in elsewhere about how newbies 'destined for failure' ganged up to bully them. I'm not saying that bad advisers aren't present or that people aren't bullied by some ignorant others, but if they truly feel a strong urge to help people, then that is not the attitude to have.
We all cannot be the same. I expect some are tough-love advocates. However, tough love is not an excuse for being a jerk or being uncouth. Most of us are here to seek information or to give back. Obesity is just one of the issues some of us had/have.

In my insignificant opinion, losing the weight in itself is a tool (not just the surgery) to help us on a journey of self discovery.
Some people were jerks, but felt people shunned them because they were obese. As the weight comes of, true character will be revealed.

Excuse the rant. I just feel this is a refreshing thread. [emoji3]

You will just have to learn to ignore.

Many people harbor no ill will. A few just don't know how to talk to other people.

A smaller few can be overbearing, but that's how life is anyway.

Exactly! You can admit that you ate the peeps and liked it! The problem I feel is when people try to "sneak" stuff past themselves. Like eating or taking bites of something but not accounting for it or letting that become a habit. Like you said, you got your Protein in and that's what's important at your stage. I do not allow myself "treats" whatever it may be, if I don't have my Protein in and I don't allow it on a regular basis if that makes sense but I try not to deny myself constantly.

What do you expect? We're all hungry and cranky!
Just kidding, were people really criticizing you or just offering some hard advice? Last post I saw you said you had some Peeps. Aside from atrocious taste in Easter candy , I don't see why anyone would criticize you.

This is an open forum where we should be able to express our goals, accomplishments, and failures. Berating someone because of what they ate is extremely unhelpful. Instead we should try not to judge. Not one of you is perfect or you wouldn't be here in the first place.

I think this is an extremely important fact. Accountability is the most important thing I have learned since surgery. My wife used to make me huge plates of food and I would eat it so she wouldn't think I didn't like it. Or my parents would want to feed me whenever I came over and I felt obligated to eat it. Now I know that it was my choice and I should have said no. At first, I told them I just couldn't eat because of the surgery. Now I tell them that I really just don't want something because I am taking responsibility for what I put in my stomach.
On the subject of treats, I still have them. The only difference is that now I only pick something that (to me) is truly a treat. candy that is available at any gas station is not a treat. They are as common as dirt. But a homemade Tres Leche cake? Hell yes I am having some. A 16 year old scotch? Yep, I'll have a little of that too. Someone is making prime rib? Count me in!
My point is simple, we should not deny ourselves food that brings us pleasure. But don't settle for a slim jim and a baby ruth; make sure it is something actually special.

I had a mini Cadbury egg the other night, just one, it was delish. I'm 15wks post op and down 76lbs. I do allow myself a little treat from time to time but I also count it in my daily values and hold myself accountable. I think that's more important, accountability than never allowing yourself another treat again. We are all human.

I was just going by what you said.
Fluid is of course different.

Don't get me wrong [mention=313064]jfcajr[/mention], it does not affect me at all what you do. I am only pointing out what could be a recurring issue to help you identify a problem before it starts.
Good luck.