Kathleen, there is no doubt that you need help and are having a very tough time receiving it. First I must say you are a truly strong woman to have endured so much and here you are seeking guidance. Is the place you chose a Center of Excellence? I know you've already had surgery but many times finding the right bariatric doctor happens after surgery. There is nothing that says you can't do some research and find someone who does better with aftercare. They may be able to get you in touch with good counseling. Also, an in person support group may be a better option for you. I know being able to have people come along side you may be a better fit.
Thinking of you