forgetmenot

Alright so no part of me holds the view that I'm too good to date someone who is formerly or currently overweight. But since 3 or 4 consecutive members interpreted my words that way, then I should accept all the blame for my lack of eloquence particularly with respect to the last sentence.
Just to provide a little bit of context, out of the dozens of encounters I've had so far, the only ones who were interested in getting to know me further were overweight guys and the coffee date guy. A few of the overweight guys even explicitly told me that they prefer someone thinner but couldn't attract them and have to settle with me. A few of them insinuated the same thing and at a speed dating event, the organizer even told me to assume this was true for all interested guys (guess I am not invited back there again). Except for the handful of jerks who explicitly mentioned my weight, I have been pro-actively conversing with all of the interested guys but as expected, most are not going to work out due to preferences over hobbies, smoking/drinking, distance, kids, pets, etc.
My concern was that maybe the coffee date guy still has an overweight mindset in the sense that he prefers someone thinner but still considers himself unappealing to those women and has to settle with me. In fact, I should retract that last sentence altogether and replace it with "I wish I had the assurance that this particular guy would still like me regardless of his past weight history".
Anyways, hopefully that clarification soothes everyone's anger. If not - apologies in advance.

I am in my late 20s and obesity has mostly prevented me from seriously dating my whole life. I just hit the 29 BMI milestone, 4 months post-surgery, so I am choosing to venture into online dating for the first time. There is a guy I really like who I am meeting for coffee. Obviously he has seen realistic profile pictures, including full-body shots already. I am really tempted to ask him "are you alright with me being ~25 lbs overweight?" but I really should not do that right? How many dates in should I mention the surgery? Do I need to warn him that surgery is a big tool but there might be a chance of regain down the road?

I am in my late 20s and obesity has mostly prevented me from seriously dating my whole life. I just hit the 29 BMI milestone, 4 months post-surgery, so I am choosing to venture into online dating for the first time. There is a guy I really like who I am meeting for coffee. Obviously he has seen realistic profile pictures, including full-body shots already. I am really tempted to ask him "are you alright with me being ~25 lbs overweight?" but I really should not do that right? How many dates in should I mention the surgery? Do I need to warn him that surgery is a big tool but there might be a chance of regain down the road?

I am in my late 20s and obesity has mostly prevented me from seriously dating my whole life. I just hit the 29 BMI milestone, 4 months post-surgery, so I am choosing to venture into online dating for the first time. There is a guy I really like who I am meeting for coffee. Obviously he has seen realistic profile pictures, including full-body shots already. I am really tempted to ask him "are you alright with me being ~25 lbs overweight?" but I really should not do that right? How many dates in should I mention the surgery? Do I need to warn him that surgery is a big tool but there might be a chance of regain down the road?