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    I need to buckle down and take my measurements and some before pics. I have a few, I guess. Mostly of my face, of course! I obviously don't like the full body ones. But if I'm going to be serious about this, I am going to show all. So, it'll come. Have to find the pics though.

    As for my dietary goals, today was day two of trying what the dietician suggested. Still don't have it down pat, but it's better than yesterday. I'm super hungry though. Gonna get a snack when I get home.

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  3. Posted · Edited by Newme17

    All I could think of when I read your story is, "How do I share this with my mom (who is 60 with cancer three times over) in hopes that once she's battled this last round, will she do something about her weight and have a life?" She gets angry when we mention food addictions and has every excuse in the book about why she has to eat what she does. Did you ever find yourself like that during your addiction to food? I would love to say I have hope with my mom, but unfortunately, I really don't. I think she's giving up. :( But I am so happy and thankful, you, a stranger, did not! Thank you for this. Your words about not abusing yourself anymore rang very LOUD and CLEAR to myself. My heart is tingling. I didn't think I'd ever tear up, but I did over that. Thank you for sharing with us, me. You've truly touched lives. May God bless you hon.

    Yes, I got angry. I believed no one really understood how hard I was always trying (I was!!! But would give up so easily!) I said I would NEVER give up carbs, that eliminating an entire food group could only be unhealthy! I said I would NEVER have surgery! The problem is that you can't tell your mom what to do because she will devote a lot of emotional energy into being in control, especially at a time where cancer has made her relinquish all other control! She has to want it for herself. All you can do is love her while you have her and try to accept that whether from cancer or her weight, you might not have her for a lot of years! Please read my post to her, and tell her that I understand. The nature of addiction is that it thrives on denial and seduces you into believing you will never, ever, be happy without it. Weight loss surgery gives you an opportunity to break free, but the addiction is always a voice inside you. I found something that gave me far more joy. I have struggled! I've gained weight here and there! I fight food longing every single day, but I am no longer motivated or rewarded by food, if that makes sense.

    I would make one suggestion to both of you! I suggest you offer to sign her up for this site, and ask her, out of love and respect for you, to commit to reading here every day for a set time... 3 months?? And then you could stop trying, knowing that she is well informed. And I would suggest to her that she realise there may come a day where her daughter is without a mom, and it will be a great comfort then to know that you did everything you could.

    My heart is with you and your mom. It's so hard.

    You described yourself as my mom!!!! Very similar! Wow!! I am not sure how to even go about bringing up this site though, only because I haven't told her I'm having surgery. In fact, my parents are the last people I would tell. Sad, I know. I had mentioned wls to her maybe ten years ago (before cancer) and she wouldn't have it. I think she's more afraid of my dad's opinions (and he's VERY opinionated). Imagine a woman who hates to exercise and has a food addiction married to a man for 42 years who is all about taking care of the body, exercise, etc. they're exact opposites and terrible for each other. Wow, I'm amazed I even said that. I love my parents but, well, they've got issues. Besides all of that, I think I've done enough (although not giving up) to share my concerns with my mom. She goes silent on me if I mention better eating habits or whatever. But like you said, she's got to want to do it herself. I've just been planting seeds in hopes that the idea grows in her. On another hand, I'd be amazed if she lasts through another year. so I'll enjoy my mom as much as I can. Only comfort I have is that she's got Jesus and I know she'll be in heaven when it's her time, pain free and happy, with a new body.

    Thank you again for your words of encouragement. It'll be something I need to pray about, letting her know about the site and my surgery as well. Have a blessed day!

    Oh, one of the reasons I'm having surgery is not to end up like my mom. She's always told me to not be like her, so I'm doing something of it.

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  4. Posted · Edited by Newme17

    Bless you hon. Now, I want you to do something. Stand in front of a mirror and tell yourself, "I will not be ashamed, I will not be embarrassed. My feelings are not true, I am not meant to be obese, but a healthy me". I can guarantee it will feel silly and it will hurt. You may end up crying your eyes out, but it's true. You do not deserve to be obese and aren't meant to be. Those are lies and do your best to not believe them ok.

    Tomorrow is a new day, whatever happened in the past (food, cruise, etc) is the past. You can learn from it or you can dwell in it. Which one will you do?

  5. Posted

    All I could think of when I read your story is, "How do I share this with my mom (who is 60 with cancer three times over) in hopes that once she's battled this last round, will she do something about her weight and have a life?" She gets angry when we mention food addictions and has every excuse in the book about why she has to eat what she does. Did you ever find yourself like that during your addiction to food? I would love to say I have hope with my mom, but unfortunately, I really don't. I think she's giving up. :( But I am so happy and thankful, you, a stranger, did not! Thank you for this. Your words about not abusing yourself anymore rang very LOUD and CLEAR to myself. My heart is tingling. I didn't think I'd ever tear up, but I did over that. Thank you for sharing with us, me. You've truly touched lives. May God bless you hon.

  6. Posted · Edited by Newme17

    My intention of this thread is to share my journey with more details for the things I go through, appointments I have, info I've learned, and questions I may have. So, I hope ya'll will join me in my journey. I'll try not to be boring.

    So, today I had my first dietary assessment appointment. I don't how it happened, but I'm down five pounds since last week. ??? I was pleasantly surprised. I even had a food funeral last night, my favorite, nachos! LOL The appt went quite well though. I wasn't all conceited about knowing about nutrition but I did let the dietician know I'm knowledgeable. Her final notes are "Patient is a good candidate for surgery based on NIH criteria. Patient understands diet and behavior modifications necessary to be successful and is committed to making them." Well, that's nice. Now I need to stick to it. LOL I have three more appointment (monthly) and then that'll be it. But during these months, I need to work on the following:

    NO MORE CHUGGING; WORK ON SIPPING FLUIDS

    START DECREASING CAFFEINE (Please!!!! Not my cold brew mocha coffee!?!?!?! ....sigh)

    REPLACE Breakfast (my yummy Breakfast taco--darn) WITH A Protein shake

    PORTION SIZE MEALS (2 bites protein; 1 bite veggie; starch last after protein/veggie)

    NO DRINKING WHILE EATING; WAIT 45 MINS TO DRINK AFTER MEALS

    Okay, seems doable and pretty easy right? Nope. I epically failed today. I chugged and I didn't follow the eating pattern. I did drink a Protein Shake (mixed it with my coffee) and so far I haven't had anything to drink since I finished dinner--got about 20 mins to go. Tomorrow is a new day though, so I'll start again.

    And again, and again, until I get this down!

  7. Posted · Edited by Newme17

    I've learned that as long as you have however many months your insurance requires documented CONSECUTIVELY by a physician, etc. it will count.

    I went to my doc from March to December of 2016. But my doc only documented 3 of the months. My insurance requires 3 consecutive months documented. So I'm having to do it all over again, but with the dietician with my surgeon 's office.

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    I'm not sure about the forms as my surgeon's office is taking care of it all.

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  8. Posted

    Your body should be hungry to fuel up. Is it head hunger? Additional carbs will tend to make you feel hungrier too. Like all who have said before me, stick to the Protein first. Hope this helps!

    And congrats on your loss! That's awesome.

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    Long story short I had a house fire on New Year's Day and haven't had a chance to hop on my scale since. I hoping I'll feel better if I can confirm I've continued to lose weight over the last couple weeks. Meantime, I don't feel much like congratulating myself. I feel like I'm letting bad habits, i.e. snacking, back in, even if my calorie count is still at 1000.

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    Your body should be hungry to fuel up. Is it head hunger? Additional carbs will tend to make you feel hungrier too. Like all who have said before me, stick to the Protein first. Hope this helps!

    And congrats on your loss! That's awesome.

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    Long story short I had a house fire on New Year's Day and haven't had a chance to hop on my scale since. I hoping I'll feel better if I can confirm I've continued to lose weight over the last couple weeks. Meantime, I don't feel much like congratulating myself. I feel like I'm letting bad habits, i.e. snacking, back in, even if my calorie count is still at 1000.

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    Oh no! I'm so sorry about the fire. It seems like added stress triggers the bad food habits? Do you have a hobby or a goal (non food/weight) that you can turn your attention to? Exercise is a great stress reliever. Again, You've done a phenomenal job thus far, you can always pick right back up and keep going. I'm rooting for ya!

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    Your body should be hungry to fuel up. Is it head hunger? Additional carbs will tend to make you feel hungrier too. Like all who have said before me, stick to the protein first. Hope this helps!

    And congrats on your loss! That's awesome.

    Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

    Long story short I had a house fire on New Year's Day and haven't had a chance to hop on my scale since. I hoping I'll feel better if I can confirm I've continued to lose weight over the last couple weeks. Meantime, I don't feel much like congratulating myself. I feel like I'm letting bad habits, i.e. snacking, back in, even if my calorie count is still at 1000.

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    Your body should be hungry to fuel up. Is it head hunger? Additional carbs will tend to make you feel hungrier too. Like all who have said before me, stick to the protein first. Hope this helps!

    And congrats on your loss! That's awesome.

    Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

    Long story short I had a house fire on New Year's Day and haven't had a chance to hop on my scale since. I hoping I'll feel better if I can confirm I've continued to lose weight over the last couple weeks. Meantime, I don't feel much like congratulating myself. I feel like I'm letting bad habits, i.e. snacking, back in, even if my calorie count is still at 1000.

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    Oh no! I'm so sorry about the fire. It seems like added stress triggers the bad food habits? Do you have a hobby or a goal (non food/weight) that you can turn your attention to? Exercise is a great stress reliever. Again, You've done a phenomenal job thus far, you can always pick right back up and keep going. I'm rooting for ya!

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  10. Posted · Edited by Newme17

    Awesome. I love IF. I did it while I was weight training and plan to make it my lifestyle after surgery as well. You can lose consistently on IF. The best part is working out during your fasting time. There's so much medical science out there that helps explain why this works and as a testament to it, it does. Although I only dropped 4 lbs, I lost 3 inches all around my body. (I was also not really watching everything I ate at the time, just the window) But alas, I still have a lot of fat on me, so I need to reset my metabolism with the sleeve. Currently, I'm doing my weights. I'll add the IF later.

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  13. Posted

    January 24th. Was supposed to meet up with a friend to workout together. But secretly I wanted to go alone. I just get it done without all the talking. Anyway, she decided not to go. I almost didn't, but I did! And boy I'm glad, as usual. A bit shaky now, did heavy weights tonight. Now it's time to wind down. ????‍♀️

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  14. Posted

    I'd say whenever you can whether having surgery or not. I personally think they're all terrible, diet and regular. Lots of chemicals and sugars our bodies just don't need. But I can sympathize with addictions and know it's got to be hard to give up. I went cold turkey when I found out a flame retardant chemical was found in many of them. Eew.

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    Hi all! I read a very inspiring post this morning about haters. So I decided to share. I'm going through a nasty divorce because my husband just refuses to treat me right. You name it he's done it or said it. I've been fighting tears for 3 days now with the latest news of his cheating. Then he had the nerve to blame me for his behavior..... Well God made me smile today. I had my first physical with my regular doctor today. He was soooo impressed with my 70lbs loss. It made my day! It's the little things! God really won't let me be sad or spiteful!

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    Awww, BLESS YOU beautifully2114!!!! You just take care of yourself hon. He's got problems that you obviously don't need and I'm glad you've taken the steps to be a better and happy you. Stay strong love.

    Have rest in Him.

    Exodus 33:14 “My presence will go with you, and I will give you rest.”

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  19. Posted · Edited by Newme17

    I think I'm going to just dedicate this one thread to everything I'm going through, after all, it is my journey, right? I hope it helps others as well as it's helping me.

    I have my first nutritional appointment tomorrow morning. I'm excited for it. Do I sit there and act dumb or do I share my expertise with the dietician? I don't want to come off as a know it all, cause really, I don't, but I do know a lot!

    A little of my childhood, I grew up very active. My dad would lug the whole family, 5 kids and my mom, out most every weekend to go do nature trails, etc in the U.P., MI. "Say ya to da UP, eh!?" (For you Michigan folk, LOL). We had to eat healthy in the house. Rarely fried foods, and especially no junk food in the house. My mom was always secretly buying candy bars, chips, junk when my dad was at work or if we went out to run errands. Gee, wonder where I picked up that awful habit??? But overall, I was a healthy happy kid. My dad used to run fitness programs and I would always go with him. I loved working out with him and his clients. Imagine me decked out in my hot pink leotard and hot pink spandex shorts. Lol. Hey, it was the 80's!!! Even now, I like working out. Granted, I don't have all the time I want to exercise, but when I do, I enjoy the challenge. I'd see other women lifting heavy so I wanted to beat that and lift heavier. I usually do. But I still need help. My body isn't the same. I can feel how hard it is to lose 5 pounds now than my 25 year old body. Now, I hurt. My knees have been aching these last two days (weather related) but with the extra weight, ugh. Feels awful. I've got hip bursitis (all those years of the elliptical). Painful inflammation in the joint. Any age, any weight can get it, but imagine 120 more weight then needed having to move with it. Ouch.

    So here I am.

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  20. Posted

    I may have mentioned it somewhere here before, not too sure, but some years ago I was pursuing a degree in diet and nutrition. Fast forward to now, I am the one who needs reminding about it. My husband calmly told me yesterday "you can't keep talking about how you used to be, you are here now." So, I have decided as part of my journey to a better health, to pursue the studies again. Whether I go to a college or just take some online courses, I'm going to dive right back in. Number one, staying focused on it and being somewhat passionate about health and nutrition (it's always been there-just ignored it for 8 years) I know I will be successful in achieving weight loss. And finally informing and educating myself about weight loss surgery (I was one to think it was a cop-out ), I have a broader view of how to get healthy and stay healthy no matter the approach (as long as it's a healthy one).

    In my "used to" years, I was always studying and it made it so much easier to stay on track. 20 years later, marriage, kids, life...I'm not the same person. I know I'm not, but I've got to work this out and be a new me. I'm starting all over again. And my hope is that I will be able to educate others through my success and even throughout my journey. I've got to stay plugged in and that's what I aim to do.

    So, here's to a new me! And a new you! A new all of us! Success!

    ...oh, and I signed up for my first class too!

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  23. Posted · Edited by Newme17

    Have my very first Dr appt Feb 14 (happy Valentines day to me!) What all do u do at this appt? Do u start diet then? I know I have to meet with dietitian for 3 months for insurance purposes. Just curious what else to expect :)

    All depends on the insurance and surgeon really. I just had my first appt with the surgeon. He just asked a bunch of questions, asked me why I want the surgery, etc. I worked up my nerves for nothing really. Lol. I have nutritional appointments (4) and one psych evaluation. As for the pre-op, I'm sure that part will come along when the insurance goes through and I have a surgery date. Until then, I go to the nutritionist and I'm going to do the best I can to change my bad habits to good now.

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  24. Posted

    So i had to have an abdominal ultrasound to check my gallbladder out last week. Now dr called and said need to come in for an appointment to talk bout my gallbladder! Appointment not til next week Anyone else have this happen? Im worried they going to tell me i cant have surgery!

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    I've heard many have it done at the same time...at least, I think I've heard that. ??? I wouldn't see why not but having your gallbladder out shouldn't excuse you from wls. I'm sure someone who's had that happen will comment soon. I've had mine out for 15 years now, so sorry I can't help much.

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