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I felt bottomed out and very weak at times. I went back to my nut and my Vitamin combination wasn't enough.

I see your point also and curiosity is normal, no problem! However, I have had to stop being around people, one or two of which I believed to be friends of mine for comments like "you lost so much weight, you bitch!" Or "wow you look great, I hate you so much!". I realize these things were said in jest but I'm on a new path in my life and negativity will not be part of it. Just sayin..

Thanks to all you guys for the advice and suggestions
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I felt bottomed out and very weak at times. I went back to my nut and my Vitamin combination wasn't enough.

I see your point also and curiosity is normal, no problem! However, I have had to stop being around people, one or two of which I believed to be friends of mine for comments like "you lost so much weight, you bitch!" Or "wow you look great, I hate you so much!". I realize these things were said in jest but I'm on a new path in my life and negativity will not be part of it. Just sayin..

A patient must have realistic expectations going into plastic surgery after massive weight loss. Reeducating people about self-image is a critical component to accepting oneself after weight loss. The plastic surgeon must manage those expectations and explain to the patient her realistic outcome. Self-acceptance is, after all, a state of mind.


One patient told me that a plastic surgeon said to her, “I operate with a scalpel, not a magic wand.” While another patient told me her plastic surgeon said, “Let’s go for a 10!” I wonder about these statements. Does the first plastic surgeon lack the skills to deliver the results that the patient wants? Is the second plastic surgeon just telling the patient what she wants to hear?

A patient must have realistic expectations going into plastic surgery after massive weight loss. The plastic surgeon must manage those expectations and explain to the patient her realistic outcome. This is done by the plastic surgeon pulling tight her excess skin on each area of the body to simulate her results after plastic surgery. As well, showing before and after photos of other patients with similar body types.

Body Image and Media

The media has baited the hook, and the public chases after a trophy that will probably never be had. It is similar to purchasing a winning ticket for the lottery: It is possible but not probable. As a matter of fact, the average five foot four inch tall American female will never be tall and slender. She cannot match the media sales image of “desirable.”

A major global study concluded that current characterizations of beauty are restraining and normally beyond reach. A current contention is that this unrealistic presentation helps to promote social acceptance of discrimination against obese people.

It also sets the bar too high for realistic expectations of what we should strive to look like following post-bariatric plastic surgery.
Plastic Surgery Post Bariatric Surgery

While I was recovering from my body lift I thought deeply about the body image held by many of the patients I’d interacted with online, as well as my own image of my body. What are the emotional implications of plastic surgery post bariatric surgery?
We found our bodies unattractive, or even ugly, after losing 100 pounds or more. We were left with excess sagging skin that could not be exercised or dieted away. Having body image issues about breasts, thighs, and tummy being deflated and sagging is quite understandable. Wanting the sexy body you have always wanted is normal. Body contouring plastic surgery was the only way to restore the body’s normal shape. Read, “Female Body Image and Sexuality.”
Reality Check after Plastic Surgery
The patient must understand that it takes several months to see plastic surgery results. If months have passed and the patient remains unsatisfied, it is a good idea to pull out before and after photos for a reality check. Improvement is more likely than perfection for a massive weight loss person, but it should be significant improvement. Read my article, “18 Insider Tips of Plastic Surgery.”

Body Image after Weight Loss

Reeducating people about self-image is a critical component to accepting oneself after weight loss. This will help lessen the extremes people employ as they try to grab a brass ring that is always beyond reach. Your goal should be one of significant improvement in functional mobility, stability, and aesthetics, rather than perfection.

One patient told me, “I am not looking to be Barbie or Twiggy, but rather a more compressed me if possible. I feel like a barrel even after the plastics I’ve been able to have via my ***. At some point I have to just accept me for me with my bodily flaws; and every scar on my body has meaning to me!”
Self-acceptance is, after all, a state of mind. Self-image is the idea a woman has about her abilities, appearance, and personality.

I don't have advise about this because I don't post anything about my surgery or weight loss on fb. However, if I did, I would let them unfriend me because. I don't that in my life. When it comes to parents, I only have my mom and grandma. I did not tell my mom until after surgery and I flat out told her to stop being so negative. Grandma was supportive from the beginning.
Bottom line is you don't need negative people in your life. It's not healthy for you even if you didn't get WLS.

I see your point also and curiosity is normal, no problem! However, I have had to stop being around people, one or two of which I believed to be friends of mine for comments like "you lost so much weight, you bitch!" Or "wow you look great, I hate you so much!". I realize these things were said in jest but I'm on a new path in my life and negativity will not be part of it. Just sayin..

Thanks hun ????

I am so pleased to say that Jan 5 marked my one month surgiversary and I am down 24 lbs from my surgery day weight of 219 lbs ( currently 195 lbs). But the real kicker is my starting weight pre op was 242 lbs so total lost is 47 lbs , yessss. Also, my birthday was Jan 5 as well and I am a beautiful 39 years young may I add. So excited and looking forward to more success in near future. My goal is 150 lbs. motivation is on point to reach it.

It gets some getting used to but don't cheat. It's well worth it. I had my surgery 5/29/15.
I only had Protein Shakes, egg whites
 

I wear a Bipap and a full face that's what woke me up to because all of a sudden I had Fluid in my mask. I ordered some Calcium chews, I haven't started any of those yet I was waiting for my 1 week appt. Wednesday to ask but maybe I'll call up there. Luckily I don't have the burning. Sent from my SM-G935V using the BariatricPal App

Also I too only drink clear noncarbonated or sugered fluids, mainly Water. And my program is bland, so I'm not sure where the burning acid coming from. I asked my surgeon and he said to take antacids but I kind of would like to know why it happens as I sleep with a cpap machine and it makes the acid come up through my nose.
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Sorry but everything Alex said is true! There have been a few posters on here that even though they may provide some good information their tone and demeanor on here is downright inexcusable... Acting like they are gods gift to Bariatric patients... As he states in the rules this is a safe place and no one should be talked down to for doing this and that. I am fortunate to have a medical background and know the rules and what could happen and all that jazz. But some of these posters even though their questions about doing/eating this and that may sound "dumb" the truth is they most likely really don't know better hence why they're asking for advice on a support page. (Health literacy... look it up). This then turns into a viscous cycle of others commenting and putting them on blast when really they don't know better and probably think they are making decent choices. These posters need help and education, not to be scrutinized by bully tactics. This is your own personal journey and what works for one person may not work for another and just because you deviate from one persons plan doesn't mean your a failure or going to fail. Pretty sure none of these people are credentialed to be giving out medical advise anyways. I have been personally very successful in my WLS journey and you better believe if I posted some of the things I have done I would've received backlash from posters on here...even though everything I've done is on MY plan. It just may not be on others, therefore with these posters mentality I would be wrong.. and fail... and everything else they like to say if you don't follow their rules. Anyways that is my little rant. Happy Saturday
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it's a petty and cheap shot to denigrate this site for commercial gain. Why would anyone expect free apps and message boards and no way for those pulling it together a way to profit? Also, I would trust a hospital abroad more knowing it's been vetted. So what if there is financial gain. That's what keeps the world spinning.
I hate to see so many people upset and the "mass" exodus. But people have not been treated right on this board since I have been here by some. I have no doubt that many people don't feel welcome or safe to ask questions without ridicule. We should all recognize that many people with weight issues that get us to a point of surgery are more fragile than most.

I won't be deleting any accounts. You are more than welcome to unsubscribe from our emails and go your merry way.
The straw that broke the camels back was a group of weight loss surgeons, bariatric psychologists, and other integrated health members that approached me recently at a weight loss surgery conference I was attending. They said they love suggesting BariatricPal to their patients but were very concerned about some bullying that was taking place. They didn't feel it was a "safe" place for their patients. Many of our members ended up becoming overweight because of the bullying and trauma they had suffered earlier on in life. It's quite sickening that they should be required to re-live the same trauma while seeking "support" online!
I opened up an investigation a few weeks ago and what I discovered was nauseating. There are hundreds of private messages between some members that discuss strategy on how to bully or make fun of other members that disagree with them publicly. At the end of the day, we're an online support group and everyone needs to learn how to play nice. If you can't abide by the rules, you're not welcome here.
If this was about $, I'd keep things status quo and wouldn't ruffle any feathers. I promised myself that 2017 would be an awesome one for the BariatricPal community and our members. If you're not happy with my decision, you are more than welcome to follow the members I banned to the other online communities that are readily available to you.

@@47NHeaven the first year you will lose a lot of weight so take advantage and work out as much as u can this is were u loose most of ur weight eat healthy try not to cheat and eat to many carbs stick to your diet and soon enough you will lose all the weight good luck on your journey it's worth it and congrats
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me before surgery. 256 pounds. me at 200, last month. me feeling awesome! I was able to stand up that day for almost an hour straight. Which before after about 10 minutes I had to sit down or my back would spasm and my knees but shift out of the socket. P.s. I'm 5 ft tall, was 256 and carried 80% of my weight in my abdomen, lol so there you go. You all inspire me on the daily!
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Hey Amy, you look AWESOME!!!!!In a mere three months time, you have totally transformed yourself!
Great job! You ROCK!!!
Don't look back, turn the page, and let your next chapter begin!

me before surgery. 256 pounds. me at 200, last month. me feeling awesome! I was able to stand up that day for almost an hour straight. Which before after about 10 minutes I had to sit down or my back would spasm and my knees but shift out of the socket. P.s. I'm 5 ft tall, was 256 and carried 80% of my weight in my abdomen, lol so there you go. You all inspire me on the daily!
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me before surgery. 256 pounds. me at 200, last month. me feeling awesome! I was able to stand up that day for almost an hour straight. Which before after about 10 minutes I had to sit down or my back would spasm and my knees but shift out of the socket. P.s. I'm 5 ft tall, was 256 and carried 80% of my weight in my abdomen, lol so there you go. You all inspire me on the daily!
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Damn girl!!!! #weightlossgoals ....I'm 3 months out, down 56 lbs. I wish more people would post pics like you did! Its very inspiring!
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me before surgery. 256 pounds. me at 200, last month. me feeling awesome! I was able to stand up that day for almost an hour straight. Which before after about 10 minutes I had to sit down or my back would spasm and my knees but shift out of the socket. P.s. I'm 5 ft tall, was 256 and carried 80% of my weight in my abdomen, lol so there you go. You all inspire me on the daily!
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me before surgery. 256 pounds. me at 200, last month. me feeling awesome! I was able to stand up that day for almost an hour straight. Which before after about 10 minutes I had to sit down or my back would spasm and my knees but shift out of the socket. P.s. I'm 5 ft tall, was 256 and carried 80% of my weight in my abdomen, lol so there you go. You all inspire me on the daily!
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