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Has anyone been trying out all the varieties of Protein Drinks, and Soups?
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Wow, people this forum had me in tears after reading all the posts. I am new here and i can understand that you guys are frustrated with people getting the surgery and still asking about bad foods. I seen a post yesterday where someone educated another on it, and i thought to my self this is where i need to be. I was so grateful that i came across this site it was just what i was looking for. Somewhere i could ask all my questions and not be judged for being super morbidly obese. As i explained in one of my first post i am not that savvy when it comes to social media had not been able to figure out what is what heck just a few min. before reading this forum i found the the rules of posting, but i was not going to let that stop me since i had finally found some people to help me. I come from a small small town i have to travel to see my surgeon and anyone else that is going through the same thing i will be going through. I am very shy and have so much trouble making friends due to the weight and because i have no room for face book in life it is like i have nothing to offer. i'm sure some of you old timers can remember what that was like or can you? It seems to me that some of you have forgotten what it was like to be the newbie. Good for those that did the research before asking questions i did that research too but i thought by asking questions it would open up some type of conversation but yall are to tired for that. I seen earlier a post from someone who quit because they felt they were being attacked now i can see why they felt that way i asked one of the no no questions and got some burn back from someone. I was still okay with it brushed it off. However now i see that some of those that answered me are on this same forum one thank you for taking the time out of your wonderful to busy lives to deal with newbies to grace me with an answer. Sorry i bothered yall. I pray never to be at the same level as yall, and god grant me the patience to help those that need me. I hope you guys continue to lose and be happy. As for me ill keep my log in only for the store but ill seek advice somewhere else.

So here is **MY** "problem with the above statements...
A newbie asks if if they can have tacos 5 days post op.
If I say, "No. That's a really bad idea.", some readers get it and run with it. Some get pissed because I didn't say, "Awww...baby girl....I know you really really really want them delishhhhhussss tacos and I did too. It's so incredibly difficult to be in your shoes and everyone in the world should eat mushy brown stuff while you acclimate to your new feelings and surroundings. If you do choose to eat a taco, or bite, chew and spit, you will be OK. If you do it just this once, I get it, I did it too...."
If I say, "Check with your surgeon.", some readers will get it and run with it. Some get pissed because I didn't say, "Awww...baby girl...I know you really want them dellliiiissshhhhhusss tacos and I did too. I know you don't want to talk to your surgeon because you just want to hear it's ok, so go ahead, just this once. I am sure you will be JUUUUUUUUST fine."
If I say, "Sure! Do it! Have at it.", I'm sarcastic.
Many of us Vets can't win because we can't read minds. Many of us don't care that we can't read minds, either, we just go with option A or B and get blasted because we actually give a sh^t about the reader and those lurking. If that makes me a monster, so be it.
Yes, we all have different experiences, but we also have different personalities and learning styles. Some choose to be optimistic through our journey, good and bad, some choose to play victim, some choose to work harder and patiently through stalls, some choose to blame the surgeon, some choose to respond to point blank answers, some choose to respond well to warm fuzzy... Some choose to follow their doctor's plans, others choose to eat tacos, steaks, candy and ice cream. It's human nature.
It's not my problem if you choose to read snarky or sarcasm or mean or grumpy or disgruntled into a response that was not written that way or not. My words are MY words, how you choose to interpret them? Out of my control.
As for long standing jokes and commentary amongst the friendships that have grown here? Are those against the policies and procedures? I don't think so. Nor do I think they need to stop. Once they do, this site loses. Just because some choose not to incorporate themselves into one of the many cultures here, does not mean they should not exist.

Understandable .... but alot of newbies aren't dealt with carefully.
It's that age old debate.
Should you be more patient, more considerate, more kind, because you have been there done that?
The hardest part here is that every single person has a different experience. We are all under different bariatric plans, we are from all over the globe.
And what can happen is that someone google's a WLS question, this direct forum post comes up, they excitedly join and ask a question.
If they use the phone app, the search might not work, they might genuinely be exploring WLS by asking newbie questions.
I get that patience wears out, so why not just move on? Snarky comments are just a waste of energy. Alot of people might not "get" the "in jokes" between long standing groups.
I think a "vets" room is a great idea. Then they don't have to repeat themselves. But then I think sarcasm should be discouraged too.
I don't care if people are mean, cliquey, sarcastic. I also don't care if people ask stupid questions.
English might not be their first language, this might be their first google hit, they might be lonely, had their surgery in a foreign country and genuinely not fully understand their program, etc.
Previous poster is right though, this is the internet.
What do we expect?
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Wow! So sorry that we inconvenienced you all. Maybe I missed it but when I started on this site a month ago, I did not see a "how to" as far as asking questions. Maybe its time for some of the veterans to bow out... you have forgotten what it is like to be a newbie and to feel overwhelmed about this whole process not to mention the ton of information coming from all different sources. Some of you have forgotten what it is all about...if your bored with the questions...move along and don't waste your time. I thought it was great to be getting input from the "VIPs" and "Bariatric Legends" but I don't want a veteran who has forgotten where they came from.

I do understand why the vets "take a break" or leave altogether. This board tends to get redundant or repetitive and it's pretty annoying sometimes to see the same questions posed over and over and over and over and over and over and over and I've only been a member since June. I don't post a lot of questions because my career is based on educating cancer patients throughout their diagnosis, treatment and management of their condition. In other words I have to look up a lot of s h I t sometimes. Theres a lot of information out there and if you look even a little bit you'll find the answers you need.
I think we newbies come here wet behind the ears eager to soak up knowledge and find a happy medium between our old life and our new life. We are looking to connect with others with similar experiences and understand how others have managed. Over time we become more acclimated to the lifestyle, more understanding of what has to be done and why and hopefully less inclined to make the same mistakes that led us to need surgery in the first place. Then the newbies become the vets and the vets become more "normal" and so forth and so on.
I remember when I was in nursing school. I frequented a Forum for nurses. I was on that site almost everyday. When I finally became an RN I hung around for about a year and then--- I moved on. I had tapped out. Although I had not experienced everything-- I was better equipped to handle any situation that I encountered. I understood how to access my resources and I was doing well on my own. I offered advice and encouragement to other newbies but I had my co workers and nursing school buddies to share war stories with. I no longer needed the forum. I was no longer benefitting.
I find myself bypassing certain topics because there is not a lack of people willing to answer or comment. There is no need for me to answer grudgingly or hastily because I think someone lacks complete common sense. Let someone else have the floor.

The search function on this board is practically non functioning in the mobile version which is what I'm guessing most people use.
That said- if I'm sick of READING the same thing over and over, I can imagine how tiresome it must be to write out thoughtful responses repeatedly.
The board is poorly laid out. There are way too many sections. It's very confusing for a first time user. The FAQs and stickies exist, but are large and unwieldy.

New members know that they can google questions, but they are looking for advice from an experienced person. They are looking for the experts, not just random answers.

When you are burned out on answering questions, it is time to take a break and let others do the answering. What attracts people to a board is the ability to interact.

When everyone quits interacting and simply points to the search bar, then the board will cease to exist.

I got my date! 12\13\16!!

My date is 12/13/16. Worried, scared. I have to keep thinking positive thoughts!
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Got my date! 13th!
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I am getting excited and then begin to worry to much. At times I tell myself I can do this without the surgery but...NOT! I loose then gain, story of my life. I am at an age that being heavy puts my life at danger from many other diseases. I am glad I get to do Thanksgiving. My daughter leaves for Japan just after Christmas so this allows me to Celebrate one last time the old way. The next time I see her I will have had time to work on the new me.
I am interested in going on this journey with everyone in this group. It'll be nice to have the support, the woes me's to yippys!
Let the fun begin!!

My date is December 13...I would love to join too. I need the support of the group and would love to be involved with everyone's new life. Getting so excited, but scared!

December 20th. Is anyone else nervous? I'm so nervous, it's all I can think about.
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I am getting excited and then begin to worry to much. At times I tell myself I can do this without the surgery but...NOT! I loose then gain, story of my life. I am at an age that being heavy puts my life at danger from many other diseases. I am glad I get to do Thanksgiving. My daughter leaves for Japan just after Christmas so this allows me to Celebrate one last time the old way. The next time I see her I will have had time to work on the new me.
I am interested in going on this journey with everyone in this group. It'll be nice to have the support, the woes me's to yippys!
Let the fun begin!!

My date is December 13...I would love to join too. I need the support of the group and would love to be involved with everyone's new life. Getting so excited, but scared!

Gas pain is no joke guys other than that i think I am doing alright
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On the way to the hospital! I'm a nervous and mostly excited I think I can do this. In Need positive energy friends.
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