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my answer to this questions depends on the minute. I go from "omg I look hawt!" to" how do I hide x? ". To, no I can't possibly be this thin now...to...well you get it. 2 things I know...The scale lies ...the mirror lies...pictures do not. When i look in the mirror, 50% of the time I think I need to lose more. I saw pictures of myself this weekend at a wedding and finally realized that I 100% do not need to lose more and need to hold my weight right where it is. I looked slim, maybe even skinny in the pictures...it was a real shock to me. So I'm good where I am. Now I just need to maintain.

normal and it does get better. If you haven't already, try warming everything up. I had to drink even my water warm. it was the only way I could tolerate anything in the early days. You'll notice it improving week by week. I think I was 100% by 2-3 months, if not sooner.

what you are feeling is normal. Some people get the feelings of dread and depression and some do not. Just know and take to heart that it is usually temporary. Remember that we used to eat to soothe our feelings and now we cannot. Outside of the physical stress your body is under recovering from surgery that is huge! We need to find other ways to deal with stress (mine is shopping...don't follow in my footsteps ). You will adjust, you will heal. you will be on here in a couple of months saying you would do it again 10x over. that is the experience of the vast majority. I was a revision from a lap band and even knowing how the healing process goes, I still went through moments of feeling like "OMG I will be burping non stop for the rest of my life" (I'm not). or "I'll never be able to drink water again!" (drinking some now). I will tell you that on another board there is a 3 day post op patient spending his days reading horror stories and researching reversals. no complications, no issues...just extreme anxiety and buyers remorse. people are counseling him to get emotional therapeutic help because he is not thinking rationally and could do something that would actually harm him. You are doing 200x better by comparison. I sincerely hope he will get help. You will come out of this. This too shall pass.

#1 have you considered a dueodenal switch? if not, you may want to consider that. Sleeve is the first step in the switch and it has the best stats for long term weight loss, it iis what rny'ers switch to, if they aren't losing. as to cooking and healthy food choices i belong to a facebook group that is great support for that. https://www.facebook.com/groups/SleekandSassyNutrition/

You will love the Dexa scan. I do it every 3 months since April. I've dropped from obese to healthy since then and gained a bit of muscle. Next one in September.

Uh yeah, if you were ever that low then I would say odds of getting there or lower are high. My lowest ever was 142 (at lowest weight in high school and briefly in my 20's) . I'm 140 right now and I'm not sure I've stopped. I thought I had stopped at 148 end again 144. And yet here I sit at 140

actually most people experience their first stall in WEEK 3 not month 3. so congrats on delaying yours so long. Stalls are broken by doing nothing but sticking to plan and waiting them out.

You may want to try regular sizes now. in the mid 180's I was wearing size 12.

just google dexa scans for your area. I found one close to home..usually costs $100 and well worth every penny

what would be interesting is to monitor muscle mass after a switch to a lower protein diet. I do regular dexa scans and I have gained muscle (though I don' t work out) it is counter intuitive. but I chalk it up to my high protein intake. I plan to continue the dexa scans so if I drop my protein I'll let you know if it impacts muscle mass.

I like Dr Vuong's advice. Dr Weiner has a similar philosophy. if you like the gym go. work out if it is what you want to do, if you enjoy it. not to lose weight. If you find yourself stalling know that it may be that you aren't getting enough calories for your activity level. I was striving to be at 800 calories by 2 months, 900 by 3. I could not have worked out on those calories. Now I'm at 1250-1450. i fell like i can now start strength training. I hit a normal bmi at around 9 months with no gym...but i'm active naturally. I get in 10,000 steps a day. I like to kayak, bike ride. Now I am toying with the idea of strength training (something I can do at home).

need to up your calories way higher than that. I'm between 1300 and 1400 and don't work out and I'm still losing (slowly). You need to add in more carbs and maybe add an extra shake? easy not too filling carbs you can add are freeze dried berries. fat is going to be your best bang for your buck with calories. I added a 7th meal to get mine in..so your bed time shake may be the way to go. Yes at your height 160 should be about a size 4. I'm a size 4 at 140 but 4 inches shorter than you.

Band-RNY revision age 49 5'4" Starting weight: 260 Surgery weight: 244, Current weight 140.2 Pre-op-16lbs (size 18/20) M1-16lbs (size 18) M2-15.6lbs (size 16/18) M3-10lbs (size 16) M4-11.4lbs (size 14) M5-10.8lbs (size 12) M6-8.4 (size 8/10) M7-6.4 (size 8...165.4 lbs) M8-11.6 (size 6...153.8) M9-5.6 (size 4/6...148.2) M10-5.8 (size 4....142.4)

10 months out. About 120 lbs down

boobs were the last to go for me. as I lost my boobs just looked bigger and bigger...i went through a period of intense back pain and my mom warned me I may need another reduction. but once I got closer to a normal bmi they looked more in preportion to the rest of me. now I have rocks in socks

wow, my doc said he'll likely only remove about 85 grams of skin...be he tells me that I'm a c cup not a ddd (tell that to victoria's secret and every other bra company I've been to). I really really really don't want implants so I guess I'll end up with what i end up with. maybe he's just prepping me for the cup volume loss...though when I had a breast reduction 30 something years ago I was told I'd end up a c and I ended up a d/dd...so...I guess you never know. Looking forward to going bra less once in a while.

i'm not having a reduction, just a lift. so wondering how much you lose with just the skin removal. I've lost a lot of volume between the 36DDD stage and 32DDD. Right now, sometimes I can squeeze into a DD if the fabric is stretchy, but wondering if I'll end up a D or a DD or a C. At a 32DDD my cup size now is equivalent to a 36D so I'm good with my size now, but would be fine with one or two drops in cup size.

Curious as to how much people lost in cup size after a breast lift.

check out realself.com for before and afters. Generally, if you want a cosmetic result you will need a tummy tuck. My doctor said patients are often disappointed by panni only as it is just the apron removal. that is it. it is intended to resolve infections/mobility issues etc, not to improve cosmetic appearance.

I realize this may be too late. but i followed my doctor's advice and went bypass.

Sounds like orthostatic hypotension. I've had it for months. Have your blood pressure checked. I know mine this morning was 88/58. So pretty low. I drink 100oz a day, so not water. My doc said to increase salt and pump my legs before standing up. Mine has been pretty chronic. I get it all day long, when my blood pressure is really low I can get dizzy even sitting down. it is worse in the mornings because you are going from lying down to standing. Do it in stages...sit first, pump your legs and then stand up. im told it is very common in the first year post op and usual resolves by the end of year 2. Only your doctor can tell you for sure. upping your calories will not make a lick of difference if it is orthostatic hypotension caused by blood pressure fluctuations. Go to your doctor before making any major changes.

Totally. It is a ying and yang thing. I am an extrovert and a planner and like to be in charge of everything. My husband is a go with the flow kind of guy and is happy to let me make the decisions. It totally works. I'd be in constant conflict with someone like me. Also he is a kind and friendly guy who would probably be a lonely hermit if I didn't organize our social events.... Same with my other still married friends. I have a couple friends one is a banking consultant, she is high powered, non stop travels etc. Her hubby is laid back, not super career oriented takes care of things on the home front. She is so grateful for that. It allows her to pusue her dreams and he's happy too.

Depends on what stage things are at. My hubby didn't call me every day early on. But once we were "dating" a couple of weeks in...we talked to each other every day. I called him and or he called me. If you are at that stage and a woman doesn't like that it probably Means she wasn't that into you. My hubby still calls me every day at work to see how my day is going. We've been together 10 years.

The right answer is do what is right for you, you have to be yourself. Match is looking for an extrovert, her dating strategy is based on that because it works for her. I married an introvert...I'm an extrovert, and I know I mesh better with an introvert. there is no trick to it. You mesh or you don't. Match likes big gestures, to be wined and dined. I don't care about that stuff. Some women like stuffed animals and greeting cards and I think hey are juvenile. Bottom line a stuffies and greeting cards guy will mesh with a stuffies and greeting cards woman. The approach that feels right to you will work for someone who meshes with you. If you have an issue spending $150 on a date that may not work out then the quick coffee dates to assess a match are probably the better way to go. Ultimately you need to look for a match for you.

Same here. That's why activity dates were reserved for second or more dates. I'm with you on that..it is very awkward to have to sit though a date that is going nowhere. That is why I kept them coffee or after work drinks. Easy out to say i have to get back to work for a meeting or have dinner plans gotta go! You just need to keep at it. You will find someone you mutually click with. I find it is a bit of a numbers thing. It isn't you. Dating is hard. But you'll get into the swing. I ended up blogging about it. At the end of the day you wanted it to be a total disaster (great story) or preferably great (because that's why you are doing it).