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@@CVanPelt Surgery should qualify for sick leave. I would wait until you have a better idea of a date and then speak to HR about taking medical leave. Most places will require you to discharge all time accrued (even vacation) if you are out longer than the amount of sick time you have. I don't think you'll need more than 22 days though. It's always a good idea to request medical leave to protect your job during your absence - even if you think you'll be out 1-2 weeks. If there were any complications - you'd be okay to take more time off based on your surgeon's instructions.

It's an understandable fear.
Most of us had the same concerns.
Here's the thing.....It's likely gonna seem way more significant of an issue to you now....pre-op. Once you've had the surgery and are losing at an accelerated rate......everything seems to fall into place. You can decide then what to do. It's a done deal then.
Telling them ahead of time will give them time to each weigh in, pun intended, and talk you out of it....or give you a list of horror stories that their cousin's best friend's neighbor's uncle's car salesmen's wife had with her wls.
You've already told the folks that matter to you....the ones that you've planned this with. Everyone else will be reactionary after the fact. You'll be feeling so much better about everything by then that you'l decide with ease what say.
For me, it was easy. I started at a high BMI. I lost 55 on the work up to surgery.....and took 3 weeks off due to healing time for an abdominal hernia repair along with my VSG. I forget how much I'd lost that 3 weeks after work....but it was enough that folks were noticing and commenting. I planned on losing 200+ pounds in this first year and it was easy for me to be honest with them in stating that I had wls and was following a low carb diet. All of my coworkers knew of my back problems and understood why I was motivated to have the surgery. I've received nothing but positive comments and questions about the surgery. I've had several conversations with people who are very interested in the surgery for their own personal reasons. 3 of them are now entering my surgeon's bariatric program. One guy's daughter, another guy's wife and a young man is going in himself. I can't wait to see their relief once they take a seat on The Loser's Bench.

I had my surgery on June 7,2016 day of surgery weight was 235 starting weight was 252, today I'm at 196 and went from a size 20 to a size 13 !! I'm so excited , I have a lot more energy now, I haven't been in this size since I was 18. I still have ways to go to get to my goal weight, but I'm happy with how far I have come. It's been tough, but worth it. 
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That's awesome Jamie! I just had dinner with someone who had the full gastric bypass and after dinner I realized that she seemed "normal". She ate and drank at a rate that didn't really stand out, she ate less. Made me feel better after noticing that I didn't notice her during dinner lol
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The main thing I wish I had known before my surgery is that all of the little things that are causing you stress and anxiety are going to be inconsequential in a couple of years. I'm now almost two years post-op and all of my pre-op worries amounted to nothing. All of my post-op panic and discomfort and concern that I would never feel "normal" again is just a distant memory. All of my frustration over how slowly the scale was moving seems so irrelevant now. I have been maintaining below goal for over a year. How fast I got there turned out not to matter in the slightest!

I'm not sure if I should post this in the post-op section but I'm probably 2 months from surgery and I am wondering if there are things people wish they knew before the surgery. Any foods you thought you could eat that you can't? Amount of pain, discomfort, or fatigue?
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I think she is referencing no drinking 30 min before and after eating. Makes it harder to get all liquids in.

What's the 30/30 rule? I'm new
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I needed some inspiration to get me through some cravings and a bit of weight gain these last two weeks and this really helped!
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I needed some inspiration to get me through some cravings and a bit of weight gain these last two weeks and this really helped!
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Hello group,
I just finished my 6 month weight loss diet with my Dr and I'm down 40lbs! So excited to continue this journey. My biggest fear is telling people. My family all know I am working towards the sleeve and I told a few friends years ago that I wanted surgery. Now I work in a small office where durastic weight loss will be noticed and I don't want to deal with judgements from some of my skinny-mini coworkers... Any advice on telling them? Or ways to avoid telling them?
Thanks!
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I needed some inspiration to get me through some cravings and a bit of weight gain these last two weeks and this really helped!
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I needed some inspiration to get me through some cravings and a bit of weight gain these last two weeks and this really helped!
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Hello group,
I just finished my 6 month weight loss diet with my Dr and I'm down 40lbs! So excited to continue this journey. My biggest fear is telling people. My family all know I am working towards the sleeve and I told a few friends years ago that I wanted surgery. Now I work in a small office where durastic weight loss will be noticed and I don't want to deal with judgements from some of my skinny-mini coworkers... Any advice on telling them? Or ways to avoid telling them?
Thanks!
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Don't tell them if you're not comfortable. You have already lost 40lbs pre-surgery - just go along as though you are eating healthy and exercising! That's the truth.

I just tried to quit diet sodas cold turkey and I crave sweets and high calorie foods like a mad woman! I almost gave in and had a soda last night. Still drank coffee this morning
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