TinyLittleFractures

Go back to your nutritionalist and the surgeon for a plan that's suited to your surgery. You have other tools. Use those tools instead of one that is not really designed for your surgically modified body.

I know your in post-op now. I hope you see this when you're up for it and now we wished you well

If I were in your position I'd also schedule a session with my nutritionist. Bring food journals. What you were eating while losing, what you were eating while maintaining, and what you want to be eating so you can make a game plan. The nutritionalist is a big tool and not utilizing him or her might be a mistake. It might be you're not hitting your proteins while overdoing it on carbs, based on activity level. Schedule a session or two with a trainer, find a sport or activity you like. The pouch reset is a good first step, but there are tools and options you can try to move things along

1 year old. My only regret is not doing it sooner and getting more of my life back.

Bad decision. If you're retaining water you need to know. It's a sign of infection. I get the psychological stuff is hard, but you're supposed to be working through that with the help of a therapist before the surgery. The scale is a tool and deciding not to use it because of mental road blocks might be detrimental to your health.

You need to start moving forward regardless of what other people want. It's hard and it's uphill, but some of the resistance goes away after it's done. keep asking if they want you to live a long healthy life.

You look wonderful! Congratulations

Take a week off the gym. You can do active things like go for walks, but don't do much more than that.

I think if the relationship is wrong those problems become more self-evident as you lose weight. It shifts the dynamic around and brings things that have always been there to the surface. If your relationship is strong and balanced then there's nothing here that's going to shake it. (And by balanced I don't mean 50/50 on everything. Balanced means supporting each other and understanding that things have to tip 80/20 sometimes without the world falling apart.)

It's so hard to give advice because we all get different instructions. There's some core principles, but the specifics are harder. My protein goal was always between 80-100 grams per day. 60 seems low. More cottage cheese and eggs, soft food high in protein, if the goal is too hard to get to

I agree with gently letting go of the top couple of sizes. You can donate to a charity of your preference or sell to a consignment store. You should make your life in and closer to your current size. Just because a lovely dress was on sale in a size ten doesn't mean you'd buy it right?

honestly! you were pretty adorable in the first picture. The second is better because you look happier, like more engaged with the picture and whoever is taking it. As for your family, sounds like mindless lashing out because you're succeeding where they failed. They don't mean to be discouraging -- at least not most of them consciously. Ignore it and breeze on.

Sometimes EKGs can be wrong. If they leads are not placed correctly. A left bundle branch is not a big deal. If anything is seriously wrong the mandated stress tests will reveal it long before surgery.

I wouldn't sweat it so much. Get what you can in and don't push yourself on eating. Fluids are most important. Try like Atkins Lift, which is a clear protein drink

I eat it whenever my friends go out. They know if I'm going we're going for sushi and I'm getting sashimi. Our vegan friend has some avocado and cucumber rolls and everyone is happy. I love Indian but everything is pretty carb-loaded and in heavy butter sauces.

You look amazing! When was your surgery?

It's adorable and sounds very sincere. I like the bit about mashed potatoes being lethal post surgery. I'm glad you're happy with the surgery and your weight loss. I'm even happier you're happy.

I honestly didn't really worry too much about my protein intake on the puree food. I got down a shake if I could, a little cottage cheese, but if I wasn't up for it I didn't push myself. I built up to my protein goal as I healed and at the one month mark when I got cleared to start the gym I was hitting it every day.

@@Thucydides Amazing results. Congratulations. You are some wonderful, happy news.

Tracking what you eat is the best starting place. You need to focus. Try not to graze all day if you are because you will eat straight around your sleeve. Set yourself up for three meals a day and supplement with a Protein shake if you're starving at some point in between. I think a lot of people get their lunches and stuff down by eating it over the course of several hours. If you're done eating, be done. Keto will focus you. I also agree you should begin exercising if you have not. Weights, cardio. I do an hour of cardio 6 to 7 days per week. I work with a trainer for four.

You've got some great advice above. I think you should go back and be more honest with the psychologist. I also think you need to sit your family down and tell them the kitchen is closed. You will not be preparing one healthy meal for yourself and high carb foods for them. End of Discussion. You are not a chef. You do not have to torture yourself with preparing meals you cannot partake in. Either they will learn to cook or they will get with the program -- either way you will be better off because you won't have to handle and be around what they want to eat. Families need to support each other. Yours is not only being less than supportive but actually helping derail you with their needs. Additionally, I'd tell the husband no more cruises. Go on vacations centered around activities you want to do or places you want to see. A cruise ship is like a cattle ship, shuffling people around between giant, salt laden meals. I think part of your problem is you want everyone to be happy. You need a little bit of the 'do no harm but take no shit approach.' Telling them to cook for themselves does no harm and is a nice balance of take no shit.

I agree that it's possible to lose more, but I've also read that these calculators are usually accurate to the pound for the majority of compliant patients. Less compliant patients have less results, meaning that for a lot of people getting beyond that number is more a matter of going the extra mile rather than just following plan.

I forced myself to use that as much as I could before surgery. After surgery the nurses woke me up a few times because my pulse ox dropped. (It was highly annoying as I was extremely uncomfortable and trying to sleep off the drugs.) They did nothing to set up the CPAP machine that I was told to bring with me or risk not having surgery. When I got home from the hospital I never touched it again. A month later I packed it up and signed off on medical non-compliance. I couldn't live with it unfortunately. It felt like a torture device and scared the dogs.

Congratulations to both of you. @JamieLogical. That is a really great question. I'm rereading to see if it specifies, but I'm not seeing that information anywhere.

A lot of people in relationships end up single because the relationship cannot withstand the vast amount of change people in our situations are going through. Relationships sometimes involve a lot of food we can't eat -- dinner dates that just won't fly anymore. You have to spend a lot of time getting active and that might cut into tv time with your significant other. You're also going to feel a lot better about yourself, more aware of your value as a person, and you're going to take less shit. The dynamics change and sometimes people end up divorced. In your case I think you'll be rid of someone who wasn't that great for you.