justhere4theshow

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On one hand I think it is important for people to know that they can have a "normal" life long term post-op. I eat out. I don't eat crap but I eat out. Like for example there is a sandwich place near my office. I order the Italian beef, they put it in a cup with Au Jus and cheese for me. So yeah I'm eating out but there are zero carbs there.
My issue with that post is that person is not even going to try and lead a healthy life at all. They are right back on the trash peasant food wagon as soon as they get a chance. Then 6 to 9 months from now they will be posting how RNY failed them, and they regret surgery, never lost weight and can't get back on track. Well it is pretty much impossible to get back on track when you never started on track.
I don't like those posts, but it reminds me of how much I have accomplished by changing my attitude towards food and also how easy it is to slide back into old habits if you don't change your attitude about food.
So let those posts keep coming. You can find knowledge and victory in other peoples failures.
I have an associate that had RNY (I feel like RNY people are the least compliant post op, they think malabsorption is going to save them forever), she lost a lot of weight the first year. Then she stopped losing. She NEVER changed her attitude about food. Kept going out to eat all the time with her family, she just ate less. She never cooked. Never learned nutrition. She started out super morbidly obese, but she is still obese now, her BMI is such she would still qualify for surgery right now today and she over 4 years post-op. Her failure at using her tool properly and learning was my guide on what not to do.
So let people make fools of themselves and learn from their mistakes. You can't save everyone, just worry about yourself.

You need to get therapy for your food issues, or you're going to fail.
I'm not saying this to be harsh. It's simply the truth. You can eat around any surgery. You shouldn't be trying to learn how to do it. Instead, try to learn how to not want to.
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@@justhere4theshow yes, i've made them aware of time constraints. i may have gotten through to them finally! i have an appointment to get fitted for one Tuesday morning.

I allowed myself to be provoked more than once when I first came to BP. Now I just read the feisty stuff whilst sitting on my hands...it's not worth the Cortisol and the resulting belly fat to get involved. I do find really good information when I look past the petty stuff.

I allowed myself to be provoked more than once when I first came to BP. Now I just read the feisty stuff whilst sitting on my hands...it's not worth the Cortisol and the resulting belly fat to get involved. I do find really good information when I look past the petty stuff.

If we all woke up from surgery skinny, fit from workouts, without sagging skin and without the need for Vitamins and life long check ups, then yes, I could see how wls could be considered an easy way out.
We all have to endure surgery, recovery, possible complications, liquid diets, learning what we can eat, exercise, track all food and liquids, cut back on social drinking, possible endure corrective surgery and recovery and finally maintain all that we accomplished, with the work WE did.
So yeah, go ahead, call us lazy. We are saving money, since we can cut back on meds. We did this so we can be productive members of society, instead of couch potatoes. We can take care of our elderly family members etc.
I'm proud that I had the courage to have this surgery. I still don't tell everyone I know about it, since it's my personal medical desicion. If someone asks or is thinking about having the surgery, I will be happy to explain and tell my story. My obese friends know about it, because they might benefit from seeing me do it. The skinny people in my life don't need the info, so why should I tell them?
I don't agree that it is my obligation to educate people, just because they are curious.
My friend was born transgender and she told me that she was having corrective surgery and started living as her tru self. I don't need to know the specifics or see the results of her surgery. I'm simply happy for her that she is now able to be herself and I can see the huge improvement in her everyday life.
Nilla

I continue to be shocked--although less and less as time goes on--at how rude and hateful some people can be. Do what you want, eat what you want, and you'll end up right where you started: fat (and maybe dead). If you spend all your time on the internet getting advice from strangers, you might want to re-evaluate some things. It's one thing to start an open discussion in the spirit of sharing and voicing your own experience, but it's quite another to get on here so you can judge and berate people. I have switched from looking to this forum for support and learning to reading the various nonsense and BS purely for entertainment.

I allowed myself to be provoked more than once when I first came to BP. Now I just read the feisty stuff whilst sitting on my hands...it's not worth the Cortisol and the resulting belly fat to get involved. I do find really good information when I look past the petty stuff.

I allowed myself to be provoked more than once when I first came to BP. Now I just read the feisty stuff whilst sitting on my hands...it's not worth the Cortisol and the resulting belly fat to get involved. I do find really good information when I look past the petty stuff.

We are getting a new Dunkin Donuts about 2 miles from our house. (They are everywhere here too) My husband is losing his mind waiting for them to finish it, lol. We love the coffee, but no donuts for either of us

As long as you're not running toward the "hot donuts now" light (do you have Krispy Kreme where you are?) I'd say you're okay. Enjoy!

I allowed myself to be provoked more than once when I first came to BP. Now I just read the feisty stuff whilst sitting on my hands...it's not worth the Cortisol and the resulting belly fat to get involved. I do find really good information when I look past the petty stuff.

@@Odie I couldn't agree more!

I allowed myself to be provoked more than once when I first came to BP. Now I just read the feisty stuff whilst sitting on my hands...it's not worth the Cortisol and the resulting belly fat to get involved. I do find really good information when I look past the petty stuff.

As long as you're not running toward the "hot donuts now" light (do you have Krispy Kreme where you are?) I'd say you're okay. Enjoy!

I allowed myself to be provoked more than once when I first came to BP. Now I just read the feisty stuff whilst sitting on my hands...it's not worth the Cortisol and the resulting belly fat to get involved. I do find really good information when I look past the petty stuff.

HAHA I just figured that out. Love it.

As long as you're not running toward the "hot donuts now" light (do you have Krispy Kreme where you are?) I'd say you're okay. Enjoy!

As long as you're not running toward the "hot donuts now" light (do you have Krispy Kreme where you are?) I'd say you're okay. Enjoy!

@@Odie I couldn't agree more!

@LittleBill... I need a hint, whats the first letter?

We are getting a new Dunkin Donuts about 2 miles from our house. (They are everywhere here too) My husband is losing his mind waiting for them to finish it, lol. We love the coffee, but no donuts for either of us

@@Odie I couldn't agree more!

No Krispy Kreme around here, but you can't swing a dead cat without hitting a couple of Dunkin Donuts. I am in there a bunch of times a week, but only for the coffee. In days past, I would eat a bunch of donuts, or even their sammiches. But I am reformed now.

As long as you're not running toward the "hot donuts now" light (do you have Krispy Kreme where you are?) I'd say you're okay. Enjoy!