Candygyrl

I checked back to see how you guys are coming along... @diamondchic there is no best insurance.... i have bcbs through my husband's employer. The surgery was covered 100% no out of pocket expense.
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Sliming is an uncomfortable reaction to your sleeve getting full or eating too fast. One bite too many you may feel like the food is "stuck" in your chest or like something is in your throat. Accompanied by excessive saliva and mucous production and you may feel the need or want to vomit. This may last for about 15-30 min until the food has had more time to digest into the small intestine.
Moral of this story. We don't want to get full. Please measure your food and take the entire 30 minutes to eat it. This is why they tell you to take small bites, and chew thoroughly before swallowing. Put the fork down, do something to distract yourself read a book, magazine, health article, play a game whatever and then repeat. Sometimes we get little signals like hiccups, or burping to let us know it's time to tap out but everyone is different. We don't get full in the traditional sense and we don't want to fill our sleeve to capacity.

Thank you so much for your great answer. So far he hasn't made any comments about how much (or little lol) I am eating when go out to dinner. Our conversation and dates seem to be focusing on the positive things, like us discussing how we eat (we both eat similar - no carbs/lots of protein) and going to the gym and what we do and our dates tend to end up being loooong walks- which has been amazing.
I am still amazed how much doing this has changed my life for the better. I wish I had done my surgery years ago

Thanks I was going to post updates by the grace of God she is doing well. She is very stable! She is talking, laughing, eating, She just transferred to rehab on Friday afternoon. So she's getting lots of physical therapy to rebuild her strength after being on a ventilator and drug induced coma for almost 2 weeks. Thanks again for all those concerned! Sent from my SM-G900P using the BariatricPal App

Im officially 5 months post op!! Down 70+ lbs with 40 to gooooooo. But i don't think I want to lose another 40 anymore Maybe another 15 or 20...
Wanted to drop a few pics...Sorry they are sideways!!! I don't know how to fix
SW 253.6
CW 182.4
GW 135-140 (40-45 MORE lbs to go more)
Revised goal weight 160-165 (20-25 more lbs to go)
Pic #1 is me last night before i went out
#2 me last month 4 months post op. At the amusement park with my fam
#3 is me and my puffy face on my bday last year. my aha moment that something had to change
#4 me and another night out pre surgery
#5 me again on my birthday full body

I know this is an old topic.. but for some of us it's somewhat flattering to get hit on. It's a sign that we've still got it right? So I was one of those people who said... "I don't notice much difference".
Anyways for me its starting. Like 2 weeks ago I had an attractive guy stop me and ask if I were married etc I happily said yes and kept walking. Guys are going out of their way to make eye contact with me to say hello. Or spark conversations or tell me I'm attractive. I do see the difference. It reminds me of the way it used to be but I guess its been so long-- and I was getting hit on in a different way so I guess to me it was the same except its not.
Its bittersweet. Yet I feel good about the rediscovered attention. How do or did you handle the attention? How did it make you feel when you started to receive it? Also I've been itching to go out. The other day I went to a local comedy night by myself. As I was being seated in the club, a girl invited me to join her and her friends in their booth. We had a good time and took selfies and I just felt--- I guess included.
Did any of you experience increased attention inclusion or acceptance from people in general?? Do you feel good about it? Or the opposite? p

I know this is an old topic.. but for some of us it's somewhat flattering to get hit on. It's a sign that we've still got it right? So I was one of those people who said... "I don't notice much difference".
Anyways for me its starting. Like 2 weeks ago I had an attractive guy stop me and ask if I were married etc I happily said yes and kept walking. Guys are going out of their way to make eye contact with me to say hello. Or spark conversations or tell me I'm attractive. I do see the difference. It reminds me of the way it used to be but I guess its been so long-- and I was getting hit on in a different way so I guess to me it was the same except its not.
Its bittersweet. Yet I feel good about the rediscovered attention. How do or did you handle the attention? How did it make you feel when you started to receive it? Also I've been itching to go out. The other day I went to a local comedy night by myself. As I was being seated in the club, a girl invited me to join her and her friends in their booth. We had a good time and took selfies and I just felt--- I guess included.
Did any of you experience increased attention inclusion or acceptance from people in general?? Do you feel good about it? Or the opposite? p

I love @@Bufflehead comment. I think I'm going to copy and paste that to my life and incorporate that into my explanations. Anyways I understand the concern and the frustration. I wouldn't worry about thanksgiving people are so busy talking and doing everything else they don't hardly pay attention to whats on your plate. I keep myself busy by helping with setup and fixing plates for the older family members. By the time I start eating most will be on their 2nd and 3rd plates. LOL!

When your Co Workers just stare lolol

When you look forward to deciding what to wear to work because it is so much fun now. I actually woke up early to do this the other day. When you take selfies just because you like the way you look now. I hated taking pictures of myself before. When you love clothes/shoe shopping again. Before it was depressing and something I dreaded. I'm only half way to where I think I will be. But having a BLAST!

@@GSleeve822
I never crossed my legs really, even when I wasn't large. Now all I do is cross and un-cross my legs to the point I am annoying myself. I love it, It is comfortable and when I do it with a dress on I feel super sexy.

I know this is an old topic.. but for some of us it's somewhat flattering to get hit on. It's a sign that we've still got it right? So I was one of those people who said... "I don't notice much difference".
Anyways for me its starting. Like 2 weeks ago I had an attractive guy stop me and ask if I were married etc I happily said yes and kept walking. Guys are going out of their way to make eye contact with me to say hello. Or spark conversations or tell me I'm attractive. I do see the difference. It reminds me of the way it used to be but I guess its been so long-- and I was getting hit on in a different way so I guess to me it was the same except its not.
Its bittersweet. Yet I feel good about the rediscovered attention. How do or did you handle the attention? How did it make you feel when you started to receive it? Also I've been itching to go out. The other day I went to a local comedy night by myself. As I was being seated in the club, a girl invited me to join her and her friends in their booth. We had a good time and took selfies and I just felt--- I guess included.
Did any of you experience increased attention inclusion or acceptance from people in general?? Do you feel good about it? Or the opposite? p

Thanks I was going to post updates by the grace of God she is doing well. She is very stable! She is talking, laughing, eating, She just transferred to rehab on Friday afternoon. So she's getting lots of physical therapy to rebuild her strength after being on a ventilator and drug induced coma for almost 2 weeks. Thanks again for all those concerned! Sent from my SM-G900P using the BariatricPal App

Girrrrrl.???? I'm so sorry you have to deal with that BS I would never dispespect your husband so I'll just say this... he's jealous and insecure. Everybody else can't be wrong! You are looking good and will only continue to look even better! He will become more insecure and try to tear you down. Dont allow it! You need to be very matter of fact with him not during arguments though. I love you but the way you speak to me is intolerable. You really hurt me when you say things like (fill in the blanks) it makes me feel like you don't value me, like your unattracted to me and most importantly unloved. Well I love me! I think I am beautiful and I have plenty to offer. I chose wls after years of trying- to lose weight so for me this was the hard way. So just think that and if you think you might prefer to be with the swimming instructor good luck to ya! Sent from my SM-G900P using the BariatricPal App

Im officially 5 months post op!! Down 70+ lbs with 40 to gooooooo. But i don't think I want to lose another 40 anymore Maybe another 15 or 20...
Wanted to drop a few pics...Sorry they are sideways!!! I don't know how to fix
SW 253.6
CW 182.4
GW 135-140 (40-45 MORE lbs to go more)
Revised goal weight 160-165 (20-25 more lbs to go)
Pic #1 is me last night before i went out
#2 me last month 4 months post op. At the amusement park with my fam
#3 is me and my puffy face on my bday last year. my aha moment that something had to change
#4 me and another night out pre surgery
#5 me again on my birthday full body

Thanks for the article @@BigViffer just saw this but I think it will make a difference going forward
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Im officially 5 months post op!! Down 70+ lbs with 40 to gooooooo. But i don't think I want to lose another 40 anymore Maybe another 15 or 20...
Wanted to drop a few pics...Sorry they are sideways!!! I don't know how to fix
SW 253.6
CW 182.4
GW 135-140 (40-45 MORE lbs to go more)
Revised goal weight 160-165 (20-25 more lbs to go)
Pic #1 is me last night before i went out
#2 me last month 4 months post op. At the amusement park with my fam
#3 is me and my puffy face on my bday last year. my aha moment that something had to change
#4 me and another night out pre surgery
#5 me again on my birthday full body

That's amazing! You look great!!!
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I kind of know what you mean. I'm 163 now and feel like my clothes fit different from when I was 150 or so. Are you working out? Doing squats and lunges will help keep your booty only it'll be nice and firm.

I swear you and I were separated at birth girl! Lol. I know exactly what you mean. I know that I have read that surgery resets your metabolism, so I am curious if this is why it also changes the way we have lost weight vs how we have lost it in the past. I have yoyo dieted for years and as I was losing weight and hitting certain goals--my body and how my weight is distributed is way tinier than it has been in the past. I am currently bouncing back and forth between 145-147 and I am in some 6's mostly 8's. In the past , I would have been struggling to get a size 10 over my thighs just to wear a belt around my waist to compensate. My legs/thighs are skinny and I have never had skinny legs , even when I was young and naturally skinny. I'm definitely not complaining, it's nice to actually be able to wear clothes off the rack without having them taken in because I had to buy a size up to compensate my butt and thighs. I did end up stopping my weight loss phase and moving to maintenance at a little bit higher weight because I was smaller at this weight than I had anticipated. I guess it's a good problem for us to have lol I wear slight control top boy short style underwear just because I feel like they push my booty up a little bit. I am going on vacation soon where I will be wearing some halter maxi dresses and body con dresses and I plan on ordering some of those butt enhancing underwear that have the butt out ( like the infamous Prince pants). My girlfriend ordered some off Ebay and they really lifted her butt up and made it fuller! And they come down on the thighs to hold that all in nice and tight too.

I mentioned it before, but I just want to reiterate: Be careful with "personal trainers". Some are just gym rats and meatheads that attended a seminar while others actually have an education. If the trainer has a background in physical therapy, then I would say go for it. If they have no significant credentials, be prepared for overly sore muscles, poor technique, and supplement sales pitches.
Also, remember than all machines are isolation exercises. You will not be training your body in a real world method. Leg presses are good for those people that literally cannot perform the physical motion of a squat for any number of reasons. If you can get into a proper squat position with a broom stick across your back, then you are better off doing that than 50lbs on a leg press machine. Here is a great blog article about the squat:
https://overld.me/2014/07/28/stop-the-press/
Near the end, the guy does mention that the press is still a valid exercise for the beginner or the advanced lifter. But it is a distant second to the squat.

@@Candygyrl We're both June surgeries, I think, and I do understand what you're saying. I've gained and lost the same 50/75 pounds over and over and over and over...and this is the first time the weight has come off the way it's happening now. I usually lose weight in my face, arms and stomach, with my butt and legs grudgingly releasing a few pounds, but never an amount in proportion with the rest of my body. THIS TIME, the first thing to go was my upper back fat, then my belly, but also my thighs, calves and butt. I've always had a generous, high-profile butt and it's disappearing. I'm not as pleased by that as I expected to be...it's nice to hear from someone else that they're feeling the same. And my upper arms! I have wings now, and I think if I'd lost that weight a bit slower maybe they wouldn't be so, flappy?, for lack of a better word.
I had to have an unexpected shoulder surgery in September and it's really impacted my ability to go to the gym and do strength training. I really think that's key for us women who want to keep our butts/thighs looking healthy. I just got cleared to start doing leg and ab machines, I'm hoping some weighted squats and leg presses will help build more prominent muscle in those areas so I don't end up with a pancake butt
Otherwise, congratulations to you...it's been fun being on this trip with a few names I see over and over, watching us all get healthier and more confident in ourselves

Get back in the gym and get a personal trainer. Your issue is that in the past the booty was all fat. Now you want it to be all muscle and that takes time and work. Squats, leg press, ham and quad work will make all the difference in the world. Weights at least 2x a week to tighten everything up and you'll be surprised how once you work the muscles things with "lift".

I can't speak to curves or anything like that, but I wanted to chime in address the myth that light weights/high reps will do anything other than increase endurance at light weight. I could type it all out again, but it's easier to just post a link to one of the infinite articles detailing why there is no such thing as "toning":
http://www.bodybuilding.com/content/the-myth-of-toning.html
So to your point though; if you are wanting thick legs and glutes, there is only one thing you can do. Squats. Barbell, Kettlebell, or Dumbell... take your pick. But that is the defacto exercise for building all of the glutes and legs:

Two things to point out in regards to that picture though. The high bar squat can only be done with very low weights or else you risk injury to the vertebra of the neck. You should have the bar on the traps, so if you aim for the low bar position in the beginning you will at least hit the correct high bar position or lower.
The second thing to point out is her face is pointing up and that is just begging for neck pain. Look down about 6-8 feet in front of you then drive the hips up and not forward. Common misconception.
Anyways, good luck developing the muscle/curves you want!

@outsidemachine that's awesome! Sucks that you have so many female haters. Women occassionally aproach me all the time to compliment me on something-- shoes, hair, makeup, whatever-- We boost each other, So thats unfortunate. I always got attention from the opposite sex its just a a little different these days... its cool though. Like you said the attention was always there but now getting a different caliber of men.
@@OKCPirate I guess It's like getting a brand new car-- need time to get used to it *new car smell*
I already know the grass aint greener so--not an issue.
@@TheCurvyJones I feel you. I guess it feels good to be viewed as more "normal".